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How to be a good husband in Islam
How to be a good husband in
Islam is something that every
Muslim man should learn before
entering into wedlock. Allah says
“And they (women) have rights
(over their husbands as regards
living expenses) similar (to those
of their husbands) over them (as
regards obedience and respect) to
what is reasonable” [Al-Baqarah
2:228] “
Treat her with respect & Care :
Remember Allah said that your
wife is made out of your rib, which
is very close to the heart. This
means that she is not meant to be
oppressed or subjugated or
harassed. Have you ever tried to
harass your organs closer to heart?
How about cutting of an artery
which is close to heart? How about
breaking all the ribs? Well, you
know the result. Therefore, woman
has been made out of something
close to the heart which means she
needs to be cared, protected and
loved.
Refrain from insulting your wife:
Never insult your wife, degrade her
or make fun of her in front of
others. Nor should you ever tell
about her weakness to others. She
is not your slave or servant, rather
she is your partner of life. So treat
her that way!
Give time to your wife :
Irrespective of how busy you are,
take out time for your wife. Spend
time with her, take her out, talk to
her and listen to her. Keep one day
of the week dedicated to your
wife, like Sunday, and let her know
that you dedicated it specially for
her. This makes her feel special in
your eyes.
Listen to her attentively : A good
husband is always a good listener.
Listen to everything that your wife
talks about and try to indulge in
the conversation. Don’t give a deaf
ear to your wife. How would you
feel if someone gives deaf ear to
you when you speak? Trust me, it
is really annoying. So stop doing
this to your wife and start
listening to her attentively.
Praise your wife’s beauty : Always
praise your wife’s beauty in front
of her, irrespective of how ugly she
is in reality. Try to make her feel
special. Use statements like “I
have never seen a more beautiful
woman than you” or “You are the
most beautiful woman in this
world” or “I am so lucky to find
such a beautiful woman” or “Even
if the beauty of this entire
universe comes together, it is no
match to your beauty” and so on…
Praising the beauty of a woman
gives her great happiness. So do it
regularly and as often as you can.
This will keep her happy.
Exchange gifts frequently : A’ishah
reported, The Prophet said: “Give
gifts to one another, for gifts take
away rancour.” The gift may not
be necessarily an expensive one.
Giving a simple “I love you” card
also counts in gifts. Try to buy her
a dress or something that she
wants. If you can’t afford it, then
at least let her know that you are
eagerly collecting money to buy
that thing for her. Trust me, she
will be flattered by this gesture
and finally you don’t really have to
buy it!
Consulting others on mutual
consent : A good husband always
takes the permission of his wife
before consulting on their marital
problems with others. A woman
feels much more comfortable if it
is discussed with someone she can
trust. So make sure you take her
consent.
Applaud your wife: A good husband
always encourages her wife in
everything she does. Encouraging a
woman in every task makes her
perfect. For example, a wife might
not cook well. But if she is trying
hard to learn, a good husband
would praise her cooking and
effort thus encouraging her to
become perfect in it.
Share the responsibility : Is there
are rule that husbands should not
look after the kids or the
household work? Absolutely No!
Look at the example of our
Prophet . The Prophet said
“Helping wives (in their domestic
work) earns (men) the reward of
charity.” Narrated Al-Aswad : I
asked A’isha, “What did the
Prophet do at home? ” She said,
“He used to work for his family
and when he heard the call for the
prayer, he would go out.”. So start
helping out your wife in washing
clothes & dishes, cleaning the
house, changing the diaper of your
baby and all the related work
when you are at home. Stop
behaving like a NUT just because
you earn for the family. You have
no idea how hard it is for a woman
to manage work! Get off that
couch on holidays and help out
your wife!
Give her freedom (shariah
compliant) : Your wife is a human
and requires freedom and space to
breath. Don’t push her too much
that she breaks down. Give her
freedom as far as she is within the
limts that Allah has defined. The
same goes for you as a man. Both
men and women can practice
freedom within the limits defined
by Allah. Let your wife have
freedom to think, to do what she
wants and to decide in matters.
Ask her to advice you in your
decisions for the family. This
makes her feel special.
Handle her with care: Woman is
fragile both physically and
mentally, hence handle her with
Care!
Source: Ummah
How to be a good husband in
Islam is something that every
Muslim man should learn before
entering into wedlock. Allah says
“And they (women) have rights
(over their husbands as regards
living expenses) similar (to those
of their husbands) over them (as
regards obedience and respect) to
what is reasonable” [Al-Baqarah
2:228] “
Treat her with respect & Care :
Remember Allah said that your
wife is made out of your rib, which
is very close to the heart. This
means that she is not meant to be
oppressed or subjugated or
harassed. Have you ever tried to
harass your organs closer to heart?
How about cutting of an artery
which is close to heart? How about
breaking all the ribs? Well, you
know the result. Therefore, woman
has been made out of something
close to the heart which means she
needs to be cared, protected and
loved.
Refrain from insulting your wife:
Never insult your wife, degrade her
or make fun of her in front of
others. Nor should you ever tell
about her weakness to others. She
is not your slave or servant, rather
she is your partner of life. So treat
her that way!
Give time to your wife :
Irrespective of how busy you are,
take out time for your wife. Spend
time with her, take her out, talk to
her and listen to her. Keep one day
of the week dedicated to your
wife, like Sunday, and let her know
that you dedicated it specially for
her. This makes her feel special in
your eyes.
Listen to her attentively : A good
husband is always a good listener.
Listen to everything that your wife
talks about and try to indulge in
the conversation. Don’t give a deaf
ear to your wife. How would you
feel if someone gives deaf ear to
you when you speak? Trust me, it
is really annoying. So stop doing
this to your wife and start
listening to her attentively.
Praise your wife’s beauty : Always
praise your wife’s beauty in front
of her, irrespective of how ugly she
is in reality. Try to make her feel
special. Use statements like “I
have never seen a more beautiful
woman than you” or “You are the
most beautiful woman in this
world” or “I am so lucky to find
such a beautiful woman” or “Even
if the beauty of this entire
universe comes together, it is no
match to your beauty” and so on…
Praising the beauty of a woman
gives her great happiness. So do it
regularly and as often as you can.
This will keep her happy.
Exchange gifts frequently : A’ishah
reported, The Prophet said: “Give
gifts to one another, for gifts take
away rancour.” The gift may not
be necessarily an expensive one.
Giving a simple “I love you” card
also counts in gifts. Try to buy her
a dress or something that she
wants. If you can’t afford it, then
at least let her know that you are
eagerly collecting money to buy
that thing for her. Trust me, she
will be flattered by this gesture
and finally you don’t really have to
buy it!
Consulting others on mutual
consent : A good husband always
takes the permission of his wife
before consulting on their marital
problems with others. A woman
feels much more comfortable if it
is discussed with someone she can
trust. So make sure you take her
consent.
Applaud your wife: A good husband
always encourages her wife in
everything she does. Encouraging a
woman in every task makes her
perfect. For example, a wife might
not cook well. But if she is trying
hard to learn, a good husband
would praise her cooking and
effort thus encouraging her to
become perfect in it.
Share the responsibility : Is there
are rule that husbands should not
look after the kids or the
household work? Absolutely No!
Look at the example of our
Prophet . The Prophet said
“Helping wives (in their domestic
work) earns (men) the reward of
charity.” Narrated Al-Aswad : I
asked A’isha, “What did the
Prophet do at home? ” She said,
“He used to work for his family
and when he heard the call for the
prayer, he would go out.”. So start
helping out your wife in washing
clothes & dishes, cleaning the
house, changing the diaper of your
baby and all the related work
when you are at home. Stop
behaving like a NUT just because
you earn for the family. You have
no idea how hard it is for a woman
to manage work! Get off that
couch on holidays and help out
your wife!
Give her freedom (shariah
compliant) : Your wife is a human
and requires freedom and space to
breath. Don’t push her too much
that she breaks down. Give her
freedom as far as she is within the
limts that Allah has defined. The
same goes for you as a man. Both
men and women can practice
freedom within the limits defined
by Allah. Let your wife have
freedom to think, to do what she
wants and to decide in matters.
Ask her to advice you in your
decisions for the family. This
makes her feel special.
Handle her with care: Woman is
fragile both physically and
mentally, hence handle her with
Care!
Source: Ummah