if a prson fyts with you un necessarily and you don't wanna fyt back, she is shoutin ad using annoying words, then you went to her and said sorry to hold the situation.. is it mean that you don't have any self respct or you did somethin worng??? please i need suggestions..



Read Qur'an and you will find your answer insha'Allah:

قَوْلٌ مَّعْرُوفٌ وَمَغْفِرَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن صَدَقَةٍ يَتْبَعُهَا أَذًى ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَنِيٌّ حَلِيمٌ
Kind speech and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Free of need and Forbearing.Surat Al Baqarah interpretation of the meaning [2:263]

وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًا
And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace,Surat Al Furqan interpretation of the meaning[25:63]

وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ۚ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ
And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.Surat Al Fussilat interpretation of the meaning[41:34]

A muslim is humble and no matter what people call us,we are what we are Allah knows best what we are.Anybody calling us names wouldn't change that.
A scholar can give a better opinion insha'Allah.
Allah knows best.


Junior Member

Dear if you humble yourself for Allah subhanahu wa taaala then you are in the highest level of dignity and respect. Islam teaches us to control our ego and forgive others.


Staff member

The posts above are perfectly valid but remember Islam also says do not oppress or allow yourselves to be oppressed by others.

On that basis, if you know what you're apologising about, if there was something wrong you did that meant this individual was angry with you, then yes, you should apologise for whatever that was. If you've done nothing to earn the verbal abuse, then there is nothing to apologise about from your persepective.