Assalalam Alaikum,
It is my birthday in two days time and as a revert i have chose to not celebrate it in the way i did before. My family have been understanding about it and just want to at least have a meal as a family and i have no problem with this this. But my friends whom i have known for a long time keep saying take off your scarf [hijab] for one night and have fun. I have explained to them the reasons i wear hijab and why i do not want to celebrate my birthday as i did before. Should i cut them off totally?
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Wa Alaykum Assalam.........
1st:
unwearning Hajjab is a sin
(see:
Verses and hadeeth about Correct Hijaab and
Ruling on covering the face, with detailed evidence )
.... due to that don't obey anyone to take off your Haijab
the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him),
There is no obedience to a created being if it involves disobedience of the Creator”(reported by Ahmad, 1041; a saheeh hadeeth)
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2nd: Celebrating birthdays is not allowed
it's a kind of bid’ah ( innovation in religion)
because it involves imitation of the Christians and other kaafirs. And in the second and third cases there is imitation of the kuffaar.
The evidence in the Qur’aan and Sunnah indicates that celebrating birthdays is a kind of bid’ah or innovation in religion, which has no basis in the pure sharee’ah. It is not permitted to accept invitations to birthday celebrations, because this involves supporting and encouraging bid’ah.
Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Or have they partners with Allaah (false gods) who have instituted for them a religion which Allaah has not allowed…?”
[al-Shoora 42:21]
“Then We have put you (O Muhammad) on a plain way of (Our) commandment. So follow that, and follow not the desires of those who know not. Verily, they can avail you nothing against Allaah (if He wants to puish you). Verily, the zaalimoon (wrongdoers) are awliyaa’ (protectors, helpers, etc.) to one another, but Allaah is the Wali (Protector, Helper) of the muttaqoon (pious).”
[al-Jaathiyah 45:18-19]
“Follow what has been sent down unto you from your Lord, and follow not any awliyaa’ (protectors, helpers, etc.) besides Him. Little do you remember!”
[al-A’raaf 7:3]
According to saheeh reports, the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever does something that is a not part of this matter of ours (i.e., Islam) will have it rejected” (
reported by Muslim in his Saheeh);
and
“The best of speech is the Book of Allaah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The most evil of things are those which have been newly invented (in religion), and every innovation is a going astray.”
There are many other ahaadeeth that convey the same meaning.
Besides being bid’ah and having no basis in sharee’ah, these
birthday celebrations also involve imitation of the Jews and Christians in their birthday celebrations. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, warning us against following their ways and traditions:
“You would follow the ways of those who came before you step by step, to such an extent that if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would enter it too.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari and Muslim).
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said:
“Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 1/115
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As Muslims, we celebrate only two ‘eid (festivals): ‘eid ul-fitr (after the end of Ramadhan), and ‘eid ul-Udh-ha, the day of the greater hajj (pilgrimage). During these two festivals, we offer felicitations, spread joy, and entertain children. But more importantly, we offer remembrance of Allaah's blessings, celebrate His name and offer the ‘eid salaat (prayer). Other than these two occasions, we do not recognize or celebrate any other days in the year.
Of course, there are other joyous occasions for which the Islamic shari’ah dictates appropriate celebration, such as gathering for special meals during weddings or on the occasion of the birth of a child (aqeeqah). However, these days are not specified as particular days in the year; rather, they are celebrated as they happen in the course of a Muslim’s
.....(see:
Islamic holy days and special occasions ).....
any of these things which are intended as rituals or acts of worship aimed at drawing closer to Allaah or glorifying Him in order to earn reward, or which involve imitating the people of Jaahiliyyah or any other groups of kaafirs, is a prohibited bid’ah, an innovation which comes under the general meaning of the hadeeth:
“Whoever innovates something in this matter of ours (Islam) that is not part of it, will have it rejected.” (
Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim).
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i leave u in care of Allah..
<wasalam>
ur brother in islam, islamicfajr
asslamoalaykom
