If you don't want to give something of yours

[Tabassum07]

:salam2:

I have a very silly question. Suppose someone asks me for something which belongs to me, but I don't want to give it to them. How can I get out of this situation without lying?

For example, an ex-colleague of mine asked for my password at work, but I just don't want them to have it, even if I'm not working there anymore. What will your reply to this person be? I was replying via email, so I said "I can't figure out my password, why don't you call tech support for such and such."

Was this a lie? What else could I have written back?

 

[alf2]

You dont have to lie, just tell them you'd feel more comfortable not giving them your password.

Well wait, first I'd say.."Why do you want it?" Just for the sake of curiousity, lol. THEN I'd say "I dont feel comfortable giving you my password"

 

[Tabassum07]

Yes, but the thing was, I didn't want her to know that I didn't feel comfortable giving her my password... She actually told me why she wanted it, which was a legitimate reason, but still....

I think I said a lie. :astag:

 

[Aroosak]

:salam2:

I agree with the previous posts that is always better to tell the truth. Even when we think we are wording things in a way that makes us feel like we are not lying, Allah knows our intentions and will judge us according to them.

That said there are some professional ways in which you can say no.

As someone mentioned you can say you are not comfortable with giving your password and maybe you can offer them another alternative. Maybe creating a new account where they will have their own password or give them whatever they are trying to retrieve using your password.

A little psychological trick is that when you are giving your answer try saying yes at the beginning of the sentence: if you say "yes I would be willing to help you with anything however I don't feel comfortable giving you my password, let's look at another way that we can fix this" by doing this you are agreeing to help without giving what you don't wanna give

InshAllah this helps...

 

[alf2]

Yes, but the thing was, I didn't want her to know that I didn't feel comfortable giving her my password... She actually told me why she wanted it, which was a legitimate reason, but still....

I think I said a lie. :astag:

I'll admit, sometimes lying does seem like the easiest scenario. And you were probably like "oh its a little white lie that wont hurt anyone" Still, even those little white lies could come back to bite, lol.

I'm pretty blunt so I would have just said no, lol. :shymuslima1: