Sidra Rasib
MUSLiiM PRiiNCESS
:salam2: Sisters & Brothers,
Choosing someone to stick with for the rest of your life is actually a hard thing do. Hopefully through this post I can help my sisters to get an idea of what they should look out for (inshallah)
Fist of all, let me start with this verse from the Quran:
"do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner" (Quran 2:232)
Getting married is a very hard thing as it requires commitment, loyalty, honesty, trust, love, respect etc in order to gain these you need to know the other person. The satan will try his very best to break your relationship up into peaces. If you do not have a say in your marriage, it would be more easier for the satan to play with your mind and eventually lead to divorce. The only halal thing that is disliked by Allah (swt) is divorce "Among all the permitted acts, divorce is the most hateful to God". This is just to state that force marriages aren't the way to happiness, however some people (alhamdulilah) get along perfectly well together.
What you should look in a man:
I would say the first thing you should look for in your future partner should be if they have deen, this applies to both men and women to be honest. If the person has deen then they will love you for the sake of Allah and if this is so then inshallah Allah will bestow his blessing upon you.
If I was to search for a husband, I would look at how he carries himself for example if he wears appropriate clothes (no sagging), how he walks (no limping), how he talks and how he is towards people.
Do not choose a man because he has beauty on the outside, rather choose a man who is beautiful from the inside and Allah will make him appear beautiful from the outside inshallah. A man who has wealth may use it for the right reasons but some do not, so remember money can not buy happiness and love.
Marry a man who is wise in character, firm in belief, yearns jannah, has thirst for knowledge of Islam, has respect for his parents and inshallah he will be good to you
Obviously when you get married to someone, you both are to change your lifestyle to fit into each others. Making changes to ourselves for the better for our 'married future' would benefit both the man and woman. This allows the couple to accept changes and helps to keep away from arguments
Hope this has helped (inshallah)
Feel free to add more things that could help inshallah
May Allah help us succeed in our attempt of a perfect marriage (Ameen)
And lastly the best thing that I can advice both a man and a woman regarding this, is to find a man who is trying his very best to be like our beloved prophet (saw) and for men find a woman who is trying her best to be like Bibi Hadija (ra). As they were the true role models for us.
Jazakallah
Choosing someone to stick with for the rest of your life is actually a hard thing do. Hopefully through this post I can help my sisters to get an idea of what they should look out for (inshallah)
Fist of all, let me start with this verse from the Quran:
"do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner" (Quran 2:232)
Getting married is a very hard thing as it requires commitment, loyalty, honesty, trust, love, respect etc in order to gain these you need to know the other person. The satan will try his very best to break your relationship up into peaces. If you do not have a say in your marriage, it would be more easier for the satan to play with your mind and eventually lead to divorce. The only halal thing that is disliked by Allah (swt) is divorce "Among all the permitted acts, divorce is the most hateful to God". This is just to state that force marriages aren't the way to happiness, however some people (alhamdulilah) get along perfectly well together.
What you should look in a man:
I would say the first thing you should look for in your future partner should be if they have deen, this applies to both men and women to be honest. If the person has deen then they will love you for the sake of Allah and if this is so then inshallah Allah will bestow his blessing upon you.
If I was to search for a husband, I would look at how he carries himself for example if he wears appropriate clothes (no sagging), how he walks (no limping), how he talks and how he is towards people.
Do not choose a man because he has beauty on the outside, rather choose a man who is beautiful from the inside and Allah will make him appear beautiful from the outside inshallah. A man who has wealth may use it for the right reasons but some do not, so remember money can not buy happiness and love.
Marry a man who is wise in character, firm in belief, yearns jannah, has thirst for knowledge of Islam, has respect for his parents and inshallah he will be good to you
Obviously when you get married to someone, you both are to change your lifestyle to fit into each others. Making changes to ourselves for the better for our 'married future' would benefit both the man and woman. This allows the couple to accept changes and helps to keep away from arguments
Hope this has helped (inshallah)
Feel free to add more things that could help inshallah
May Allah help us succeed in our attempt of a perfect marriage (Ameen)
And lastly the best thing that I can advice both a man and a woman regarding this, is to find a man who is trying his very best to be like our beloved prophet (saw) and for men find a woman who is trying her best to be like Bibi Hadija (ra). As they were the true role models for us.
Jazakallah
