Assalamalaikum everyone here.
i have a friend, she hates her father,at the beginning i could not understand her, but i heard her explaining i also confused i don't know whether her
father is good or bed.
his father loves himself too much, her mother passed away two years ago,
after one month of her mother's death, he started to searching woman for marry. her younger brother has mental disorder disease (not very seriouse) doctor said keep him away from stress and pressure. that's why when her father mentioned that he wants to marry again, all the relatives told him to delay his marriage, because her brother will be under pressure when suddenly there is stranger come to live with them ( only her younger brother is living with her father, all other siblings are got married), beside this her father has no enough money to get marry in that time. with this situation her father agreed, and waited for another two years. during those two years, his father asked money from her siblings under his younger brother's name (he said money is used for her younger brother to see doctor), but her brother's condition never get better. currently, her father tole them he wants to marry, and ask money from my friend and her siblings, i know some of them. they are not that rich. but her father doesn't care. he made a order for everyone to give him certain amount of money, my friend even borrowed from others to give her father. and then he spend those money made a quite big weeding, and he even decorated the whole house ( when her mother was still alive, she asked my friend's father many times to render the wall to make house looks more clean, but he rejected) now, he decorated whole house, changed new furniture. and the most worth part is since my friend's father got married, her younger brother diapered, no one know where he is? my friend and her siblings still keep on looking, but could not find where is he. but his father never care, people saw him bring his new wife, go shopping happily. my friend worried too much and cried a lot, but her father said he will be back when he feel hungry. (come on, he has been already missing for many days ). after i heard my friend's story, i am thinking if i have a such father i will also hate him. in Islam we can not hate parents, we have to obey them...but my friend's father is really a selfish father. my friend got another very old sister, never married,and her father never care about her. ......there are more such kind of things..... they are all hurting my friend too much.i want to say something to her to make her feel better. but i don't know what should i say...... dear reader, if you are in this situation, what you will do?
wassalamlaikum
sister in Islam
i have a friend, she hates her father,at the beginning i could not understand her, but i heard her explaining i also confused i don't know whether her
father is good or bed.
his father loves himself too much, her mother passed away two years ago,
after one month of her mother's death, he started to searching woman for marry. her younger brother has mental disorder disease (not very seriouse) doctor said keep him away from stress and pressure. that's why when her father mentioned that he wants to marry again, all the relatives told him to delay his marriage, because her brother will be under pressure when suddenly there is stranger come to live with them ( only her younger brother is living with her father, all other siblings are got married), beside this her father has no enough money to get marry in that time. with this situation her father agreed, and waited for another two years. during those two years, his father asked money from her siblings under his younger brother's name (he said money is used for her younger brother to see doctor), but her brother's condition never get better. currently, her father tole them he wants to marry, and ask money from my friend and her siblings, i know some of them. they are not that rich. but her father doesn't care. he made a order for everyone to give him certain amount of money, my friend even borrowed from others to give her father. and then he spend those money made a quite big weeding, and he even decorated the whole house ( when her mother was still alive, she asked my friend's father many times to render the wall to make house looks more clean, but he rejected) now, he decorated whole house, changed new furniture. and the most worth part is since my friend's father got married, her younger brother diapered, no one know where he is? my friend and her siblings still keep on looking, but could not find where is he. but his father never care, people saw him bring his new wife, go shopping happily. my friend worried too much and cried a lot, but her father said he will be back when he feel hungry. (come on, he has been already missing for many days ). after i heard my friend's story, i am thinking if i have a such father i will also hate him. in Islam we can not hate parents, we have to obey them...but my friend's father is really a selfish father. my friend got another very old sister, never married,and her father never care about her. ......there are more such kind of things..... they are all hurting my friend too much.i want to say something to her to make her feel better. but i don't know what should i say...... dear reader, if you are in this situation, what you will do?
wassalamlaikum
sister in Islam
