~Before Debating on TTI~

Muslimah-S

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Before we debate in TTI we should consider the following, inshAllah.

I Defeat my Opponents with Three
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It was related that a man said to Haatim al Asam: “You are a non-Arab who cannot speak fluently, but no one has debated you except that you silenced him, so how do you defeat your opponents?”

He said: “With three:

1. I am pleased when my opponent is correct,
2. I am sad when he is incorrect,
3. And I preserve my tongue from saying anything that offends him."

Al Imaam Ahmad stated: “What a wise man he is.”

Al Khateeb al Baghdaadee stated: “A person’s intention should be to clarify the truth when debating, not to defeat his opponent.”

Al Imaam ash Shaafi’ee said: “I did not debate anyone while hoping that he would err.”

He also said: “I never spoke to anyone except that I hoped that he would be granted success and supported. I never spoke to anyone except that I didn’t mind whether Allaah clarified the truth upon my tongue or his.”

Al Hafidh ibn Rajab comments: “This indicates that he did not have any intention except the clarification of the truth, even if it were from the person who is debating and contradicting him. Whoever is of this state would not dislike it when his opinions are refuted and when his contradiction to the Sunnah is clarified, not while alive or after his death. This is also what we think of the other Imaams of Islaam, those who defended Islaam and supported it whether they were from the Salaf or those who came after them. They also never used to dislike those who contradicted them as long as they were following evidence, even though the evidence was not strong enough for them to follow or leave their own evidence for.”

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References:
The Difference between Advising and Degrading by Ibn Rajab al Hanbalee.
Al Faqee wal Mutafaqih by al Khateeb al Baghdaadee.

Wasalam
 

samiha

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Staff member
wa 'alaykum salaam wa rahmatullah

SubhanAllaah! These are the people to whom we should look to and emulate. Nowadays people argue because they have the ablity to, or to make their opponents look smaller, to build a name, to feel as though they are knowledgeable etc... but often missing is the actual desire for the other to be correct, or to only spread what is good.

Jazaakillah khayr ukhti! This is a really nice post mashaAllaah... <3 I pray we have more quality posts like this as well.

wasalam
 

weakslave

Junior Member
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Jazaki Allaahu Khairan, I used to have this problem as well. I would never put down an argument until I made sure I had put that person down sufficiently or I had proven to him that I was right. This usually required I repeat myself several times until everyone got bored.

I have learned now to let go. To present the truth as I know it only once, and whosoever accepts it then that is the will of Allaah. And anyone who denies it then either I have made a mistake or Allaah does not wish for that person to be guided.

It is not always easy to resist.. shaytaan is good at what he does.
 

Janaan

ربنا اغفر لنا ذنوبنا
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Masha'allah- jzk for sharing this beautiful facts
I totally agrre wuth sis Samiha. May Allah guide the wrongdoers insha'allh
 

Muslimah-S

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Ameen, wa iyyakum wa barakAllah feekum brothers and sisters.

May Allah Ta'la help us to implement this into our lives. Ameen. :tti_sister:

"Action is the biggest measurement of knowledge."

:wasalam:
 

IbnAdam77

Travelling towards my grave.
MashaAllah! This is the type of threads we need more.

JazakiAllahu khairan sister. :)

Ma'ah Salaamah
 
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