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    Salam Alaikom,

    Me and my friend doesnt have frequent contact any more he Works a lott, better to say he has a job and due to his job and his insight about me as a muslim we dont socialize enough as we use to. He is informed about my reorientation. And now we socialize less frequently. I do need a friend.
    Should I continue my friendship with him. I didnt hear from him for a long time, he doesnt call me at all.
    I created a new opinion of him. He cares much for making Money. I ask myself whether to contact him. I have created an opinion about him as a person whos spirtual life isnt important. To the subject God he just ignores it by moving his hand over shoulder like such things doesnt matter.
    I would made an accent ''God does matter and in huge amount''. And he has behavior like huge power is in his hands although all the power belongs to Allah. Also he makes much pictures on Facebook and all the time he wants to show off. There could be a danger if i could continue my frienship with him he could lead me to disaster. There are many such pople in this world whos only occupation is to make Money and have interest to ruin others.
    Such people doesnt care about Allah because they look with they eyes but they cannot see. I use my patience as well, but here is an opportunity to discuss such issue.

    Salam brothers and systers, waiting for your reply
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    Walakiumas Salam. Hmm...it seems you are making a smart move. If you feel like he could be a bad influence in your life, I personally wouldn't hang around him. I would just pray for him. I wouldn't exactly ignore him, if you happen to meet him or he meets you, try to give him a bit of dawah if you can. It's kind of hard to say because it seems like you want to help this guy out, but he's not taking the time to contact you & it seems he doesn't have an interest in what you say especially about God. But at the same time, you don't want someone who could care less about God & has his life revolve around money, as this could possibly rub off on you & affect your life.

    I know for me, I lost a lot of "friends". I was able to see their true colors & subhanna'Allah, I was so thankful I didn't hang around them anymore because they have gone so far astray though they are non-Muslim (I do pray that Allah guides them). In the end, it did me good & alhamduiliah, I have better friends now...friends who remind me of Allah & those are the best kind of friends you can ask for. So if you have friends like those, keep them & hang around them. If you don't have good friends, make dua to Allah & insha'Allah, he'll give you good companionship.
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    You can also give him things to read, Islamic videos to look at, invite him to talks, ask him to meet with learned Muslims. Another form of da'wah includes doing things yourself and letting him to see or know about it. Eventually if he is curious, he will ask about them and you can use the opportunity to educate him about Islam.

    Other forms include reminding him of things in your own life that are important to you as a Muslim- Ramadan and fasting. Here you can just tell him how you intend to be for that month, that fasting is not just about abstaining from food and drink but also fasting for all organs and parts of the body and sin in general.

    If anything ever crops up in the mass media; you can use it to your advantage as he is likely to have some interest; perhaps in a negative way at first, but half the job will have been done and that is making him eager to hear what Islam has to say about itself when certain aspects are targeted by the Non Muslims. These will include polygyny, culture wrongly misinterpreted as Islam (such as female genital mutilation) etc. and alleged oppression of women through hijab. You can dispel such misconceptions by using simple logic, common sense, intelligent reasoning and the Qur'an and Sunnah themselves.
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    Allah knows best, I leave him to Allah
    Allah knows his creation the best, into details. I think he needs his own original proof to understand. Me personaly wasnt guided by myself and my own path for finding Allah diferentiate from others. Buy forcing somebody to something I could ruin his actual spiritual capacity. Allah knows best and the best of those who guides is Allah. An individue is suptile. This also aludes to my 'friend' as well. JazakAllah Khair all muslims and undiscovered non muslim potential.
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    I appretiate reply syster. Alhamdulillah. I'll use patience and Selam to you for comforing me. Salam, Salam, Salam. JazakAllah Khair.
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    To be honest he is having misconceptions about Islam. I know him as an honest person but he isnt familiar with the fact that cross doesnt simbolise God. His general opinion is that, and his point of wiew is through this simbol. I ask Allah for forgivnes if I prejudicate some words describing him. I must mention we are close friends from childhood through high school and untill now. And we stick together all this time. But it is very hard to present Islam in the best manner. Most people keep their private relationship with God in the way they know. The question is what will be the key point in which my 'non muslim' friend will change direction. We have seen through youtube about people with lot of interesting stories and each uniqe. I say I leave him to Allah to be the best judge. Allah knows best. Islam in Croatia exist for about 100 years but it is not kept in practise by majority. Assalam
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    May Allah make things easier for you and for him.

    I will make Dua for you both. Remember there is good in everything. We don't always see it nor are always prepared to accept it at first. It may be this is something that will make you and him stronger while Allah already has made a way out for you both and something great will happen in the long term with the best of results.

    It may be Allah has chosen you and made this a kind of test of endurance to prepare you for better things to come and the ability to take things at a better pace and with a higher spiritual mind set.

    Since Allah says He does not put anyone in any difficulty beyond their means, this is a kind of development which you will not fly through but pass with something to be gained from; lessons, morals, a change in attitude, perspective or something else. As long as you are patient, keep trying, believe in Him and that you will get through this, inshallah you will soon look back and reflect at the ease and accuracy of your predicament as being less than obstructive and complex as it seems now.

    The Prophet was asked several times about seeking relief from distress and in one Ahadith he replied-

    "If anyone constantly seeks pardon [from Allah], Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress..." (Abu Dawud)

    In other Ahadith, the Prophet (SAW) said-

    “Allāh’s Messenger (SAW) said: “Great rewards come from great trials. When Allāh loves someone, He tests them.” [سلسلة اﻷحاديث الصحيحة ١٤٦]

    Remember, although we should not ask for trial, the fact that something is or seems very difficult and you bear it with patience and additional prayer, you can become a believer and one of those close to Allah. Would you not be pleased with that rank and spiritual elevation.
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    Of course I would. Subhanallah.

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