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" A MIRROR REFLECTS A PERSON'S FACE............"
Have you heard the saying: "Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are?". Or the saying: "If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl", and "if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights?". These sayings indicate that the types of friends you have, often indicate the type of person you are. The Prophet Sall Allahu alaihi wa sallam adviced: "A person molds his way of life (his deen) according to his friends. So you should be careful about who you make your friend!" (reported by Ahmad)
A saying, was: "A mirror reflects a person's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad, therefore, always remember that keeping good company is essential" :
"And keep thy soul (yourself) content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Face (countenance); and let not thine eyes pass beyond them, seeking the pomp and glitter of this Life; nor obey any whose heart We have permitted to neglect the remembrance of Us, one who follows his own desires, and whose case has gone beyond all bounds." Surah Al Kahf 18: 28.
Think about it; almost all of our sorrows spring out of the relationships with the wrong people. Instead, "Keep out of the suction caused by those who drift backwards" (E.K.Piper).
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others it increases your mediocrity. A proverb confirms, "If you find yourself taking two steps forward and one step backwards, invariably it's because you have mixed associations in your life." If a loafer isn't a nuisance to you, it's a sign that you are somewhat of a loafer yourself. I have discovered that an important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.
A true friend is one who is there to care. They remain your friend even if you don't deserve to have a friend. They will see you through when others think you're through.
If you were to list your greatest benefits, resources or strengths, you would find that money is one of the least important ones while some of your greatest resources are the people you know. A true friend sees beyond you to what you can be.
Invest in good relationships. The way to make a true friend is to be one. Your wealth is where your friends are. Consider what Francesco Guicciardini said: "Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make the right ones."
As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb, will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
Prophet's
Advice: 'He Who Helps You Remember'
The Prophet (peace be upon him) has given similar advice in choosing companions and forming friendships. He was asked,
"What person can be the best friend?"
"He who helps you remember God, and he who reminds you when you forget Him," he replied.
Then the Prophet
saw was asked, "And which friend is the worst?" "He who does not help you when you remember God and does not remind you of God when you forget," he replied.
The Prophetsaw was further asked,"Who is the best among people?"
Hesaw replied, "He who when you look at him, you remember God" (because of his noble character, devotion to God, and concern for others).
These are the principles that should guide our friendships. Is this the criteria we use in our friendships today? Indeed, there is no blessing greater than a friend who helps us succeed in this life and reminds us about the real purpose in this life, only if we realized before it's too late! It can be very difficult to live up to these principles when we have people of the same age urging us on to be "part of the posse", and to be involved in forbidden, illegal, immoral, or haraam fun for "the pomp and glitter of this life".
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" A MIRROR REFLECTS A PERSON'S FACE............"
Have you heard the saying: "Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are?". Or the saying: "If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl", and "if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights?". These sayings indicate that the types of friends you have, often indicate the type of person you are. The Prophet Sall Allahu alaihi wa sallam adviced: "A person molds his way of life (his deen) according to his friends. So you should be careful about who you make your friend!" (reported by Ahmad)
A saying, was: "A mirror reflects a person's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad, therefore, always remember that keeping good company is essential" :
"And keep thy soul (yourself) content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Face (countenance); and let not thine eyes pass beyond them, seeking the pomp and glitter of this Life; nor obey any whose heart We have permitted to neglect the remembrance of Us, one who follows his own desires, and whose case has gone beyond all bounds." Surah Al Kahf 18: 28.
Think about it; almost all of our sorrows spring out of the relationships with the wrong people. Instead, "Keep out of the suction caused by those who drift backwards" (E.K.Piper).
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others it increases your mediocrity. A proverb confirms, "If you find yourself taking two steps forward and one step backwards, invariably it's because you have mixed associations in your life." If a loafer isn't a nuisance to you, it's a sign that you are somewhat of a loafer yourself. I have discovered that an important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.
A true friend is one who is there to care. They remain your friend even if you don't deserve to have a friend. They will see you through when others think you're through.
If you were to list your greatest benefits, resources or strengths, you would find that money is one of the least important ones while some of your greatest resources are the people you know. A true friend sees beyond you to what you can be.
Invest in good relationships. The way to make a true friend is to be one. Your wealth is where your friends are. Consider what Francesco Guicciardini said: "Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make the right ones."
As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb, will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
Prophet's
Advice: 'He Who Helps You Remember'The Prophet
(peace be upon him) has given similar advice in choosing companions and forming friendships. He was asked,"What person can be the best friend?"
"He who helps you remember God, and he who reminds you when you forget Him," he replied.
Then the Prophet
saw was asked, "And which friend is the worst?" "He who does not help you when you remember God and does not remind you of God when you forget," he replied.The Prophet
saw was further asked,"Who is the best among people?"He
saw replied, "He who when you look at him, you remember God" (because of his noble character, devotion to God, and concern for others).These are the principles that should guide our friendships. Is this the criteria we use in our friendships today? Indeed, there is no blessing greater than a friend who helps us succeed in this life and reminds us about the real purpose in this life, only if we realized before it's too late! It can be very difficult to live up to these principles when we have people of the same age urging us on to be "part of the posse", and to be involved in forbidden, illegal, immoral, or haraam fun for "the pomp and glitter of this life".
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Difference Between 'Friendship' & 'Acquaintance'
It should be pointed out that there is difference between a "friend" (someone with whom you can share your values, secrets, and trust), and "acquaintence" (someone to whom you should be nice and caring, but don't neccesarily share your values and principles with). Therefore, such Qur'anic verses should not be used to urge people to isolate themselves from society and hate the people around them who do not necessarily share the same beliefs and values they do.
In fact, we know from the life of the Prophet Muhammad (sall Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam) that this was never the case. The authentic biographies of the Prophet are replete with incidences and sayings encouraging Muslims to be kind, generous, and loving towards their neighbors and acquaintances, regardless of their ethnic, religious, or social background. Very often non-Muslim bedouins, neighbors, or travellers would benefit from the generosity and extraordinary concern of the Prophet towards them.
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Difference Between 'Friendship' & 'Acquaintance'
It should be pointed out that there is difference between a "friend" (someone with whom you can share your values, secrets, and trust), and "acquaintence" (someone to whom you should be nice and caring, but don't neccesarily share your values and principles with). Therefore, such Qur'anic verses should not be used to urge people to isolate themselves from society and hate the people around them who do not necessarily share the same beliefs and values they do.
In fact, we know from the life of the Prophet Muhammad (sall Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam) that this was never the case. The authentic biographies of the Prophet are replete with incidences and sayings encouraging Muslims to be kind, generous, and loving towards their neighbors and acquaintances, regardless of their ethnic, religious, or social background. Very often non-Muslim bedouins, neighbors, or travellers would benefit from the generosity and extraordinary concern of the Prophet towards them.
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Ahmad M. Al-Marshoud
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jazak Allah khayran brother
thanks for sharing
jazak Allah khayran brother
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" Can There be Love without Understanding Pain....."
Love: Belief in its Own Strength .....
" A chemist who can extract from his heart element,
compassion, respect, longing, patience,
regret, surprise and forgiveness
and compound them into one
can create that atom which is called love.'
-Kahlil Gibran
Love is the only true emotion left with us. Whether you love or are loved, depends upon whether you believe in this emotion and deserve it. Love is not just poems, letters, cards, and flowers…it goes much beyond that. Love is a bond, a relationship…
in fact, beyond relationships. It is an emotional reaction, and not a rational one. What is realized and decided after a long thought process, cannot be love. It can only be an arrangement or a rational decision. Love is a wonderful thing-you never have to take it away from one to give it to another. There is always more than enough to go around. However, it may not always result in happiness, togetherness, and fulfillment of expectations or contentment. You may not always get what you wanted, expected or believed; but what you do with what you get will really bring happiness for you.
So, what are the keys to this emotion? What are its indications? What are its implications? The answers to these questions are not universal…they require a personal insight or maybe a little thought.
The key to love is…realization.
Realization of this feeling differs from its demonstration. While as demonstration of love can be a total success or a miserable failure, love, in itself, never fails. Meaning thereby, if a person cannot express or exhibit this emotion, this does not deter him from realizing or experiencing it. This does not make him love any less. He experiences love, though no one witnesses that.
The key to love is…a belief in its own eternity.
As rightly said that true love doesn't care for the passing of time, for time cannot change the true meaning of love. Love is surpasses time or distance. Those who love beyond the world cannot be separated by it alone and death cannot kill what never dies. Thus, the tragedy of love is not death or separation but rather indifference. It is here that love dies its death; it is here that lives fall apart.
The key to love is…acceptance.
As wrongly believed, love is not blind. It does not ignore a person's character or faults. It sees through him or her, accepting the fact that no one is perfect. This emotion accepts the imperfection of the other person as well as one's own –knowing that true love is self-discovery, with and for that person.
The key to love is…understanding.
Without this pillar, love has no survival value. Love alone is not enough for the success of a relationship. Rather, love alone fails to save a relationship without the essential element of understanding. It is this understanding that allows people to compromise and forgive willingly.
The key to love is…giving without the thought of return.
But giving, with the hope of just a simple smile or appreciation. And this love makes a person to giving-in but never give-up. It is this virtue that makes love unselfish.
The key to love is…compromise.
Compromise in a relationship is required on things immaterial and superfluous to love, for this adds longevity and strength to this emotion. However, it demands no compromise in terms of respect, concern, and responsibility. Love should never turn into charity or pity.
The key to love is…trust.
Trust that the other person will live with and for you. This absolute trust lets people to set the other person free, with the belief that with separation there will always be a return.
The key to love is…a belief in its own strength.
Love has to be so strong that, with and for the other person, you can endure all hardships, sorrow, pain, poverty, and death. Love is the only thing as strong as truth itself. To quote Ayn Rand, 'There is no affirmation without the one who affirms. In a sense, everything to which you grant your love is yours.' This depicts the power that love grants on all its believers and worshippers.
The key to love is…forgiveness.
This ability makes people to accept each other's faults and pardon mistakes, without forgetting what you learn from them. Forgiveness is not to be misunderstood for weakness or helplessness, but rather as the virtue which love bestows on people. This quality in a person is not to be taken for granted but rather appreciated and treasured.
The key to love is inside us all. It takes time and patience to explore and unlock all the ingredients- compassion, respect, longing, understanding, patience, regret, belief, trust, compromise, and forgiveness- that will take you to its threshold. It is a continual learning process that demands a lot of work; but the rewards are more than worth the effort. And even if there is no reward, the experience is worth the effort.
So what really is love? At different stages of our lives the signs of love may vary- dependence during childhood; likeness during youth; friendship during teenage; attraction during adolescence; affection during adulthood; worry and loyalty during middle age; contentment and loneliness during old age. Whatever be the signs and its manifestations, at heart, the source is always the same. The emotion is just as strong and pure, its targets differ. All said and done, it still seems that love is beyond our ability to understand. Words are too petty to express what love is or how it works magic…You don't have to be a genius to know that love is impossible to understand.
To quote Kahlil Gibran,
'And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth
until the hour of separation.'
" Can There be Love without Understanding Pain....."
Love: Belief in its Own Strength .....
" A chemist who can extract from his heart element,
compassion, respect, longing, patience,
regret, surprise and forgiveness
and compound them into one
can create that atom which is called love.'
-Kahlil Gibran
Love is the only true emotion left with us. Whether you love or are loved, depends upon whether you believe in this emotion and deserve it. Love is not just poems, letters, cards, and flowers…it goes much beyond that. Love is a bond, a relationship…
in fact, beyond relationships. It is an emotional reaction, and not a rational one. What is realized and decided after a long thought process, cannot be love. It can only be an arrangement or a rational decision. Love is a wonderful thing-you never have to take it away from one to give it to another. There is always more than enough to go around. However, it may not always result in happiness, togetherness, and fulfillment of expectations or contentment. You may not always get what you wanted, expected or believed; but what you do with what you get will really bring happiness for you.
So, what are the keys to this emotion? What are its indications? What are its implications? The answers to these questions are not universal…they require a personal insight or maybe a little thought.
The key to love is…realization.
Realization of this feeling differs from its demonstration. While as demonstration of love can be a total success or a miserable failure, love, in itself, never fails. Meaning thereby, if a person cannot express or exhibit this emotion, this does not deter him from realizing or experiencing it. This does not make him love any less. He experiences love, though no one witnesses that.
The key to love is…a belief in its own eternity.
As rightly said that true love doesn't care for the passing of time, for time cannot change the true meaning of love. Love is surpasses time or distance. Those who love beyond the world cannot be separated by it alone and death cannot kill what never dies. Thus, the tragedy of love is not death or separation but rather indifference. It is here that love dies its death; it is here that lives fall apart.
The key to love is…acceptance.
As wrongly believed, love is not blind. It does not ignore a person's character or faults. It sees through him or her, accepting the fact that no one is perfect. This emotion accepts the imperfection of the other person as well as one's own –knowing that true love is self-discovery, with and for that person.
The key to love is…understanding.
Without this pillar, love has no survival value. Love alone is not enough for the success of a relationship. Rather, love alone fails to save a relationship without the essential element of understanding. It is this understanding that allows people to compromise and forgive willingly.
The key to love is…giving without the thought of return.
But giving, with the hope of just a simple smile or appreciation. And this love makes a person to giving-in but never give-up. It is this virtue that makes love unselfish.
The key to love is…compromise.
Compromise in a relationship is required on things immaterial and superfluous to love, for this adds longevity and strength to this emotion. However, it demands no compromise in terms of respect, concern, and responsibility. Love should never turn into charity or pity.
The key to love is…trust.
Trust that the other person will live with and for you. This absolute trust lets people to set the other person free, with the belief that with separation there will always be a return.
The key to love is…a belief in its own strength.
Love has to be so strong that, with and for the other person, you can endure all hardships, sorrow, pain, poverty, and death. Love is the only thing as strong as truth itself. To quote Ayn Rand, 'There is no affirmation without the one who affirms. In a sense, everything to which you grant your love is yours.' This depicts the power that love grants on all its believers and worshippers.
The key to love is…forgiveness.
This ability makes people to accept each other's faults and pardon mistakes, without forgetting what you learn from them. Forgiveness is not to be misunderstood for weakness or helplessness, but rather as the virtue which love bestows on people. This quality in a person is not to be taken for granted but rather appreciated and treasured.
The key to love is inside us all. It takes time and patience to explore and unlock all the ingredients- compassion, respect, longing, understanding, patience, regret, belief, trust, compromise, and forgiveness- that will take you to its threshold. It is a continual learning process that demands a lot of work; but the rewards are more than worth the effort. And even if there is no reward, the experience is worth the effort.
So what really is love? At different stages of our lives the signs of love may vary- dependence during childhood; likeness during youth; friendship during teenage; attraction during adolescence; affection during adulthood; worry and loyalty during middle age; contentment and loneliness during old age. Whatever be the signs and its manifestations, at heart, the source is always the same. The emotion is just as strong and pure, its targets differ. All said and done, it still seems that love is beyond our ability to understand. Words are too petty to express what love is or how it works magic…You don't have to be a genius to know that love is impossible to understand.
To quote Kahlil Gibran,
'And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth
until the hour of separation.'