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Brother, In islam there is naseeha and fadeeha..Naseeha is humble advice that attempts to clarify to the person where they went wrong. When it is done well, the advice wouldn't leave anything in the heart, if not gratitude. Fadeeha is public ridicule. So brother, even if you truly believed...

Sister Aapa I totally agree. I feel I can't thank Allah enough for being blessed with this job which is working with women only. (Although it is temporary, so wil see what happens). I know the majority of times we do not have the choice. But I thought I'll share my experience that it is...

Dear sister..I had no intention of scolding at all.. if anything it is very impressive the way you value your parents mashallah. I wish many sons and daughters had a similar attitude regarding their parents. Anyway dear sister....no worries. :hijabi:

Dear Sister Seeking Allah's Mercy. It wasn't possible for me to PM you. When you have the time can you PM me please?

In that case sister what I know is that son/daughter need to get a third party involved, a sheikh. To help parents recognise the qualities of the potential person in terms of religion and character and help them achieve a balance, with all the odds and difficulties involved which is making...

I think when asked, people mainly aim for the best.though in reality its not really like that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder really stands. People with less beauty, defects or disabilities shouldn't feel disheartened. The inner beauty, the character of the person plays a major role in...

Sure brother, no son/daughter should be balckmailed in any shape or form, and forced into a marriage. There are no guarantees of happiness in life anyway, whether the parent have found the potential or they came through any other decent way, but one just needs to do their best.We needn't think...

The way we think about them could influence our attitude with them. We need to treat them with kindness not only when we are in agreement, but when in disagreement as well. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they...

Me too sister harb.:shake:

Ofcourse sister, a marriage without the daughter's consent is invalid. What I mean is talk the parents through gently, so they feel more comfortable to a cross cultural marriage. .

Totally agree with you sister. We need to understand where the parents are coming from. I was talking to an elderly lady, who is from (X country) , and her daughter is teaching in (Y country). She told me she would not want her daughter to marry from (Country Y), which I am from too. She...

You are correct to some extent, however that is more common the richer Arab countries, unfortunately. (However I will not generalise). As for the rest of the Arab countries, the issue is probably not good enough, but also not to that that extent. for instance, the maid and the hefty bank...

Thanks sister. Live in the west now. No matter where we're from what's important is that we are Muslims. However it is natural to feel a strong connection with the place you were raised in. However it is wrong to attach that with superiority.

Good to know its not only me! Jazak Allah kheir brother. It's good to know that we have the option to switch if/when we wish to. Sometimes we can be resistant to change. Maybe it'll just take getting used to.

Walaykum assalam sister and Good evening to you too from the UK Glad to have you here with us. I hope you will learn with us and and we learn from you. ...and inshalah you will be a hijabi. Inshalah you'll get there :SMILY206: Take care sister.. Salam alaykum

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I sincerely hope things can be amended. If we see wrong, we need to assume the best of our brothers and sistes. We need to act as advisors to one another, and refrain from attacking one another if we see wrong. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace...

I'm afraid I'm in the 'other' category, from North Lebanon.

Dear respected Brother, insisting on things at a moment like this is not likely to achieve anything positive. What seems appropriate now is to leave things cool down, to give chance for more positive exchanges later. May Allah reward you both for cooperating brothers. May Allah purify our...

Dear much respected brothers If you both carry on like this then you know that you are both being unIslamic. Please just take a sisterly advice, and do what the prophet says when someone is angry. Change position (i.e.Leave the keyboard!!) Make wudu . Anger is from shaitan, shaitan is from...