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my wife and i agreed to therapy. Thank you all for suggestions. Please pray for us. Salaam

Were there caps in your post or just mine? It takes 2 to tango. You need to stop getting defensive and thinking all women are innocent and all men are dogs.

Brother, she sleeps in my childs room because she snores.. It isn't because she wants to. Read my posts.

lol... i knew i would offend some of the women, especially if you have similar traits to my wife. I said in my original post, things LEAD up to me becoming distant and cold. I said ASIDE from weight, she does NOTHING else. I said tell me WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES of a wife? Did you miss...

Walakum asalam, thank you for sharing your story- it was nice. To answer some of your points, I actually sent her old sister an email to speak to her about her weight. Her sister looked the other way. My sister also spoke to her, and all my wife says to ANYONE is she will change and she is...

IF my wife did any of the above, i would appreciate her. I don't take things for granted... I think she takes me for granted. If i could turn back time... I always thought women liked to cook, dress up, etc.

Sorry for saying brother, sister! If you want my wifes email, let me know. Ask her yourself how I treat her. If she says anything short of queen, then I would be shocked. I with time, started to lose patience with her lies, and now I give the cold shoulder more and am more distant- but this is...

i would not speak of her in open... this is anonymous. She isn't depressed. She doesn't hang with many friends, she is a homebody. She knows I care, I spend my free time with her. She is just so lazy it is beyond explanation. As she ages, it will only get worse. In Islam, women are supposed...

EIGHT YEARS brother... that is how long I tried... My parents have spoken to her. Sadly, she knows how lazy she is, she accepts it-- but Shaitain has said what? "I will destroy your ummah, starting with the husband and wife!". I know beauty is only skin deep. I married her, right? She isn't the...

Not groooming also means daily stuff.. I am a man, i shave, cut my hair, etc. Women typically comb their hair, wear a variety of clothing, lotion themselves, etc. Yes many women can care less, but maybe they cook, or work or contribute in another way. when I say she doesn't do anything for me...

no, i won't do drugs or anything like that. i just keep praying, but she is hopeless. i never met a woman as lazy as her.. wish I can turn back time.

Sister, you are in a different boat. You have 2 kids under the age of 3 AND you both work full time? So you already are contributing to the home and helping your husband. IF our child was a toddler, I would be more understandable just how I was years ago when I thought in time she will...

Her answer: " I want to change, i want to be close to you, I want to be a good wife, give me one last chance". Of course i gave her 1000 chances... still not a single change. In fact, in the past 4 years, she gained 20lbs rather than lose 20 how she vowed to do! Do you know exactly how I feel...

Wasalaam, I didn't mean all women, but many. Good for you for realizing there is no excuse to let ones self go. I did involve her older sister, but she too is obese, so it didn't matter what I said. As for communication, my goodness, I have spelled it out for her now. I started off with hints...

no offense... no worries. Anytime a man complains about a wife, the usual answer from women is stop asking her to look good and just accept her. If the tables were turned and I was a 'bum' at home, I think she would have divorced me. I have tried everything possible. She isn't depressed at...

Sister, did you read my entire message, or did you just skim read it? Of course I help with the kids. My wife does not cook or do ANYTHING for me. What are you missing? Do you think my child who will be a teen in 5 years is that demanding that my wife no longer needs to fulfill her duties as a...

Salaam all, I have been married 10 years. For the first few years, my marriage was great. However, after a few years and the birth of our child, my wife does not do anything 'wifely'. Let me elaborate. This may get long, but there is no other way to explain. I would like feedback from sisters...