Advice To Musilm Women Regarding Their Husbands, Part 5
A man is permitted to enjoy the body of his wife and she is obligated to submit to his desires.
Marriage has been prescribed to protect ones chastity, produce love and tranquility in one’s heart, establish love between the spouses, and to fulfil one’s desires.
It is a major sin to refuse to allow him to physically enjoy her body.
Aboo Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allaah said:
“If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses, and he becomes angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.“
[Bukhaaree 2/315. Muslim 2/1060. Aboo Daawood 2141. Ahmad 2/439 & 480]
In another narration:
“… until he is pleased with her.“
In yet a third narration:
“… until he forgives her.“
In yet another narration:
“… until she goes back.” [Bukhaaree 4795]
Also; to refuse to allow him to enjoy her body causes many evils in society, among them:
She is indirectly ‘begging’ him to go to other women to fulfil his sexual desire.
It creates hatred in the mans heart towards his wife.
He may, as a result of this, ignore her rights that she has over him.
His love for her will not be as much, as it would have been, had the desired act taken place.
It causes anger in the man.
And Allaah does not accept the prayers of a woman who causes anger to her husband, and the proof for this is in part 4
of this series.
However it should ne noted that she is not cursed if she has a genuine excuse like if she is menstruating, is sick, or if this in the month of Ramadhaan where fasting is compulsory.
Being busy, however is not an excuse for refusing his call.
It was narrated that Talq ibn ‘Ali said, that the Messenger of Allaah (saw) said:
“When a man calls his wife to him, then let her respond, even if she is at the oven (baking bread).“
[Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, no. 927]
If a woman consistently refuses to spend the night with her husband in his bed, then she forfeits her rights to maintenance and also her share of her husband’s time [in the case of a plural marriage], because maintenance is a right given in return for intimacy.
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