[10 Tips] How to be a Successful Husband

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    [10 Tips] How to be a Successful Husband


    Prepared by : Muhammad AlShareef

    1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

    2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

    3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

    4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

    5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

    6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

    7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

    8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

    9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

    10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

    In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!
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    Tnx :) Im gonna remember these for da future :)
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    thanks for this
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    Thank you sister with the hope that all brothers will be good husbands incha'Allah:)
    :wasalam:
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    Salam Alaykum

    Masha` Allah.....sister .......sooooooooo important Articles gazakum Allah khyran

    and one By one.......see my Article....are you Ideal Muslimah...let us see..
    ....

    <wasalam Alaykum>
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    MAshallah..

    indeed...if each one of us follow the ways of our beloved Prophet peace be upon him...then every man living would make the most of his life...and be rewarded in abundance...most of us have forgotten the ways of our Prophet...peace be upon him...and our lives have become chaos...
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    Asalaam Alaykum

    :subhanallah: very good tips...jazakallah khair for sharing..

    The quote says it all...

    :salam2:
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    May Allah reward u

    mashaAllah this is a wonderful topic.I really like it so much.how lovely the example of the Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wasallam.May Allah help us to take this example and to be good muslims...ameen
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    Assalamu Alaikum

    :bismillah:


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    Jazzak-Allah khair for sharing!:biggrin:


    :wasalam:
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    :jazaak: for this benefit.
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    Akramkom Allah

    Jazakom Allah khair, and may Allah accept our fasting and prayers in this month of Ramadan..
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    mashallah its very nice, thanks for sharing
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    :salam2:

    jazakallah :SMILY231:
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    Assallamu alaykum. Thanks for sharing this wonderful tips...I wish I couldl have someone to be called... husband....inshaAllah....
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    masha allah,

    i will remember these point for future...........
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    mashAllah very nice
    May Allah bless u
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    Jazakallah for this article, just what im looking for to use in the not so distant future inshallah :)
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    Jaza kumullah gr8 points sister lets hope all the brothers out there take this advice .........all the blame goes on the sisters most of the time...it's time they share some...lol......... May Allah bless us all with husbands who will follow in the footsteps of the BEST OF MANKNID MUHAMMAD SALLALWHU ALIAHI WASALAM .................INSHALLAH...:tti_sister: :tti_sister:
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    Jazaka allh khyran,
    Very valuble information for me...
    I will keep that for future
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    Jazak Allah. I was looking for something else but came across this. The way of the Prophet SAW is the best of ways. We love all the prophets and messengers of Allah, without any discrimination as we have been commanded to by the Quran, yet it is obvious that the only person whose example applies universally is that of Muhammed SAW. Jesus PBUH for instance, was not even married. How then, can the christains follow his example in being a good husband? Is there any wonder that the divorce and break up rates continue to rise?

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