Salam Alaykum, I am married for 2 1/2 years now. My husband wants to live in his country, and I want to live in my country. Since we got married I have gave up my life, and lived with him in his country, and i have only went to see my family for 2 weeks, and than came back. It wasn't enough for me. Especially for all that money we spent on a ticket. Even it's not just about seeing my family, because even if they were not there anymore i would still want to live in my country. I don't like anything about the country other than the food, and the only reason why my husband wont come to my country is, because he is a "mamas boy", and his family basically needs him financially. I understand that, but i don't know why he can't just get a job, and send them money, and talk to them on skype like all the other guys do, because he has already lived in my country for 8 years before we got married and he did that before. I cried many nights, and finally I came up with this brilliant idea that I think is good for both of us, and is fare enough. How about we split the year...for example...There is 12 months in a year. I can spend 6 months in his country with him. Than i go back to my country for 6 months, and out of those 6 months he can visit me in my country for just 1 1/2 months, because of his current job, so therefore it's like 7 1/2 months i'm with him, and only 4 1/2 months away from him. So during those 4 1/2 months i would be living with my family, and spending as much time with them. Than i would go back to him in his country, and live that disgusting oppressive lifestyle that they think is normal over there. I think this is fare, because I obviously don't belong over there, and he thinks the same. Yes, I have tried to do everything i can to blend in, dress, and to act like them etc. but i hate it. I feel like i am giving myself up. Why can't people over there just accept me for the way i am. I don't feel i should have to sacrifice everything, family, and self. I just can't live like that for the rest of my life. This is like a 50/50 deal, and yes i will be able to handle myself for 4 months. Plus i will talk to him everyday over skype etc. So tell me what you think....it's only 4 1/2 away for crying out loud.