Intimidating someone...

[Pharma_Sister]

:salam2:

Inshallah Tallah I find you all well.

I have a question, if someone finds you intimidating what does it imply? For instance, I met the future husband of a friend and keeping to the rules of Hijaab I didn't converse with him (besides saying Salaam), and kept my distance. However, afterwards my friend told me that he found me intimidating. At first (SubhanAllah) I found it quite amusing, but now I'm thinking is it because by seeing a Muslimah in proper Hijaab (abaya & large scarf where all you can see is the face and hands) I'm reminding him of his duties as a Muslim which (from what it seems) he is neglecting and it scares him?

Please share your thoughts.

Jazzak Allah Khair.

 

[abubaseer]

:salam2:

Oh so people feel "intimidated" even by Hijabis?! I thought it was limited to only bearded guys...

 

[megan]

subhanAllah!

I think you were very astute in saying that it reminds him of his duties as a Muslim, and seeing an example of hijab in the full meaning of the term (i.e. an attitude, not just a piece of cloth) may make him uncomfortable because he is used to a more watered-down Islamic practice? In any case, it is not our place to judge, may your friend and her future husband inshAllah help each other in their deen. Ameen.
I do not know the situation, or the man himself, only God knows what is in his heart, and I do not think you should take this badly; no matter how other people react, you act the way you do to please Allah SWT

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

you will find muslims of all types.

but pls let not this experience move you away from obeying Allah and wearing your proper hijab (abaya & large scarf)

may Allah reward u.

 

[a_muslimah86]

trust me ukhti..characters like that AMAZE YOU with their convictions and how they interact with others...

If you had conversed with him..cracked jokes..and laughed..and got all friendly..then as soon as you would have walked away..he would have said to your friend.."what is wrong with that friend of yours having no haya'a? talking to me as if we suckled baby formula out of the same bottle??!!!"

When you speak with modesty..and interact with modesty..you're not doing for the sake of the one you're conversing or interacting with..

You're keeping your modesty under the Sight of Allah and for the Sake of Allah!...if anyone can't *comprehend* the *simple* justification behind this..then that's *their* problem..and you should feel utmost pity towards them!

 

[Pharma_Sister]

SubhanAllah!

Jazzak Allah Khair for your comments. It may just be lack of understanding of our beautiful deen. May Allah SWA guide him and us all along the right path, Ameen (btw, I hope I didn't come across as someone who judges ppl, I try my best not to judge as I know that it's a bad quality - one can fall into the trap of pride, and that is something I would hate to have).

The thing that I keep on reminding myself (whenever I think about what happended) it is that Inshallah I've performed by duty to Allah SWA. I must try and achieve as many good deeds as possible whilst I am in this world, as we never know when the Angel of Death will come for us.

One thing I keep in mind is from a lecture I attended by Sheikh Yusuf Estes in 2007. He mentioned that "Adam (AS) was thrown out of Jannah coz he ate from the forbidden tree. If Allah SWA punished him for that, what will it be like for us?". May Allah SWA forgive our faults and accept our repentence, Ameen.

Jazzak Allah Khair for all your comments, and May Allah Tallah bestoe more of His Blessings on all us Muslims, Ameen.