subhanallah
Junior Member
Salam aleykom,
There's something that's been troubling me a lot the past year.. Not talking to your siblings is a major sin which leads to that none of one's worshipping acts reach God or gain his approval. I, unfortunately, haven't been speaking to my two younger brothers for one and a half year.. We used to fight a lot which led to many arguments with my parents too. So one small disagreement with my brothers could lead to me not speaking to anyone in the house for weeks. I would then be committing not one major sin but several...
So. I decided not to talk to my siblings at all. This has helped me with being able to better control my anger and irritation, since I can't comment on the things my brothers do that I find disturbing anymore - this was what earlier caused the huge arguments. By the way, my brothers are arguing with each other this second and it feels like I'm going to explode... I'm the type that can't endure fights and noise and when they start fighting (which happens a lot) I lose my temper, start yelling at them to shut up and generally behave as a maniac.
But I know how haram it is to cut off one's relationships.. which is why I'm writing. HELP MEE! Shall I start talking to them again? Yes. I know that's what I should do. But if I do, I know those huge fights will return and be a normal part of my life again...
I know this entry is all messy and you may not understand a word of it, but considering what's happening around me right now...
Anyway, what I'm trying to ask is: what do you advice me to do? The only times I talk to my brothers is when I once in a while cook or bake something and serve it to them or when leaving the house with a "salam aleykom"... So what should I do?
Once again, excuse the clumsy formulation - I'm not in a natural state.
May Allah reweard you all with the best.
There's something that's been troubling me a lot the past year.. Not talking to your siblings is a major sin which leads to that none of one's worshipping acts reach God or gain his approval. I, unfortunately, haven't been speaking to my two younger brothers for one and a half year.. We used to fight a lot which led to many arguments with my parents too. So one small disagreement with my brothers could lead to me not speaking to anyone in the house for weeks. I would then be committing not one major sin but several...
So. I decided not to talk to my siblings at all. This has helped me with being able to better control my anger and irritation, since I can't comment on the things my brothers do that I find disturbing anymore - this was what earlier caused the huge arguments. By the way, my brothers are arguing with each other this second and it feels like I'm going to explode... I'm the type that can't endure fights and noise and when they start fighting (which happens a lot) I lose my temper, start yelling at them to shut up and generally behave as a maniac.
But I know how haram it is to cut off one's relationships.. which is why I'm writing. HELP MEE! Shall I start talking to them again? Yes. I know that's what I should do. But if I do, I know those huge fights will return and be a normal part of my life again...
I know this entry is all messy and you may not understand a word of it, but considering what's happening around me right now...
Anyway, what I'm trying to ask is: what do you advice me to do? The only times I talk to my brothers is when I once in a while cook or bake something and serve it to them or when leaving the house with a "salam aleykom"... So what should I do?
Once again, excuse the clumsy formulation - I'm not in a natural state.
May Allah reweard you all with the best.