true beauty is in the inside. whats in the inside is what counts.
if she is a very good, trusting, follows religion, dress's appropriatly, is very nice person, great personality, then she has nothing to worry about.
allah does take things from people but also he gives them what others find hard to get. tell her to look deep deep down in her heart, use evidence from positive comments made to her in the pass and in the current days, try to figure out what that extra thing allah gave her. there has to be something.
i recently read this story and it made me cry because some people dont accept what allah gave them not knowing what some of us have is tressure against those who dont have it. eg: health.
It is a story of a person from Bahrain named Ibrahim Nasser. He has been paralyzed completely since birth and can only move his head and fingers. Even his breathing is done with the help of instruments. i saw pictures of him and cried. if you give me your email address, i can email it. a friend of mine sent it to me last week. anyway,
It was the wish of this young man to meet sheik Nabeel Al-Awdi. So Ibrahim's father spoke the sheik on the phone in order to arrange a visit to Ibrahim.
Ibrahim was very happy to see sheik Nabeel open the door to his room. in the photos i could see his happiness from his expression as he is unable to speak.
And a kiss on the for head for Ibrahim. Thus sheik Nabeel and Ibrahim started talking about da'wa on the internet and the striving it requires.
They also exchanged some stories. And during their conversation sheik Nabeel asked Ibrahim a question. A question that made Ibrahim weep... and tears rolled down Ibrahim's cheek. Ibrahim couldn't help but weep when he remembered some painful memories. sheik Nabeel wipes the tears from Ibrahim's face. Do you know what question it was that made Ibrahim weep?
The sheik asked: Oh Ibrahim.. if Allah had given you health.. what would you have done?
And thus Ibrahim wept bitterly and he made the sheik, his father, his uncle and everyone in the room weep.. even the camera man wept
And his answer was: By Allah I would have performed my salah (prayer) in the masjid (mosque) with joy.. I would have used the favor of health in everything that would please Allah Subhanehu we Ta'ala
Dear brothers and sisters Allah has favored us with agility and health
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in mentioning this story, tell your friend, if she saw Ibrahim, she would cry and she would not consider her self ugly and she will never listen to any guys who say this to her. she should have faith, live life the way allah put us in it, accept our looks, accept our health, accept our test / trials, thank allah for it all no matter how bad it is. seek help and opinions but make sure you take them not just continue staying negative. always think positive. i know so many people that are ugly from school, this is what i thought of them when i was a kid, im sure we all thought someone was ugly in a way, but we didnt speak about it. well you know what, in 2 weeks, 3 of those ugly girls i saw at school, i found out they are married and have kids or one child. and you know what, they look beautiful. you know why, marriage makes you look beautiful too. they are happy so happy with their lives. i can see why this is:
im sure they felt the same, but they were positive and positive and never thought negative or listened to anyone. i remember one of the sisters crying and didnt come to school for a whole week, me and my best friend knocked on her house and spoke to her and she came back and we helped her not to listen to anyone. she became positive.
sister, its all about what we accept, we we regect, the opinons given to us and wheather we take them or not, this is really all that makes up and part of a beauty in the heart of a person.
constantly smile, accept life, live it with faith, live it for allah, allah knows if she will marry or not, not her, so let it come easy and not in a hurry or in a negative way, this wont make her marriage happy. let her focus on the religion, on her plans in life, work, families etc, appreciate everything around her, when the right guy is sent to her from allah, she is positive, happy, not scared, beautiful, and he will love this from her.
We judge oursleves by the evidence. she was probably told she was ugly in the past and still believes it. she needs to mix with more people and people who will give her an opinion she can trust. she needs solid evidence that she is not ugly. I doubt very much that she is. Also look at people reactions to her - really ugly people and people look away. If you can get eye contact - stop worrying. :blackhijab:
im sure she is a beautiful person, inside and outside, she just needs to be told that by her loved ones. men these days, some are very ignorant and expect to marry a beautiful girl, well they should go to a modeling agent and find a modle because islam marriage is not all about marrying a beautiful person.
plus, if these guys tell her she is ugly, she is getting hassanat, i also wonder how ugly they are themselves. tell her to walk around at a shopping center on her own for just 5 minutes, look around at all the men and ladies, im sure she will find her self beautiful against them, if not, at least she will see there are alot of not good looking people around, alot, too much, but they are still beautiful in the inside.
always seek help and make dua to allah, not to change her looks but for people to see the true beauty of her and for her to see it herself and for her to be positive and not worry.
salam. i really hope ii didnt say anything wrong, forgive me everyone if i did. i take it back.
