Asalaamu alaikum -
I've befriended a brother at the masjid who took shahadah about two and a half months ago. One of the other brothers who I've known and respected for a while sent me a text message about two weeks ago asking if I knew anyone who was looking to rent a room, as his roommate has just recently moved out without much notice. I thought it was great timing, because just two days before the new brother also txt me asking if I knew of any brother who was renting a room, as his current landlady was having a problem with his embracing Islam. So I introduced the two and they hit it off. New brother moved in with other brother on Feb 1 (today).
That's when we realized our mistake.
"Old" brother (he's actually in his early 20s) apparently smokes, drinks, goes to the clubs, and has a live-in girlfriend who has a child (not his). I remember once he asked me to drive him to school; I commented that he smelled like an ashtray. His reply "Oh yeah my roommate smokes". No he didn't. His roommate was pious and followed the Qur'an and sunnah. The smoker was he himself. And now we know why the roommate moved out. Apparently he was so miserable he brought it up to the shaykh.
Now because of my recommendation this new brother who hasn't been Muslim for even 3 months is living with someone I referred him to, who told him (quoted from the new bro) "I smoke, drink, and go to clubs so don't look to me to be a role model". I feel so bad. I've known the other bro - the born Muslim - for three years, as long as I've been Muslim, and I never knew what was going on behind closed doors. I feel like confronting the born brother but the new brother said "PLEASE DON'T!". So now this bro has to be subjected to this other brother's behavior and live in a house with a brother who is committing zina.
I feel so bad!
I've befriended a brother at the masjid who took shahadah about two and a half months ago. One of the other brothers who I've known and respected for a while sent me a text message about two weeks ago asking if I knew anyone who was looking to rent a room, as his roommate has just recently moved out without much notice. I thought it was great timing, because just two days before the new brother also txt me asking if I knew of any brother who was renting a room, as his current landlady was having a problem with his embracing Islam. So I introduced the two and they hit it off. New brother moved in with other brother on Feb 1 (today).
That's when we realized our mistake.
"Old" brother (he's actually in his early 20s) apparently smokes, drinks, goes to the clubs, and has a live-in girlfriend who has a child (not his). I remember once he asked me to drive him to school; I commented that he smelled like an ashtray. His reply "Oh yeah my roommate smokes". No he didn't. His roommate was pious and followed the Qur'an and sunnah. The smoker was he himself. And now we know why the roommate moved out. Apparently he was so miserable he brought it up to the shaykh.
Now because of my recommendation this new brother who hasn't been Muslim for even 3 months is living with someone I referred him to, who told him (quoted from the new bro) "I smoke, drink, and go to clubs so don't look to me to be a role model". I feel so bad. I've known the other bro - the born Muslim - for three years, as long as I've been Muslim, and I never knew what was going on behind closed doors. I feel like confronting the born brother but the new brother said "PLEASE DON'T!". So now this bro has to be subjected to this other brother's behavior and live in a house with a brother who is committing zina.
I feel so bad!
