Hardshipandease
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Asalam Alikum brothers and sisters, I am a recent convert (Alhamdulilah) and when I became a Muslimah I was already engaged to a non-muslim man. To begin, I want to make it clear that I am NOT about to ask for someone to tell me that it is halal to marry a non-muslim. What I want is insight into how I should handle this situation.
Alhamdulilah, my fiance is a wonderful man. He loves me deeply and I love him. He has always treated me with respect and done everything he can for me. Once, alhamdulilah, he even saved my life. Since I have become Muslim he has done everything he can to support me in Islam. He bought an Arabic Quran for me because I only had an English one in my house, stopped drinking alcohol around me, and even reminds me to pray when I forget to do it (which is a lot as I have memory problems... Alhamdulilah I have him to remind me).
In sha Allah, my fiance will be guided to Islam and there will be no problem. However, as of now this has not happened, and logically I have to accept the probability that he will never be a Muslim. I have only been a Muslim for a few months - so maybe I am rushing, but our wedding is scheduled soon. I do wish for him to become Muslim, but at the same time I feel like it would be unwise to just leave him now. He has been so supportive of me, and if it wasn't for him I would have died before I had the chance to become a Muslimah in the first place.
I also believe that Allah (swt) guides whom he wills to Islam, when he wills. I believe that there is a reason he guided me to Islam at this specific time in my life, after I became engaged to this man, not before.
Are there any other Muslims out there who went through something similar? How did you manage your love for your partner and your love for Islam? Any advice and insight would be greatly appreciated, but please no judgments.
Alhamdulilah, my fiance is a wonderful man. He loves me deeply and I love him. He has always treated me with respect and done everything he can for me. Once, alhamdulilah, he even saved my life. Since I have become Muslim he has done everything he can to support me in Islam. He bought an Arabic Quran for me because I only had an English one in my house, stopped drinking alcohol around me, and even reminds me to pray when I forget to do it (which is a lot as I have memory problems... Alhamdulilah I have him to remind me).
In sha Allah, my fiance will be guided to Islam and there will be no problem. However, as of now this has not happened, and logically I have to accept the probability that he will never be a Muslim. I have only been a Muslim for a few months - so maybe I am rushing, but our wedding is scheduled soon. I do wish for him to become Muslim, but at the same time I feel like it would be unwise to just leave him now. He has been so supportive of me, and if it wasn't for him I would have died before I had the chance to become a Muslimah in the first place.
I also believe that Allah (swt) guides whom he wills to Islam, when he wills. I believe that there is a reason he guided me to Islam at this specific time in my life, after I became engaged to this man, not before.
Are there any other Muslims out there who went through something similar? How did you manage your love for your partner and your love for Islam? Any advice and insight would be greatly appreciated, but please no judgments.