DUA HAPPY MARRIAGE

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    Dear brothers and sister in islam, I need your help.

    I have been married to my husband for one year and we have just been having soo many arguments and disagreements mainly from his side. He just doesnt seem to be happy with me and a couple of time he has told me that he will divorce me cos he is not happy with me because iam not as pretty as he wants me to be. This situation has been given me depression and stress. I love him very much but he is very childish and doesnt care about me. His family and my family has consulted him but he still doesnt listen to them. I want to make my marriage work and be happy with him. My marriage was arranged and I did do istakhara before accpeting his proposal but still nothing is working for us. He was also black magic by someone to divorce me just when we got married. I am not sure wats happening, is there a prayer that i can do to help our marriage, any help will be appreciated
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    allah is with me Rabana Wa laqal Hamd

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    oh sister, i am really very sad to hear this...
    sister, it might be too tough for you...
    okay sister let me tell you, i dont have any specific duaa, but i cant consult you inshallah!!..
    well, sister, as you know he is childish, you have to listen to him, what ever he might say you,and try to be very polite, and make him feel that your the bestest wife (inshallah)...
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    aslam o aliakum , sis
    its so sad to hear ur situation sis but maybe u shud try to be more like friends with him, do stuff he likes and show him u r more of a friend than his wife :)
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    We have all heard that communication is the true key to a happy marriage. And this can be truly helpful many times. However, just as many times, communication gets abused and twisted until it becomes just another way to hurt your spouse and not work on your marriage.
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    u have to be patient. all men are not mature enough. maybe he has some model image in his mind.

    keep having chat with him politely. sit together, read islamic books on spouse's rights and duties, family in Islam.

    dress in a good way for him, make tasty food:), tell him in between that he means a lot to u in ur life.

    there is one prayer indeed. salah hajah - prayer of help. make 2 rakaat nafil and after salaam read the dua.

    http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543884

    may Allah help both of u.
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    ask him to becareful with what he says coz without him reasling he might have divorced u....if a man said 3 times continuoulsy or after some days..then ur marriage is not valid and u must consult an imam...

    syatan is the known enemy between husband and wives..but at the same time husband and wife with iman and fear Allah will never get in to divorce..we on tti do not know the whole situation and the whole story what is happening within the 4 walls...

    i guess both of u need to consult an imam or islamic counsellor and find the root problem...if he is saying that ur not beautiful..then make urself beautiful..it is not haram to be attractive infront of ur husband and it is compulsory for u to be attractive infront of him by the way...

    find out if he has another woman...

    find out if he doesnt love u anymore..

    if both of u can't really live together and there is nothing can be done and both of u are suffering in this marriage..then divorce is the only solution....yet after the divorce ..u must live in ur husband's house till ur 3 month idaa finished and who knows he might get back to u..
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    sweet help

    Dear Sister,
    go to Victorias secret buy something beautiful to sleep in his favorite color, spray beautiful perfume all over, when he comes in have hot bath ready for him then have his favorite food by candlelight..... as he is eating perform a beautiful dance for him ..........afterwards go to sleep by yourself.....do not let him in till he apologizes for his insults......keep repeating this ritual by the third night he will begg for forgiveness.

    with all respect I hope this helps,
    Sheba
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    salam everyone ,

    If this solution don't bring him to her arms again , I think then the relation is

    over cause he says frankly he don't like her anymore

    may allah reunite you again Amine

    good luck
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    I do believe denying your husband rights to intimacy is strictly forbidden in Islam. Something about angels cursing you until morning......

    That aside, this post is over a month old and the sister has not returned.
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    hi

    im also in this situation my husband hates me so much i dideverything but i am a looser.he slept with women hang out with women night club.im really really desperate coz i love him dearly he dont want to listen to me i got 3 boys im not working i cant leave him plz help me someone with some duahs
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    Salaam,

    Sister you are not desperate. Divorce him. You will get child support and alimony. You will be in a better place.
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    The women that asked for duas probably won't come back, but I'm just saying that you will have your say on the day of Judgement, Allah is fair on this, so don't hold back on divorces if he is going to treat you like you don't belong in this world. This will be your excuse on the day of Judgement, a man going clubbing with other women will get away with it? Whiles you get punished for divorcing him in that matter? No sisters, be strong and trust in Allah.

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