Marriage with cousin

Asalamu Aleikum,

I often read about our pakistani brothers and sister marrying their cousins !
But I think Ive read an Hadith which stats that this is forbidden.

So my question: forbidden or not ?
And why has this become a tradition in Pakistan ?


THANKS
WASALAM
 

NAVEED

Junior Member
Ofcourse its not forbidden. The only relative you cannot marry are told by Allah SWT in surah Nisa ayat 23. Just be little careful in deciding what is halal and what is haram, and also advice your friend of the same. May Allah SWT forgive our sins. Ameen
 

huda2

Junior Member
Asalamu Aleikum,

I often read about our pakistani brothers and sister marrying their cousins !
But I think Ive read an Hadith which stats that this is forbidden.

So my question: forbidden or not ?
And why has this become a tradition in Pakistan ?


THANKS
WASALAM


:salam2:

I never heard cousins are forbidden fr marriage in Islam. Which hadith is that? the people u cant marry are those who are yr muhram,,,,,,,,unmarriagble to u. Its personal choice whether u want to marry yr cousin or not, and by the way its not only in pakistan. Its all in the most muslim countries.

:salam2:
 

Munawar

Striving for Paradise
:salam2:
Marriage with cousin is not forbidden in Islam. I could be wrong but I don't think it is officially forbidden in any religion.

Some people in India-Pakistan think that since it is not forbidden then it means it is recomended. Well... It is not recommended either, it is just allowed.
 
:salam2:

I never heard cousins are forbidden fr marriage in Islam. Which hadith is that? the people u cant marry are those who are yr muhram,,,,,,,,unmarriagble to u. Its personal choice whether u want to marry yr cousin or not, and by the way its not only in pakistan. Its all in the most muslim countries.

:salam2:

Im pretty sure Ive read it somwhere.
2nd LOL no, its not in all the muslim countries.
I mean look: They marry inside the family and now like 80% of the pakistanies have the same last name: Khan
I dont mean to be disrespectfull at all. I know I read it on some islamic site that its forbidden.
 

ShyHijabi

Junior Member
Salaam,
I don't know where you read it but it is incorrect. Furthermore marrying cousins is very common in the middle east, India, Pakistan, Afghanistan, etc., etc., It is not limited to Pakistanis.

Question:
Is it correct,that our Rusul , discouraged marrying cousins. You, see marrying cousins should be the last resort.
Jazakallah.

Answer:

Al-hamdu lillah (All praise be to Allah). There is no objection whatsoever in the Islamic religion for a man to marry any of his relatives except al-maharim (those forbidden for marriage) whom Allah mentioned in surat al-nisaa', 4:23 (interpretation of the meaning):

Prohibited to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, daughters, sisters; father's sisters, mother's sisters; brother's daughters, sister's daughters; foster-mothers (who breast-fed you), foster-sisters (who breast-fed from the same woman as you); your wives' mothers; your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives with whom you have consummated marriage, no prohibition if ye have not consummated; (those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Thus, when Allah mentioned for us the relatives to whom marriage is forbidden, we then come to know that there is no objection for the remainder of the family relations. Furthermore, there is no condition that it be the last resort as indicated in the question. Among the most prominent evidence of this fact is that the Prophet (peace be upon him) married his daughter Fatima to Ali (may Allah be pleased with them) and he is the son of her father's uncle, as well as the marriage of the Prophet himself to Zainab bint Jahsh (may Allah be please with her) and she is his aunt's daughter (i.e. his cousin); and there are many other such examples.

However, a different question may be asked, namely: "Is it better or preferable for a Muslim to marry someone he is not related to rather than a relative?"

The answer to this question varies from case to case, and perhaps it may be preferable to marry people who are non-relations, for example if one aspires to form new social ties or bonds, and regards the existence of a marriage relationship with a different family as constructive in widening the circle of social bonds.



Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=105&ln=eng&txt=marrying%20cousin
 

hassan usmani

New Member
:wasalam:
it is not forbidden 4 example
hazart ali r.z war married with the doughter of the prophrt hazar fatima r.z and both where family member before thier marrige.
in pakistan the is verly heppend beause every man and women wants to have a partner who can understan him.an other factor is that in pakistan people live in join family system and a unknown girl can not live with the rest of the family.if a person is married with is family member he whould be happy beause the chances of deceivtion should be less.
for more information see sura-e-nisa
 

BintMuhammad

New Member
Staff member
Assalamu alaikum,

Many arabs and even here in our place marries their cousin. That's totally Halaal. sis ShyHijabi Jazakallaahu Khayr for that.
 

MubarekMuslimah

Junior Member
Salaams,

Its actually legal to marry your cousin under British Law. Many English/British people dont and think its weird - but its allowed and 50 years ago was quite common too!

its not forbidden in Islam at all
 

zaid6236

Junior Member
:salam2: hello , did you realized something? when law of Allah is different in some countries this why all this happen. that is why Islam should be under one ruler only so it is easy to make the law and understand it. Look what our prophets do unite the people under Islam. Only one Islam no such thing as your own islam country. learn and think from history for all of us.:wasalam:
Asalamu Aleikum,

I often read about our pakistani brothers and sister marrying their cousins !
But I think Ive read an Hadith which stats that this is forbidden.

So my question: forbidden or not ?
And why has this become a tradition in Pakistan ?


THANKS
WASALAM
 

Southrn_Muslimah

bnqɯnɥ 'ɥɐq
:salam2:

Also in Lousiana you can marry your cousin, but not your first cousin. We have lots of issues with children being born with heart defects and all, but that is due to inbreeding(brothers and sisters) :( Mostly the cajun area of Louisiana. I used to help my mom at the camp she volunteered at for kids with heart defects. Most rewarding experience ever.

:wasalam:
 

alkathiri

As-Shafaa'i(Brother)
Assalamu alaikum,

Many arabs and even here in our place marries their cousin. That's totally Halaal. sis ShyHijabi Jazakallaahu Khayr for that.

I second that....
Let me guess are they yemenites
Are they really many yemenites in Philippines??
 

Al-Gharib

No Victor But Allah!
the funny thing is... it's frowned upon by people in western countries if you marry your cousin, yet it's perfectly OK to commit zina openly... in fact when a teen "scores"... he becomes a man in most western countries...
 

Al-Gharib

No Victor But Allah!
I second that....
Let me guess are they yemenites
Are they really many yemenites in Philippines??

there are Lebanese, Saudis etc... alot of arabs have a tradition of marrying cousins...

It's not forbidden to marry your cousin... however if it's your personal preference not to, that's a different thing...
 

Abu.Amirah

Junior Member
Assalamu aleikum,

Most have been said mashallah and here in africa(kenya) we do marry our cousins and even first cousins there is no harm in it. When people say that if you marry your cousins then you will get heart problems or any sickness thats just a lie. Allah is our creator and he is the one giving us all the sickness and good health.
Christians have that mentality that you cannot marry your cousins but in Quran Allah (s.w) already stated those whom ur not supposed to marry. Please when you read sumthing dont judge first till you make sure and find proof from Quran and the sunnah of the Prophet (s.a.w)

May Allah guide us all the right way!!
Saum maqbool to all inshallah!!! :tti_sister:
 

Undertaker

New Member
Im pretty sure Ive read it somwhere.
2nd LOL no, its not in all the muslim countries.
I mean look: They marry inside the family and now like 80% of the pakistanies have the same last name: Khan
I dont mean to be disrespectfull at all. I know I read it on some islamic site that its forbidden.
The perecentage of Pakistanis having last name Khan would hardly be more than 20%.Those who marry their cousins are also not more than 20%(pushtoons do it in large percentage but amongst others,its not a common practice).

Regarding Khan,its not a family name.Whoever is of Pushtoon origins has his last name as 'Khan'.And pushtoons don't make more than 20% of Pakistan's population.There are very few people other than Pushtoons who have last names Khan(but this Khan is pronounciated in a different way than the 'Khan" in the name of pushtoons & to know how this 2nd khan is pronounciated,you need to know Urdu which is the national language of Pakistan).

And about marrying cousins,its not forbidden in any religion except Hinduism.
 
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