Praise be to Allah (The Glorified and Exalted).
A Muslim is one who should think with far-sightedness, meaning before he engages in any activity, he should contemplate the consequences.
When a Muslim man wants to get married, he should have his mind set on marrying a pious Muslim woman. The reality is, that one can find numerous human beings with the same physical traits, personality, and habits. The Muslim man should not allow his heart to be overcome with feelings of infatuation for a particular woman, thereby forgetting about the limits set by Allah (The Glorified and Exalted), simply because he is chasing to marry one individual, regardless of her religiosity. When one opportunity passes the Muslim, he should have patience and trust in Allah (The Glorified) that another opportunity to marry someone better will come his way.
Therefore, the Muslim man should be careful to not allow his heart to be overridden with feelings of "love" that is nothing more than lust and infatuation. The following should be considered in a Muslim woman: 1) She should wear the appropriate covering, 2) pray all daily prayers and fulfill other religious obligations, 3) It is best for her to stay within the home instead of employing herself outside the home, especially when the children are very young (some may oppose this idea, but the reality is that an ideal situation in which a woman can work, fulfill her religious obligations, and raise "perfect" children is nothing more than the fantasy of an idealist; most of those families become irreligious, dysfunctional, and the children end up resenting their mother and acting disobediently). 4) The man is permitted to look at the face of a woman before deciding to marry, and it is best if he is decently attracted to her (if he cannot find a woman he is overly attracted to, then let him have patience and simply marry a decent woman, and accept the fact that all persons in Heaven will possess bodily perfection).
In order to get married take the following steps:
1) You may attend a masjid (mosque) frequently, until you are known by the other brothers, and then ask the Imam or other brothers if there is anyone single looking for marriage in the community. If the Imam speaks English well, it is best to ask him, to ask the sisters privately (such as through his wife, etc) if there any women looking for marriage around your specified age.
2) You may go to a decent Muslim marriage site, such as "half our deen" (there is also another website by an Imam advertised on the following website:
http://thedeenshow.com/show.php?action=detail&id=1167) and stay away from sites that openly post the pictures of women and allow men and women to openly communicate.
3) A Muslim man can then meet a woman in the presence of her guardian and speak to her in his presence. The guardian may include the father, brother, uncle, or the local Imam. The guardian is the one that will give the woman away to the man during the signing of the marriage contract.
*Note: In some cultures, the father prefers his daughter to marry another man from the same race and culture. This is the situation with the majority of Pakistanis and Arabs, therefore it is best to stay away from women from families you consider to think this way, because it may end up destroying the woman's family kinship. It is best to simply find another wife, don't give yourself a headache trying to deal with these type of families.
And Allah (The Glorified and Exalted) Knows Best.
