Problem with Father

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dutch2011

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Aslamalikom,

I'm a Dutch Muslim, I've got a problem with my father and I don't talk to him since last 2 months in the meantime he also doesn't and we live far away from each other. It worth's mentioning that he has bad attitudes (drinking, going to casino and etc) and I asked him as long as he has these attitudes, I won’t talk to him. I want to know whether what I do is permissible in Islam or not ?
Thank you for answering me in advance.
 
OsMaN_93

OsMaN_93

Here to help
It is not permissible, why don't you help him overcome these habits?

Allah says: "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran 17: 23,24)

Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:
"God's pleasure is in the pleasure of the father, and God's displeasure is in the displeasure of the father."
"If a person looks with love at his parents, God writes in his favor the reward equal to the performance of one Hajj."

Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (A.S.), the great-great-grandson of the Prophet Muhammad is reported to have quoted Imam 'Ali (A.S.) that, "disobedience to parents is a major sin." He also stated that, "if a person looks at the face of his or her parents with wrathful eyes, despite the fact that injustice was done to him or her by the parents, his or her salah (prayer) will not be accepted by God."

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wasalam alikom
 
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esperanza

revert of many years
salam brother'
as has been quoted above..we must always treat our parents with kindness unless they try to turn us against our religion
my father also drinks goes to casinos gambles and has no religion,,,,but he is still my father,,,he lives far from me so im not able to see him much...but icould never stop talikng to him..as the brother said,,maybe you could try to help him in some way
 
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dutch2011

New Member
Salaam Alikom, I really appreciate your quick responses on the matter. I got my answer and will start talking to my father Enshallah.

Thank you once again.
 
queenislam

queenislam

★★★I LOVE ALLAH★★★
dutch2011 said:
Salaam Alikom, I really appreciate your quick responses on the matter. I got my answer and will start talking to my father Enshallah.

Thank you once again.
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Excellent!
Whatever it is
he is still you father.

~May Allah swt help and guide you~Amin!

Take care,
~Wassalam :)
 
Hard Rock Moslem

Hard Rock Moslem

I'm your brother
No, it is not permissible.

Do you remember when you were small kid? Your parents scold you, maybe they slapped you? Do you keep in your heart?

I realise that now. I do scold my children, they will sulk but they forget it very quickly. Next thing they will come and hug me again as though nothing have happen.

We, as sons or daughters to our parents must behave like we are still small kids to them. Let them be whatever, we shall remain like their babies.

Go and hug your father, ask for his forgiveness and dawah him slowly.
 
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