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Which sin were the most difficult to give up? Please share your stories about how you're doing and how you gave them up.
The hardest thing I've given up was dating. An interesting story. I heard in school before I became a Muslim that Muslims can't date. Right then and there I said "I am NOT converting to Islam". However, a couple of weeks later, I did. I was reminded of the whole dating issue, and I tried ignoring it as much as possible.
I was unsuccessful. First, I open the Qur'an to random passages and I read verses that say things such as "And those who, when they are reminded of the Ayat of their Lord, fall not deaf and blind thereat" (Surah al-Furqan, Ayat 73 (25:73)).
Afterwards, I continuously see dating issues everywhere! "Is dating allowed?" and all that stuff. Even on this site!
I learned about Istikharah (prayer of guidance), and I prayed it concerning not the real issue on my mind, but concerning music. I got the answer to BOTH issues (even though I prayed for one for I didn't want to know the answer for dating). "Be careful of what isn't clear (I.E. you don't know if it is Haraam or Halal) lest ye fall into sin" was the answer I got for music. For dating, I just got a flat out "dating is Haraam". Of course, I didn't have a vision or anything, but it's how Allah talks to non-Prophets, you have a strong feeling in your heart and you know you'd never say such a thing and that you couldn't say it.
So yes, I cried. I didn't want it to be. Eventually, I prayed that I had "submitted" (yeah right) and I got back to flirting. This happened 3 times until Janruary 2nd of this year. Alhamdulillah, I finally gave it up for good. I lost it a couple of weeks ago when I was about to do it when (by Allah's Mercy) the girl walked away. Bittersweet.
Sometimes, I'm shaking as a person who smokes but hasn't had a cigarrette for weeks (though not as severe) but I get over it.
It was a long story. Share your stories!
Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem
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The hardest thing I've given up was dating. An interesting story. I heard in school before I became a Muslim that Muslims can't date. Right then and there I said "I am NOT converting to Islam". However, a couple of weeks later, I did. I was reminded of the whole dating issue, and I tried ignoring it as much as possible.
I was unsuccessful. First, I open the Qur'an to random passages and I read verses that say things such as "And those who, when they are reminded of the Ayat of their Lord, fall not deaf and blind thereat" (Surah al-Furqan, Ayat 73 (25:73)).
Afterwards, I continuously see dating issues everywhere! "Is dating allowed?" and all that stuff. Even on this site!
I learned about Istikharah (prayer of guidance), and I prayed it concerning not the real issue on my mind, but concerning music. I got the answer to BOTH issues (even though I prayed for one for I didn't want to know the answer for dating). "Be careful of what isn't clear (I.E. you don't know if it is Haraam or Halal) lest ye fall into sin" was the answer I got for music. For dating, I just got a flat out "dating is Haraam". Of course, I didn't have a vision or anything, but it's how Allah talks to non-Prophets, you have a strong feeling in your heart and you know you'd never say such a thing and that you couldn't say it.
So yes, I cried. I didn't want it to be. Eventually, I prayed that I had "submitted" (yeah right) and I got back to flirting. This happened 3 times until Janruary 2nd of this year. Alhamdulillah, I finally gave it up for good. I lost it a couple of weeks ago when I was about to do it when (by Allah's Mercy) the girl walked away. Bittersweet.
Sometimes, I'm shaking as a person who smokes but hasn't had a cigarrette for weeks (though not as severe) but I get over it.
It was a long story. Share your stories!