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Muslim families are at the crossroads today. The Western model is not a
suitable pattern for the family life. Its style of family life has
resulted in conjugal infidelity, large scale marriage breakdown, high
rates of divorces, separations, broken homes, alcoholism, drug
addiction, libertinism and the like.
Those who blindly mimic Western model, exploit their women to such an
extent that the latter are made mere sex objectives. The only solution
to the Muslim family's predicament is maintenance of Islamic family
values. Islam builds the family on solid grounds, which are capable of
providing continuity, security, mutual love and intimacy.
With a view to making the foundations of the family strong and natural,
Islam not only recognizes but also lays emphasis on marriage, which is a
wholesome pattern of lawful intimacy harmoniously blended with decency,
morality and gratification.
Marriage and the family are the focal point in the Islamic system. There
are many verses in the Qur'an and many statements of the Prophet
(Pbuh), which declare marriage to be a moral safeguard and a
religio-social commitment. For example, in the Surah Nissa, Allah calls
upon mankind to be dutiful to Him, who created them from it, created its
mate and from the two of them scattered abroad many men and women.
The Qur'an says that Allah has created for you from among yourselves
mates to seek mutual love and mercy. The Noble Prophet (Pbuh) is
reported to have said: "Marriage is my Sunnah; who so violates my
Sunnah is not one among us."
The aim of the Muslim family must be worship of Allah, as marriage is
considered to be yet another form of Ibadah. If the aim of the family is
carnal satisfaction or worldly gains, then the family institution fails
miserably.
The responsibility of the family does not revolve solely on the husband
or the wife or on children or grand-children. It is a collective
responsibility on all of them together and even beyond that to the
previous generation of grand-parents.
A family can be a Muslim family, only if parents behave correctly and
follow the Sunnah. If they do not live in accordance with the Sunnah,
they have no right to hope or expect their children to be good Muslims.
As you sow, so you reap.
Cultivation of Islamic values is essential in a Muslim family and they
should not only be cultivated but also nurtured. Our likes and dislikes,
our conception of nice and vulgar, good and neat and chaotic, etc., must
be in conformity with the Sunnah, for the Prophet (Pbuh) is reported to
have said: "The one among you does not believe unless his own
desires and likings are in conformity with what I have brought."
… Remember this applies to personal habits, dress, food manners,
etc.,
For the preservation and maintenance of the Muslim family there must be
instilled in its members a strong sense of belonging to the Muslim
Ummah. The family is not an individual entity; it is a social aspect and
so must be strengthened.
A Muslim family must socialize with other Muslim families. Parents must,
no doubt, avoid corrupt people and refrain from socializing in sick
environment and also see to it that their children avoid corrupt people
and refrain from socializing in sick environments.
At the same time, they must provide better alternatives and there can be
no better alternative then befriending good Muslims, especially Ulemas.
These are some ways of promoting and preserving the Muslim family. In
conclusion, I fervently appeal to my fellow-religionists to remain
continuously conscious and creative about the Islamic aspects. Educated
Muslims must apply the Islamic concepts; "think",
contemplate", "look", "realize", "know",
"become wise", "reason", etc., on the Muslim society,
and help in transformation of the Qur'anic and Prophetic concepts of
the family into our daily life.
One cool advise or what? :ma: I hope you enjoyed reading and if you have a family hope you implement this on your daily basis
Have a beautiful day full of Allah’s blessings
Your sister in Islam
Assalamu aleikum wrwb
How to Preserve the Muslim Family
Muslim families are at the crossroads today. The Western model is not a
suitable pattern for the family life. Its style of family life has
resulted in conjugal infidelity, large scale marriage breakdown, high
rates of divorces, separations, broken homes, alcoholism, drug
addiction, libertinism and the like.
Those who blindly mimic Western model, exploit their women to such an
extent that the latter are made mere sex objectives. The only solution
to the Muslim family's predicament is maintenance of Islamic family
values. Islam builds the family on solid grounds, which are capable of
providing continuity, security, mutual love and intimacy.
With a view to making the foundations of the family strong and natural,
Islam not only recognizes but also lays emphasis on marriage, which is a
wholesome pattern of lawful intimacy harmoniously blended with decency,
morality and gratification.
Marriage and the family are the focal point in the Islamic system. There
are many verses in the Qur'an and many statements of the Prophet
(Pbuh), which declare marriage to be a moral safeguard and a
religio-social commitment. For example, in the Surah Nissa, Allah calls
upon mankind to be dutiful to Him, who created them from it, created its
mate and from the two of them scattered abroad many men and women.
The Qur'an says that Allah has created for you from among yourselves
mates to seek mutual love and mercy. The Noble Prophet (Pbuh) is
reported to have said: "Marriage is my Sunnah; who so violates my
Sunnah is not one among us."
The aim of the Muslim family must be worship of Allah, as marriage is
considered to be yet another form of Ibadah. If the aim of the family is
carnal satisfaction or worldly gains, then the family institution fails
miserably.
The responsibility of the family does not revolve solely on the husband
or the wife or on children or grand-children. It is a collective
responsibility on all of them together and even beyond that to the
previous generation of grand-parents.
A family can be a Muslim family, only if parents behave correctly and
follow the Sunnah. If they do not live in accordance with the Sunnah,
they have no right to hope or expect their children to be good Muslims.
As you sow, so you reap.
Cultivation of Islamic values is essential in a Muslim family and they
should not only be cultivated but also nurtured. Our likes and dislikes,
our conception of nice and vulgar, good and neat and chaotic, etc., must
be in conformity with the Sunnah, for the Prophet (Pbuh) is reported to
have said: "The one among you does not believe unless his own
desires and likings are in conformity with what I have brought."
… Remember this applies to personal habits, dress, food manners,
etc.,
For the preservation and maintenance of the Muslim family there must be
instilled in its members a strong sense of belonging to the Muslim
Ummah. The family is not an individual entity; it is a social aspect and
so must be strengthened.
A Muslim family must socialize with other Muslim families. Parents must,
no doubt, avoid corrupt people and refrain from socializing in sick
environment and also see to it that their children avoid corrupt people
and refrain from socializing in sick environments.
At the same time, they must provide better alternatives and there can be
no better alternative then befriending good Muslims, especially Ulemas.
These are some ways of promoting and preserving the Muslim family. In
conclusion, I fervently appeal to my fellow-religionists to remain
continuously conscious and creative about the Islamic aspects. Educated
Muslims must apply the Islamic concepts; "think",
contemplate", "look", "realize", "know",
"become wise", "reason", etc., on the Muslim society,
and help in transformation of the Qur'anic and Prophetic concepts of
the family into our daily life.
One cool advise or what? :ma: I hope you enjoyed reading and if you have a family hope you implement this on your daily basis
Have a beautiful day full of Allah’s blessings
Your sister in Islam
Assalamu aleikum wrwb
