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    Assallamualaikum to all..

    Firstly, im new in this forum and i found that this forum is very interesting.

    I really need an advise from members here.

    Recently, a friend of mine is a muslim and he's living in Europe country. The problem was that i tried to advised him to get back to the right path and repented but its seems that he doesnt want to listen.

    His is drowning & ruining himself and he said that the cause of his downfall was due to his unsuccessful marriage & newly love relationship with his girlfriend. I'm sadden with his attitude as his now becoming from bad to worst.. such as his got drunk, having drugs and messing around with girls without thinking about the consequences. When i said about the sins and advise him about islam, he said to me that .. Life is short and to enjoy life as he realised that after all he knew where is he heading in the end.

    Does his newly g/f realiable with the sins his done? As he was blaming her for his downfall n his sins.

    Does Allah punish her too if it's truly her fault that she was the cause of it?

    How can i advise him and bring him back to the right path? It's so sadden to see a Muslim ruined his life cause of the girl.

    Inshallah, with some advise from the members here.. i hope that he repented and get back to the right path again.

    Regards & Allah Hafiz
    Nur
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    Your duty is only to tell him the truth of the matter.

    His actions are his own, he can not blame his girlfriend or any other thing. Allah has given him a brain and a heart, he should repent to Allah (swt) and do good deeds.

    You can only do so much, you can advise him by telling him about Islam. That Allah always gives a chance to his believers to make Tawba, and ask forgiveness.

    If his marriage is finished and he is divoced, then he could marry his gf. Otherwise it is a haram situation he is in.

    Really he must think about the next life, and it seems he doesnt care about it or fear Allah. Such a sad situation to be in.



    Question:
    Do you have any advice for young men who are indulging in worldly pleasures and who forget to prepare and strive for the Day of Resurrection?.

    Answer:
    Praise be to Allaah.

    Our advice to negligent youth is to repent before it is too late and before they come to regret not doing their duty towards Allaah. For death may come suddenly; and Allaah may give respite but no wrongdoer can escape His punishment, and He is Almighty and is the One Who wreaks vengeance.

    Sin has an effect on the body and soul, and its consequences may come in this world, before the Hereafter. They should remember the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) concerning the six whom Allaah will shade from the heat of the Day of Resurrection in the shade of the Throne: “… and a young man who grew up worshipping Allaah …” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 660; Muslim, 1031.

    They should feel shy before their Lord and should feel ashamed when the ummah is being attacked by its enemies and needs young people to lead this ummah out of its crisis and to fight the enemy in jihad in obedience to Allaah. They should think of the last verse of the Qur’aan to be revealed, and the last command that Allaah gave to mankind (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And fear the Day when you shall be brought back to Allaah. Then every person shall be paid what he earned, and they shall not be dealt with unjustly”
    [al-Baqarah 2:281]

    And Allaah knows best. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and companions.
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