60 Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love

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    60 Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love

    1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn't want a man for his wife!

    2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don't stay in your sleeping suit all day.

    3. Smell good!

    4. Don't lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

    5. Don't keep asking him, "what are you thinking?"

    6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta'ala gives you something really to complain about.

    7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:

    8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

    9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights

    10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

    11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

    12. Compliment him on the things you know he's not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

    13. Tell him he's the best husband ever.

    14. Call his family often.

    15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.

    16. When he's talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you're interested.

    17. Encourage him to do good deeds.

    18. If he's in a bad mood, give him some space. He'll get over it, inshaAllah.

    19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It's a big deal.

    20. If he's angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you're quiet.You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he's calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.

    21. When you're mad at him, don't say "YOU make me furious", rather, "This action makes me upset". Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.

    22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

    23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they're good guys.
    Encourage him to go out, so he doesn't feel "cooped up" at home.

    24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really

    25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.

    26. Don't get mad over small things. It's not worth it.

    27. Make jokes. If you're not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.

    28. Tell him you're the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you're good at.

    29. Learn to make his favorite dish.

    30. Don't ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.

    31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you're a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

    32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.

    33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he's your servant. "They are garment to each other" [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

    34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like "a knot." And the next time he would ask her, "How is that knot?" He also used to reply to her saying, "Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you."

    35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.

    36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.

    37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don't laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

    38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.

    39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

    40. Don't discuss important/controver sial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

    41. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

    42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the "dough". It makes it easier for him to go to work.

    43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

    44. Brush your hair, everyday.

    45. Don't forget to do laundry.

    46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

    47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)

    48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies

    49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.

    50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

    51. Learn tricks and "techniques" to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

    52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).

    53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

    54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don't wait until matters become worse.

    55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du'ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.

    56. Don't EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you …" (thats a killer!)

    57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!

    58. Strive for Allah's love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah's love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

    59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time
    sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn't take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

    60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.



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    SISTER jazakallah khair ,
    And one thing,to day I was going to post this one,but u got it right
    anyways its really gr8
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    jazakallah khair sister for your post masha allah :hijabi:
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    Why not?

    What if it's not true?


    What?! It's getting funnier and funnier :D


    :shymuslima1: OkAy!

    :D told you..it's getting funnier..subhnanallah!

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    Libin...we're thinking along the same lines here...! you posted just what i was thinking lol :rolleyes:

    Number 60 is good and some others

    PS but where is this list taken from sis tulipflower....? :confused:
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    Wa alaikum assalam

    Jazakallah for sharing sister

    LOL Libin... I second everything you said !!!
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    its a sisters topic so i think i should hush my gosh:SMILY335:
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    It says at some point..don't walk like an elephant..what's that supposed to mean? :)

    Seriously, i'm gonna make a list of 60 ways to keep your Wife's love..any sister wants to help me..and have a good laugh :D?
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    thx

    well,
    thx u really for ur thread.
    i like it..
    u know,when i get married
    i'll do 60 ways to keep him,then we'll see how it's work?
    hope it's work out with him
    with my future husband,,
    icha allah i'll drive him crazy..lolllllllllllllllllllzzzzzzzzzz:jumpclap::laughing-dancing::SMILY82:
    thx again,sister
    PS:WHAT ABOUT HIM?
    i'll do 60 way to keep him.but,what about him?what he 'll do for me?:hearts::p
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    Hmmm

    Sound like fun Sister :D

    I thought they say women are high maintenance ???
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    [QUOTE Libin ] 60 ways to keep your wife

    Hmmm

    Sound like fun Sister :D

    I thought they say women are high maintenance ???
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    Number 1: Do not annoy your wife while she's on the phone..

    2: Laugh at her jokes..all of them, even the non-funny ones..

    3: Look good, smell nice, brush hair/beard whenevr she's around

    4: Be patient

    5: Give her presents, make her suprises


    6: Listen to her, try to find solutions to her problems..don't just sit there..

    ..Another sister can continue perhaps..we must make our rules girls;)

    Ma'salaam
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    Good, good, good..

    mashallah..i feel we're gonna get our 60 rules :)
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    Husband must master wife's language at all times...

    Here are some

    WOMEN?S LANGUAGE TRANSLATED

    Yes = No

    No = Yes

    Maybe = No

    I'm sorry. = You'll be sorry.

    We need... = I want

    It's your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now.
    Do what you want... = You'll pay for this later.
    We need to talk... = I need to complain
    Sure...go ahead = I don't want you to.
    I'm not upset = Of course I?m upset, you moron!
    This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house.
    I want new curtains = ...and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.....
    Hang the picture there = NO, I mean hang it there!
    I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep.
    Do you love me? = I'm going to ask for something expensive.
    How much do you love me? = I did something today you're really not going to like.

    I'll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV.

    Am I fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful.

    You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.

    I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.
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    :D

    thank you brother :D
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    continuation of womens language translated.

    I don't want to talk about it.......Go away, I am still building up steam

    Nothing is wrong.......Everything is wrong

    Yes, I know there are two sides to an argument.......Mine and the wrong one

    You're so..so manly.........You need a shower… you smell like a locker room

    I love you........I want something

    Not to change the subject, but.........I am changing the subject

    Nothing is wrong.......Everything is wrong

    This kitchen sure is small.......Buy me a new house

    No I am not angry.......I am livid

    I need new shoes for the wedding........My other 40 pairs are the wrong shade

    The bin man comes tomorrow..........Take out the trash !!!


    We need to talk.......I need to complain

    No, I am not upset.........Of course I am upset you moron

    I’m sorry = you’ll be sorry

    You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me

    Phone your mother = If you don’t then I have to speak to her

    I know that you have made an effort = Its just not enough

    I don't know; what do you want to do? = I can't believe that you have nothing planned
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    Why not? [/QUOTE]
    Because it can get annoying if dont constantly in a short period of time from what I know.


    It's like... when the wife is 8 months pregnant and asks the husband if she looks nice. We'll say "absolutely gorgeous" even though it may not be true.. :D

    It works. Husbands do that - "oh you bought what now? New shoes?! Waaaaaaaoow! Really, tell me more about it!" - "Omgosh, they're selling bread for half price today? Amazing!".


    Hmm, it's good for a couple not to argue at the same time - I'm sure there was some hadtih about it where one should try to remain calm if the other is angry.

    This one is funny. If one is not a funny person - then yawn .. getting jokes from internet won't be funny! Good sense of humour is important - people that can laugh together will feel closer together.

    Dunno about this one. Salam alaikum :SMILY139:
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    Lol alkathari's and Sauda's post above are funny as. Salam alaikum.
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    I wish if sister DIANEK's HUSBAND could be on TTI so that he might tell what
    WIVES SHOULD NOT DO
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