Just 3 questions

raihana

Junior Member
:salam2:
sisters and brothers .Hope you are in best of health insha Allah.
I just thought of sharing this story to all. this is actually an email I received.


Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasized for him to get married. They had seen many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.

However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say 'she's not the one!'

The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing. (which was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious, and practicing.

On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk, and ask each other questions. (as one would expect).

The young man being a gentleman that he was, allowed the lady to ask first.

The young girl asked the young man soooo many questions... She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his past times, his experiences, his shoe size.. lol. basically everything.

And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring, and politely, with a smile the young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour, and felt bad, and asked the young man, ‘do you have any questions?’

The young man said, ‘it's ok. I only have 3 questions...’

the young girl thought, ‘wow, only 3 questions okay... shoot.’

The young man's first question was,
1) Who do you love the most in the world, someone whose love nothing would ever overcome?

She said, ‘this is an easy question. My mother.’


He smiled.

Second question, he asked,


2) You said that you read a lot of qur'an, could you tell me which surahs you know the meaning of?


Hearing this she turned red and embarrassed and said, ‘I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon inshallah... i’ve just been a bit busy.’

The third question the young man asked, was

3) I have been approached for my hand in marriage by girls that are a lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you?

Hearing this, the young girl was outraged! She stormed off to her parents with fury, and said she would never marry this man because he was insulting her beauty, and intelligence.

The young man and his parents were once again, left without an agreement of marriage.

This time, the mans’ parents were really angry, and said what did you do to anger that girl, the family were so nice, and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted!! what did you ask the girl?? tell us!

The young man said, “Firstly, I asked her, who do you love the most? She said, her mother.”

The parents said “So!! What’s wrong with that??

The young man said, 'No one is Muslim, until he loves Allah, and his messenger(saw) more than anyone else in the world'

If a woman loves Allah and the prophet(pbuh) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me, and stay faithful to me, because of that love, and fear for Allah (swt). And we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.

The young man said, Then I asked, ‘you read a lot of qur'an, can you tell me the meaning of any surah?’

And she said no. because she hasn’t had time yet.
so I thought of that saying 'ALL humans, are dead except for those who have knowledge'

She has lived 20 years and not found ANY time, to seek knowledge, why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights and responsibilities, and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman IS the madrasa (school) and the best of teachers.

And a woman who has no time for Allah, will not have time for her husband.

The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls who were more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, so then why should I choose her?

That is why she stormed off, getting angry.

The young man's parents said “That’s such a horrible thing to say, why would you do such a thing, we’re all going back to their house to apologise!”

The young man said “I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.

The prophet(saw) said 'do not get angry, do not get angry, do not angry' when asked how to become pious - because anger is from Satan.

If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she has just met, do you think she will be able to control it with her husband??”

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So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on,
knowledge, not looks,
practice, not preaching,
forgiveness, not anger,
spiritual love, not lust.
and compromise.

One should look for a person who
1) Has love for Allah (swt) and the messenger (saw)
2) Has knowledge of the deen, and can act upon it.
3) can control their anger
and another important and crucial factor. that he or she be
4) willing to compromise.

and it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
 

mahussain3

Son of Aa'ishah(R.A)
Jazak-Allahu Khairan dear for such a nice story,

Infact I'm in need of it,coz i am going to search 1 soon ;) lol!!!
Pray for me :)
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
i would probably do the same thing that girl did, cause it's hard to control your anger, but IT'S NOT IMPOSSIBLE.
wasalamu alaikum and a great thread mashaAllah, great morals behind the story. i truly wish to attain those characters.
 

raihana

Junior Member
i would probably do the same thing that girl did, cause it's hard to control your anger, but IT'S NOT IMPOSSIBLE.
wasalamu alaikum and a great thread mashaAllah, great morals behind the story. i truly wish to attain those characters.



:salam2:

May Allah make you a great woman in Islam, and may he help u with ur wishes and may he give his flowing blessings sister
.
love u for the sake of Allah sis
 

SwordofAllah16

Heros of Islam
:salam2:

YALLAH!!!! GUESS WAT YOU KNOW WHEN I WENT TO SPEAK ABOUT MY MARRIAGE SHE ASKED ME THE EXACT SAME QUESTIONS...I CAN'T BELEIVE THIS LOL THIS IS SOOOOO FUNNY NOW I KNOW WHERE SHE GOT THOSE QUESTIONS FROM!!! HER MAILBOX!!!!! HAHAHA

I CAN'T WAIT TO LAUGH AT HER WHEN I DO GET MARRIED...JUST TO CLEAR ANY DOUBTS IM NOT INVOLVED WITH ANYONE...ITS STILL IN THE PROCESS SO MAKE DU'A

WA INNI AKHAFULLAH!
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
:salam2:

YALLAH!!!! GUESS WAT YOU KNOW WHEN I WENT TO SPEAK ABOUT MY MARRIAGE SHE ASKED ME THE EXACT SAME QUESTIONS...I CAN'T BELEIVE THIS LOL THIS IS SOOOOO FUNNY NOW I KNOW WHERE SHE GOT THOSE QUESTIONS FROM!!! HER MAILBOX!!!!! HAHAHA

I CAN'T WAIT TO LAUGH AT HER WHEN I DO GET MARRIED...JUST TO CLEAR ANY DOUBTS IM NOT INVOLVED WITH ANYONE...ITS STILL IN THE PROCESS SO MAKE DU'A

WA INNI AKHAFULLAH!

Lol. that is hilarious. but i'm guessing she was probably extremely nervous and searched for some questions to ask. lol. mashAllah, smart sister. Well now i wont use those questions, cause just like you the person may find out. lol. i've got nothing right now but i'm justing about the future inshAllah. congrats and may Allah swt instill love in both of your hearts for each other and for the deen of Allah.
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
:salam2:

May Allah make you a great woman in Islam, and may he help u with ur wishes and may he give his flowing blessings sister
.
love u for the sake of Allah sis

ameen to your duas ukhti, and i wish for you the best of lives and may Allah swt make you among the most pious women. jazakAllahu khayran ukhti and may He whose sake you love me for love you as well. ameen.
wasalamu alaikum.
ps- i love you for Allah's sake and your words are very heartwarming
 
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