salahdin
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بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ
OH FATHER! THIS MESSAGE IS FOR YOU
إليك يا أبتي
ADHERENCE IN THE HOUSE: in addition to singing, which collects the lowest of devils at home... there is the social intermingling between men and women with which sanctities are violated...
The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has prohibited it saying: «إياكم والدخول على النساء!» قالوا: أفرأيت الحمو؟ قال: «الحمو الموت»
"Beware of entering upon women." A man said, "Allah's Apostle! What about Al-Hamu (the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.))?" The Prophet replied: The in-laws of the wife are death itself." [Agreed upon] And how many houses were destroyed by this social intermingling between men and women... How many houses it caused to lose chastity... it cut off the relations between relatives and cut off the affection and intimacy...
O father! Do not follow the footsteps of the devil...
وَمَن يَتَّبِعْ خُطُوَاتِ الشَّيْطَانِ فَإِنَّهُ يَأْمُرُ بِالْفَحْشَاء وَالْمُنكَرِ
{And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaitân (Satan), then, verily he commands Al-Fahshâ’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islâm)]}. [Surat An-Nûr: 21].And ward off your home against sins and violations... warding off evil is of the causes of bliss in the home and the offspring... and in the intimacy in your home...
Allah the Almighty has said:
فَمَنِ اتَّبَعَ هُدَايَ فَلَا يَضِلُّ وَلَا يَشْقَى
(123)وَمَنْ أَعْرَضَ عَن ذِكْرِي فَإِنَّ لَهُ مَعِيشَةً ضَنكًا وَنَحْشُرُهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ أَعْمَى
{whoever follows My Guidance he shall neither go astray, nor shall be distressed. (123) "But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e. neither believes in this Qur’ân nor acts on its teachings.) verily, for him is a life of hardship, and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection."} [Surat Tâhâ: 124.123]Not inciting for obedience and commitment: O Father, you have learned that Allah, glorified and exalted has commanded you to incite your family, your children and your relatives to obey Allah, glorified and exalted, He has said:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
{O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones} [Surat Ay-Tahrîm: 6]It is clear from these texts that children should be raised according to Islam, that this is entrusted to the necks of their parents, and that it is the right of children over their parents and guardians, and others.
It is of the righteous acts of obedience with which parents draw nearer to their Lord, and continue to be rewarded for, as a continuation of the ongoing charity.
It was proven that the Prophet,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has said: إذا مات ابن آدم انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: علم ينتفع به،
أو ولد صالح يدعو له، أو صدقة جارية
"When the son of Adam dies, his deeds ends except for three: charity that is ongoing, knowledge benefited from and a righteous son who will pray (supplicate) for him.", and that the one who neglects this trust is a sinner and disobedient to Allah. He bears the burden of his sin before his Lord, and then before His slaves!) [Guarding Virtue: 128 (Hirâsat Al-Fadîlah: 128)]أو ولد صالح يدعو له، أو صدقة جارية
O father! Remember that the spreading of obedience and commitment in your house is the key to bliss.
Allah Almighty has said:
وَلَوْ أَنَّ أَهْلَ الْقُرَى آمَنُواْ وَاتَّقَواْ لَفَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِم بَرَكَاتٍ مِّنَ السَّمَاء وَالأَرْضِ
{And if the people of the towns had believed and had the Taqwâ (piety), certainly, We should have opened for them blessings from the heaven and the earth} [Surat Al-A'râf: 96].It is also the key to happiness and tranquility. Allah Almighty has said:
مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً
وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُم بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُواْ يَعْمَلُونَ
{Whoever works righteousness - whether male or female - while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islâmic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter).} [Surat An-Nahl: 97].وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُم بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُواْ يَعْمَلُونَ
O father: Do not overlook us... with your absence from home, care is absent as well... emptiness prevails... and the dignity of the house descends to a very deep pit!
You are the glory and dignity of home when you are in it...
You are our example to follow... we consult you… your advice guides us... we feel safe by your directions and guidance...
If you leave me and my siblings for frivolous luxuries... or for never ending trades... or for fun trips, you must know that your home is inevitably apt to ruin and destruction...
And as that you have a right over yourself... your child and your family have a right upon you... their right is more than just a piece of bread... or something to drink and a shelter!
You are all what they want if you just know!
Why did you not command me to perform prayers?
Father: This is the Prophet; his Lord speaks to him and orders him to incite his family to perform prayers:
وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا لَا نَسْأَلُكَ رِزْقًا نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُكَ
وَالْعَاقِبَةُ لِلتَّقْوَى
{And enjoin As-Salât (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them [i.e. the Salât (prayers)]. We ask not of you a provision (i.e. to give Us something: money): We provide for you. And the good end (i.e. Paradise) is for the Muttaqûn (the pious} [Surat Tâhâ: 132].وَالْعَاقِبَةُ لِلتَّقْوَى
Allah has praised one of His prophets because he was keen in performing prayers, He has said:
وَكَانَ يَأْمُرُ أَهْلَهُ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَالزَّكَاةِ
{And he used to enjoin on his family and his people As-Salât (the prayers) and the Zakât (alms giving)} [Surat Maryam: 55].O father! Even though I have reached the age of seven I have not seen you encourage me to perform prayers... nevertheless, when I have reached the age of ten you have not, even once, reprimanded me for neglecting praying... and how many other times you have reprimanded me for inferior things such as the cleanliness of my clothes.
Have you not heard the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah
صلى الله عليه و سلم
when he has said:علموا أبناءكم الصلاة وهم أبناء سبع، واضربوهم عليها وهم أبناء عشر، وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع
"Command your children to pray when they become seven years old, and beat them for it (prayer) when they become ten years old; and separate between them in beds?" [Reported by Abu Dawud]O father I wish that you had implanted in me the love for the Masjid when I was young...
I wish that you had me get used to going to it... and that you made me taste the sweetness of prayer and worship!
This – of course – is no excuse for me... or a justification to stop praying after that I have become a young man... but I regret it deeply that I have been denied the delight of prayer for one day of my time...
I was not getting the reward of growing up on the guidance and prayers on your hands, O father!
Prayers are light, illumination, sublimity and highness... it is the pledge of Islam, which if left by the slave of Allah, he rejects Islam.
