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The Prophet (saw) said:
O Fathers, how longer will you keep your daughter ‘locked-in’, awaiting for that doctor to come along with a milllion pounds in his bank account? As the Prophet (saw) (the one you claim to love and folow) said:
(a) Most men would now have chosen partners so her ‘choice of men’ is limited.
(b) Men, by nature, are more interested in a woman who is younger than her by a few years, so again, her proposals would not be as many.
So note, that when her proposals and prospects are limited (due to te above two reasons) she ends up marrying a person, who she may only accept because, ‘he will do’ or because she’s got no-one else to choose from.
So the love and compassion is not deeply rooted in such a marriage.
“When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.“
[Tirmidhi, Nasa'i & Ibn Majah]
O Fathers, how longer will you keep your daughter ‘locked-in’, awaiting for that doctor to come along with a milllion pounds in his bank account? As the Prophet (saw) (the one you claim to love and folow) said:
“When your daughter reaches the age of puberty, look for a suitible partner for her.”
It is sad to see fathers prolong their daughters marriage, until she is in an age where marriage would not be as ‘exciting’ as it would be if she was married earlier. Lkewise, delaying her marriage until she is older only limits the number of proposals that may come to her as:
(a) Most men would now have chosen partners so her ‘choice of men’ is limited.
(b) Men, by nature, are more interested in a woman who is younger than her by a few years, so again, her proposals would not be as many.
So note, that when her proposals and prospects are limited (due to te above two reasons) she ends up marrying a person, who she may only accept because, ‘he will do’ or because she’s got no-one else to choose from.
So the love and compassion is not deeply rooted in such a marriage.