LOVE!

[IHearIslam]

Salams,

As you know we all live in a world where there is alot contact between the opposite sex. I go to Highschool and it's public; you know that there is team work and partnership. It's very hard to lower the gaze espcially when almost all of the kids that go there are non-muslims. This is my last year, but I will go to college which is alot more worse. I was just wondering if I fall in love in the middle of the road (love is unavoidable) what is one thing that I can do to make sure that I don't do something that makes Allah angry. I know there is no dating in Islam but how can two people get to know each other better? What do I say to someone who says "I love you?"

 

[baabulrayaan]

mashaallah

:salam2: :ma: ukhtyallah you asked my question that I always wondering and I didn't ask any body. I hope we will get the answers from our bro & sis of akhira inshaaallah.

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:
The only allowed love affair in islam is through marriage .....in Islam one should lower gaze and never try to come near nonelegale relation ......i suggest that you put taqwa in your heart and fear Allah , try to marry a good partner if you can .......as long as you struggle and fight evil thoughts you are close to Allah and rewarded inshaAllah, Never follow your desires but obey your creator , you will win.

 

[saffanah]

Sister, lower your gaze and you will find the sweetness of iman (faith)
what if he say "I love you" ? (and you fell in love with him), then ask him to marry you because this the best solution

 

[majaan]

asalamualikum sis.
all i can tell you is that mashallah you seem very wise and you already know what is wrong and what is right. the fact that you are concern about this issue from now, is quite good since you can build on your self and make ur self ready to face these challenges.

college is not all that bad, it all depends on you. find your self practising sisters in college and hang around with them and this way you are avoiding mixing with guys and also if a guy see you dnt socialise with guys, they would find it difficult to even talk to you let alone saying he loves you etc etc.

as for controling your nafs, try ur best to lower your gaze and dnt forget if your finding it difficult to keep those gaze low and you are still trying, Allah knows that too, and the more you struggle for his sake the more you will become beloved to him inshallah.

if its a practising brother he would not express his feeling like this and he would get your wali's detail and follow the sunnah...i personally think this indicates alot about the brother's akhlaaq and manner. so dnt worry but lets assume that he said and if ur seriouse about it then ask him to speak with ur wali and not you, but if you already dnt want to consider him, just say you are not intrested, khalas. you are not giving him any hope and plus ur putting a strong point across, that i am not intrested.

one last thing i must tell you sis, is that anything you are doiing in this dounya no matter if its liking some one or what so ever, if its not for the sake of Allah there trust me sis, there is no real pleasure in to it and it wont last for long. dont love anyone but Allah, dont trust any one but Allah. dont rely on no one but Allah. and if you dnt then one day god forbidden you will find your self in a very bad position and it will be hard for you to forgive your self even.

i make dua that inshallah things will go smoothly for you in college and may allah protect you from the fitna inshallah.

 

[Muslim-life]

I want to tell my story sister...
I love a guy, i have never really seen him.. or talked to him face to face..
but I'm inlove in his personality.. his way to be with his parents...
one day he sent me a mail.. after that his sisters husband had died...(of cancer- really good man) i wrote with him I think 3 times.. and then i decided to stop it, because it was not what i want..
I told him that we should stop! and that i knew it was'nt a thing my parent would be happy for.. AND OFCOURSE NOT ALLAH!!

Now I don't write with him anymore.. our families knows each others.. because that its not difficult for him to tale the way from the "door".. and not the "window"

i'M soo proud of myself that i could say STOP.. and i feel Allah is glad for me too... alhmdulilah...

As I know it isn't haram to love someone but in the right way. (after Gods laws)

so i'm sure U can stop him--- and i'll promise u, that he will respect u whole ur life.. and know what u r worth

May ALLAH guide us all ameen....

 

[Muslim-life]

just want to say- if i'm wrong please correct me.. maybe i'm not the best example
:O

 

[kubra_2002]

salaam

:salam2: brothers and sisters, sis may Allah make things easy for all of us, especially for the shababs when it come to this issues. and I Just wanna make a comment on what sister Majan said "dont love anyone but Allah, dont trust any one but Allah. dont rely on no one but Allah. and if you dnt then one day god forbidden you will find your self in a very bad position and it will be hard for you to forgive your self even. this very true

 

[IHearIslam]

Jazaka Allah Khair everyone, Walhi all of you are good help and I feel like there are people who understand. It's very hard to let older people know your concerns especially if it is about LOVE but you guys just helped me and Insha Allah I will try to lower my gaze

 

[IHearIslam]

...Allah knows that too, and the more you struggle for his sake the more you will become beloved to him inshallah. Thank you sister this made me feel good. May Allah reward you for every good deed and may Allah forgive your sins. the same goes for all of us insha Allah. Ameen

 

[TheKnowledgeSeeker]

Assalamu Alaykum,

I think you will do an amazing job in college because you are preparing for it. Sister Muslim-Life showed an example of one way a good Muslims girl could fall in love. Often a Muslim will fall in love because of a person's action and personality not looks or the talks. Because our religion taught us better by telling us to lower our gaze. Hold on tie to the rope of faith and trust in Allah SWT and the road will be clearer than the blue sky.

 

[nirmal]

guide

Allah wants his lovers to love those who are lovers of allah so firstly understand the love