salahdin
Junior Member
بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ
OH FATHER! THIS MESSAGE IS FOR YOU
إليك يا أبتي
All praise is due to Allah alone, and blessings and peace of Allah be upon the last of the Prophets.
Oh father! This is my message to you... where I express my sorrow and grief... my concerns and distress... I am doing what I deem my duty of giving advice... as a reminder and a warning... You may gain by it the best a father can get out of his son... because a good son is the provision of the believer in this world and the Hereafter.
The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم
, has said: إذا مات ابن آدم انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية وعلم ينتفع به،
أو ولد صالح يدعو له
"When the son of Adam dies, his deeds ends except for three: charity that is ongoing, knowledge benefited from and a righteous son who will pray (supplicate) for him".أو ولد صالح يدعو له
Every father who has had a role in the righteousness of his son, the goodness of his son grants him the reward of discipline… Then his son's good prayers follow him to the Hereafter.
However, if the father is the cause of affliction of his son, he commits a tremendous sin, and he will be held accountable for it in the Day of Resurrection.
If you had taken care of me when I was young, I would have surpassed some serious ordeals... But Allah has predetermined, and what He wished for, He has done, discipline is best in young age.
It is easier and more uncomplicated.
قد ينفع الأدب الأحداثَ في صغر *** وليس ينفعهم في بعده الأدبُ
إن الغصــونَ إذا عدّلتهـا اعتدلـت *** ولا يليــنُ إذا قـوّمتَـهُ الحطـــبُ
Discipline might be beneficial when young *** after that no discipline is of benefitإن الغصــونَ إذا عدّلتهـا اعتدلـت *** ولا يليــنُ إذا قـوّمتَـهُ الحطـــبُ
Young branches straighten if adjusted *** but firewood is never softened
Here father is the text of this message:
Your child has a right over you!
Certainly father! And his right is that you educate and discipline him well... so that he will be an asset and a reward for you with Allah, and to avoid the consequences of the question on the Day of Resurrection!
The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم
, has said: إن لربك عليك حقاً، ولنفسك عليك حقاً، ولأهلك عليك حقاً،
ولولدك عليك حقاً، فأعط كل ذي حق حقه
"your Lord has a right over you, and you have a right over yourself, and your family has a right over you, and your child has a right over you, so give whoever has a right over you his right". [Reported by Muslim]ولولدك عليك حقاً، فأعط كل ذي حق حقه
The Prophet,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has said in demonstration of the responsibility of discipline: كلكم راع ومسؤول عن رعيته، والرجل راع في أهله، ومسؤول عن رعيته
"Every one of you is a guardian, and is responsible for his subjects …a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it" [Agreed upon].The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has charged those who neglected that trust with a great sin, he has said:ما من عبد يسترعيه الله رعية يموت يوم يموت وهو غاش لرعيته،
إلا حرم الله عليه الجنة
"whenever a guardian, who Allah has entrusted with wards, dies while he is cheating his wards, but Allah will forbid Paradise on him". [Reported by Al-Bukhari]إلا حرم الله عليه الجنة
The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has said:كفى بالمرء إثماً أن يضيع من يقوت
"it is enough of a sin for a man to mislead those whom he provides for." [Narrated by Abu Dawud]Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
وكم ممن أشقى ولده وفلذة كبده في الدنيا والآخرة، بإهماله، وترك تأديبه وإعانته على شهواته، ويزعم أنه يكرمه وقد أهانه، وأنه يرحمه وقد ظلمه، ففاته انتفاعه بولده، وفوت عليه حظه في الدنيا والآخرة، وإذا اعتبرت الفساد في الأولاد رأيت عامته من قبل الآباء
"How many parents are there who caused misery to their offspring in this world and the Hereafter; by neglecting him, and by not disciplining him and helping him to his lusts. He claims that he honors him, but he humiliates him, and that he mercies him while he has been unjust, so he missed benefiting from his son, and lost his share in this world and the Hereafter. And if you consider the corruption of the children, you will see that their corruption has come to them through their parents." [Tuhfat Al-Maudûd Bi-Ahkâm Al-Maulûd (The Amiable Guide to the Provisions of Raising the New-Born)]In this sense, The Messenger of Allah,
صلى الله عليه و سلم,
has said: كل مولود يولد على الفطرة فأبواه يهودانه أو يمجسانه أو ينصرانه
"Every child is born with a true faith (i.e. to worship none but Allah alone) but his parents convert him to Judaism or to Christianity or to Magianism". [Narrated by Al-Bukhari]O father... Remember that
ليس اليتيم من انتهى أبواه *** من همّ الحياة وخلّفاه ذليلاً
إن اليتيم هو الذي تلقى له *** أمّــا تخلّـت أو أبـاً مشغــولاً
He is not an orphan whose parents perished *** from life and left him humiliatedإن اليتيم هو الذي تلقى له *** أمّــا تخلّـت أو أبـاً مشغــولاً
An orphan is he who has *** a deserting mother or a busy father
No, father!
No father... What I see is that you have not built our house on a solid foundation of piety, faith and obedience... rather; you have empowered the devil in our house...
From the ways of empowering the Devil:
Songs: that wide spread evil which was pushing me to evil actions... it led me to committing violations with what it included of the inherent immorality and explicit meanings... which go into the song as salt dissolves in the water!
O father! Did you not realize that singing makes hypocrisy grow in the hearts... and that it is the spell to adultery...?
You do not see most of its people but having their modesty lost and fallen into prohibited matters...
Allah Almighty has prohibited singing in the text of the verse:
وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يَشْتَرِي لَهْوَ الْحَدِيثِ لِيُضِلَّ عَن سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ
{And of mankind is he who purchases idle talks (i.e. music, singing, etc.) to mislead (men) from the Path of Allâh} [Surat Luqman: 6]Transliteration: Wamina alnnasi man yashtaree lahwa alhadeethi liyudilla AAan sabeeli Allahi
TV SATELLITE CHANNELS: What would remain of modesty during the day time… satellite channels in our house would terminate it... with what they include of explicit singing… shameless movies... vile series. Where hundreds of stations are competing to kill chastity and modesty...
However, some of them aim at causing young people to fall into evil actions such as adultery, drinking alcohol, drugs and organized crime...
All of this was greatly affecting my personality... it made me a character full of everything except for modesty, chastity and obedience...
