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Despite (the fact) that the Prophet (saw) used to be aided by inspiration from Allaah, he would still consult his wives. A woman is not a slave who is just to execute orders. She must be consulted especially in the affairs of the home and family. The Prophet (saw) consulted Umm Salamah regarding a general affair of the Muslims, then what would the case be regarding a specific matter dealing with the home and the children?
Thus, all the more the reason for a husband to consult his wife and to listen to her opinions regarding affairs of the home and the children. Even though the final decision is for the husband, he is still to consult her, thereby giving her due importance. And this is not from the subservience or servility of a husband, or a wife controlling a husband as many people think.
If a husband consults his wife in an issue, many people think that it means that he is controlled, conquered or weakened… However, all of that is a mistake.
The Prophet (saw) went to Umm Salamah and was angry. She said to him: “What is the matter?” He replied: “I commanded them to shave and they didn’t.” The companions did not agree with the Hudaybiyyah issue. She then said: “O Messenger of Allaah, call the barber and shave your head and then go out to them. Surely, if they were to see you shaved they would follow you in it.”
Hence, the Prophet (saw) did as such and every Companion shaved. Every one of them shaved the other in silence despite the anger in them. The narrator said: “Until some of them made others bleed.” [Bukhaaree]
At any rate, they obeyed and followed the Messenger of Allaah (saw) and this was due to the wisdom of the Mother of the Believers, Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her).
Thus, the woman is not a devil, nor does the devil speak upon her tongue. Rather, she is a respected innocent human being. At times, some of the woman’s intellect and ideas outstrip those of many foolish unreasonable men. It is true that at times she may be more correct than many of the men.
Therefore, it is not befitting for the men to underestimate the opinions of the woman.
[Taken from "The Prophet (saw) At Home" by Sh. Muhammad Moosaa Nasr, Pp. 45 & 46]
http://themarriagebase.wordpress.com/2012/06/20/consulting-your-wife-and-taking-her-opinions-to-consideration/
Thus, all the more the reason for a husband to consult his wife and to listen to her opinions regarding affairs of the home and the children. Even though the final decision is for the husband, he is still to consult her, thereby giving her due importance. And this is not from the subservience or servility of a husband, or a wife controlling a husband as many people think.
If a husband consults his wife in an issue, many people think that it means that he is controlled, conquered or weakened… However, all of that is a mistake.
The Prophet (saw) went to Umm Salamah and was angry. She said to him: “What is the matter?” He replied: “I commanded them to shave and they didn’t.” The companions did not agree with the Hudaybiyyah issue. She then said: “O Messenger of Allaah, call the barber and shave your head and then go out to them. Surely, if they were to see you shaved they would follow you in it.”
Hence, the Prophet (saw) did as such and every Companion shaved. Every one of them shaved the other in silence despite the anger in them. The narrator said: “Until some of them made others bleed.” [Bukhaaree]
At any rate, they obeyed and followed the Messenger of Allaah (saw) and this was due to the wisdom of the Mother of the Believers, Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her).
Thus, the woman is not a devil, nor does the devil speak upon her tongue. Rather, she is a respected innocent human being. At times, some of the woman’s intellect and ideas outstrip those of many foolish unreasonable men. It is true that at times she may be more correct than many of the men.
Therefore, it is not befitting for the men to underestimate the opinions of the woman.
[Taken from "The Prophet (saw) At Home" by Sh. Muhammad Moosaa Nasr, Pp. 45 & 46]
http://themarriagebase.wordpress.com/2012/06/20/consulting-your-wife-and-taking-her-opinions-to-consideration/