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there is a friend who i dont want to mention their name or gender so i will call this friend 'bob'. Bob has been helping me with my illness by supporting me and being in contact with me and constantly making sure im alright.
Bob is a great friend to me and i feel allahs guidance through this friend.
Bob introduced me to a person who i will refer to as Marry. marry is older and much more experienced and can help me even more. Bob accept me to keep contact with Marry and bob promised not to be upset if i seek Marry's help.
Bob helped me discover my illness by referring me to a sheikh which was in January this year. Marry has been helping me for about 3 weeks. i did still keep incontact with bob and notified bob constantly about whats happening with me.
Bob did not reply to my emails for days this week and i knew something was wrong. what was wrong was bob was becoming upset and maybe jealous that i was seeking help from someone else.
in an email i recieved from bob today, it proved this.
so i told bob and made it clear that he felt i needed more help and support besides the sheikh that was helping me. bob was just someone i can talk to. but there was times bob wasnt strong enough to handle what was happening to me and refered me to marry. marry gave me good advice and listened to me and was much strong.
bob always asked me how things are going with marry. because marry was bobs friend, i had to say nice things and that her help was working. but this was actually wrong to do because it was making bob upset and jealous.
we a had a long conversation through email and bob was saying he wont help me anymore and doesnt want anything to do with me because i was relying on marry instead of allah and made it look like i was saying his work was nothing to me because marrys is better. this bothered me and made me cry because bob now refuses to communicate with me or return my emails.
i tried calling bob but no answer so i sent a message 'i know you dont want to talk to me i understand but i will be calling you now so please pick up for ALLAHS SAKE because i want to beg you for your forgivenss'
i called after a few minutes but still no answer. i emailed a nice email and appologised if i did anything wrong but still no reply.
this is burning me. i cant have this friend be upset with me. bob has been there for me more than my family support. bob helped me so much. im so upset and crying. what did i do wrong? if i did, im not sure what it is and i asked for forgiveness for allahs sake and no reply. where does that leave me?
what rewards will i get out of this from allah? someone rejectiing my forgiveness for allahs sake, what rewards will allah give me? plus, has bob fallin into a sin or done something bad by rejecting me? i was doing great and bobs help was really helping me, now i dont have bob i feel i can fall back. and my illness can get worse though the sheikh is still with me. but having a friend to talk to is different.
i dont want to call marry anymore because i dont want bob to get more upset. so what do i do?
i want to send bob an email but i dont want to type something that i regret because of my anger right now. what would you type to a friend who blames you for something you didnt do wrong, upset you and made you cry, considering my illness this friend rejected to help me for jealousy reasons. what should i say in my email?
plus,
what happens when i seek forgiveness from someone and they dont reply? will allah punish me or them? have i done enough? how can i get through this person, how?
:angryblue::shymuslima1:
Bob is a great friend to me and i feel allahs guidance through this friend.
Bob introduced me to a person who i will refer to as Marry. marry is older and much more experienced and can help me even more. Bob accept me to keep contact with Marry and bob promised not to be upset if i seek Marry's help.
Bob helped me discover my illness by referring me to a sheikh which was in January this year. Marry has been helping me for about 3 weeks. i did still keep incontact with bob and notified bob constantly about whats happening with me.
Bob did not reply to my emails for days this week and i knew something was wrong. what was wrong was bob was becoming upset and maybe jealous that i was seeking help from someone else.
in an email i recieved from bob today, it proved this.
so i told bob and made it clear that he felt i needed more help and support besides the sheikh that was helping me. bob was just someone i can talk to. but there was times bob wasnt strong enough to handle what was happening to me and refered me to marry. marry gave me good advice and listened to me and was much strong.
bob always asked me how things are going with marry. because marry was bobs friend, i had to say nice things and that her help was working. but this was actually wrong to do because it was making bob upset and jealous.
we a had a long conversation through email and bob was saying he wont help me anymore and doesnt want anything to do with me because i was relying on marry instead of allah and made it look like i was saying his work was nothing to me because marrys is better. this bothered me and made me cry because bob now refuses to communicate with me or return my emails.
i tried calling bob but no answer so i sent a message 'i know you dont want to talk to me i understand but i will be calling you now so please pick up for ALLAHS SAKE because i want to beg you for your forgivenss'
i called after a few minutes but still no answer. i emailed a nice email and appologised if i did anything wrong but still no reply.
this is burning me. i cant have this friend be upset with me. bob has been there for me more than my family support. bob helped me so much. im so upset and crying. what did i do wrong? if i did, im not sure what it is and i asked for forgiveness for allahs sake and no reply. where does that leave me?
what rewards will i get out of this from allah? someone rejectiing my forgiveness for allahs sake, what rewards will allah give me? plus, has bob fallin into a sin or done something bad by rejecting me? i was doing great and bobs help was really helping me, now i dont have bob i feel i can fall back. and my illness can get worse though the sheikh is still with me. but having a friend to talk to is different.
i dont want to call marry anymore because i dont want bob to get more upset. so what do i do?
i want to send bob an email but i dont want to type something that i regret because of my anger right now. what would you type to a friend who blames you for something you didnt do wrong, upset you and made you cry, considering my illness this friend rejected to help me for jealousy reasons. what should i say in my email?
plus,
what happens when i seek forgiveness from someone and they dont reply? will allah punish me or them? have i done enough? how can i get through this person, how?
:angryblue::shymuslima1:
i think it's you friend whose being infair and he shouldn't be.so once having said you're sorry i think yyour job there is done inshallah.