please give me and us your openion...

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    I just wanted to ask you my brothers and sisters about something that I kept dreaming about from along time ago and still dreaming about it ..

    what do you think of an Arabian girl marrying a non-Arabian man, who is Muslim and has what it takes ( fears Allah, pray on time, read the Holly Qura'an ) and all the great things that an Arabian Muslim do?


    cause i'm a Saudi girl who wants so badly to marry a non-Saudi man ..
    and please don't get me wrong it's not that the Saudi guy is bad or anything .. he is perfect .. he is my brother, uncle, grandfather and my father .. it's just that i want to be married to a non-Saudi muslim guy..someone from The US or Canda or anywhere from Europe ..


    So please tell me your true openion .. and don't be rude!..

    with my full respect to each one of you ..
    Nouf :SMILY139:
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    :hijabi: Asalaamu Alaikum

    Why not? Islam does not prohibit it. Will your family allow it though?

    Wa Salaamu Alaikum
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    go ahead sister

    i am not saudi nor arabian. i live in the states. one thing that troubles me about arabian people is their spirit of tribalism.
    it strikes me a great deal when i know that there still parts of the muslim world that think within the very narrow, geographic or racial entities.

    sister, islam more than any other religion liberates you from non sense considerations.
    In your husband or your prospective one, you need not to look more than to the religion. may he be from mars, as long as you can read the quran together, wake for for fajr and break the fast together.

    Muslims are not defined by being from the usa, canada or saudi arabia.
    they are defined by being muslims.

    Bilal. Va. usa.
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    Sis i think its totally up to you if you want to marry a non saudi or a saudi.

    But comming from your background,If you do take that move of marrying a non saudi with that effect your parents???

    Why don`t you have a word with your mum so then she can have a word with your dad.:hijabi:

    :wasalam:
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    السلام عليكم

    Islam does not prevent the marriage of the Muslim Arab from different regions. In my country there are some ladies from Europe and from different country married from Muslim Arab,

    The only thing prevent that marriage is the Traditions which exists in some Arab country

    والسلام عليكم
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    Assalam Alykom

    I am not arabian, neither I am European or American. I believe it is your choice inshallah, and there is nothing wrong with it. Mashallah it is very wise to marry someone who prays, read quran, and implement Islam everyday.

    Consulting the parents, and their dua can have so much success for you in the life and hereafter. I would encourage Muslims to marry muslimah regardless of where they come from, what colour they are, and in the case of my country what tribe they from.... Your are following the Hadieth of our beloved prophet(PBUH) Mashallah....

    May Allah taa'la help you sister, and bring you success and happy marriage that every Muslimah deserve.. Amiin Amiin

    Wassalam Alykom
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    Dangerous!

    W-Salam,

    Sister; I have lived extensively in Saudia and what you are about to do is very dangerous for you and your future husband.

    Your children will be shunned in the community.

    If you realise the repurcussions of your steps and still want to proceed; then go ahead.

    THINK & ACT, Insha'Allah.

    This is EXTREMELY dangerous & I am sure that you know that.

    P.S: I am sorry but just about everyone who has answered you have no idea about the ground reality.

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    Assalamualaikum

    How about maryying and living in another arab/muslim country??
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    i don't want to seem rude, but you haven't provided a good reason why you want to marry someone from the US, Canada, or Europe. it sounds a little suspicious, like someone seeking citizenship to these countries. the reason why i say this is because any non-arab muslim man will find it strange that you being Saudi want so desperately want to find a husband from these countries when your country is full of muslim men. my point is that there is no guarantee that an American, Canadian, or European is going to be the way that you hope for. maybe the best husband may happen to be from Nigeria, who knows?
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    Not Funny!

    Asslamo Allaikum Brothers/Sisters,

    If she is speaking the truth; then she is in a highly dangerous situation; please don't condemn her.

    Try to be understanding.

    Please advise her IF you know the situation; ELSE make dua for HER!

    Go to any Al-Jareer book store in Saudia or in the malls & there are plenty of Sisters following the Qur’aan/Sunnah in similar situations

    I know what she is saying but don’t know how to advice.
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    Assalam Alykom

    Brother Global Peace, I have lived in the Gulf for 15 years before coming to London. There are many difficulties, and there are certain brothers and sisters and may be government who treat other muslims in certain way that does not please Allah taa'la. For example, subhanallah in Saudi Airport my father was being called not by his name but he was labelled as ''Slave'' they say ''Ya Abd'', which I believe breaking the islamic rules, May Allah forgive and guide everyone that harms his/her brother to the right path inshallah.. I love my muslims brothers and sisters, from Saudi, and everywhere else in the world...

    I really do not want to go into details, otherwise I'll be sitting here all day....

    But sister Nouf, be optimistic and ask Allah taa'la for guidance inshallah, Prophet (PBUH) encouraged us to be optimistic to reach our objectives regardless of the obstacles..... '' Tafaalow bel khair tajedouh ''......

    Wassalam alykom...
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    Greetings..!

    Assalamualaikum,

    There's nothing wrong for you, an Arab to marry another non-Arab according to Islam.

    Here is part of the last sermon from Prophet Muhammad s.a.w:

    "All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves."

    Source: http://www.introductiontoislam.org/prophetlastsermon.shtml


    Hopefully this helps.
    May Allah s.w.t guide us to the straight path. Ameen.

    Wasalam.
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    I dont think marrying to a non-muslim is wrong at all. sister i understand your situation because im from kuwait in these days from what ive seen and experienced religion is becoming a culture and people status thing in the middle-east and i think thats wrong because it divides people up. so if you intention is to get married to fullfil the other half of your deen then it doesnt matter who is the person because Allah is great and islam is againts racisim.
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    SAlam Alaikum

    Sister Nouf inshAllah all is well with you and you family

    I am a Canadian married to a Syrian man and things mashAllah are great!! I think intercultural marriages are wonderful, for me I got to experience things I may never have experienced with a Canadian man, and the food...yummm adds to the variety :). Alhamdulillah both of our families are very accepting of our marriage although I know there are people who have strong cultural ties, but forgive me if i'm wrong but I believe that is haram since Islam comes 1st.
    So sister talk to your family about this and goodluck!
    FiaminAllah
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    I think this's a good question, Why do you deprive the other countries?Somalia,Indonicia or India and so on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Islamicly there's nothing wrong with it, as long as the man is a good Muslim.

    Culturally, you'll run into problems like GP stated, and I'm sure you're well aware of this. I know it would be hard for you to marry and stay there, but would it be OK to marry and live in Europe/Canada/US? Just asking...I don't know the answer.

    Also...I don't think you wanting to marry a Western man is bad. Many people see Western men as being more financially stable (even though this certainly isn't always true) or imagine that they'll have more freedom and rights if they live in the West (which is true in some cases). For those who ask why not Indian, Indonesian men, etc. - perhaps she just isn't attracted to those races and doesn't really see herself falling in love with someone from those cultures. Everyone has preferences - doesn't mean she should marry a white guy because she thinks white guys are attractive, and it doesn't mean she'll never marry anyone else. It's just what she might see as more probable. Just my two cents - can't answer for her!
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    Actually, it is wrong for her to marry a non-Muslim. Muslim women can only marry Muslim men. So she can marry a white/Western man, as long as he's Muslim.
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    When you say Muslim men, does he have to be a born Muslim? Or a convert is OK? I hope this does not sound stupid. I am just kinda curious. Because in our tribe it is a big NO-NO for Muslim women to marry even Muslim converts. Is it in the Qur'an or Hadiths that Muslim women should only marry born-Muslim guys?

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    salam ya ukty,
    i wish to answer you in light of the quran and saying of the prophet and you decide wat is best for you
    "O humankind, We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes so that you may know one another. Surely the noblest among you in the sight of Allah is the one of you who is most truly devout.
    (49:13)

    and the prophet Muhammad SAW said in his Last Sermon in the 'Uranah valley of Mount Arafat.:
    All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.

    so ya ukty make ur decision base on the above
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    Marriage of Muslim woman!

    Asslamo Allaikum,

    A Muslim woman has an ISLAMIC RIGHT to marry any MUSLIM man she wants Insha'Allah; whether he is a born Muslim or revert....White, Black, Asian, Indonesian, Arab etc...

    She must have her priorities correct as the I put last week in the post:

    1) Islam
    2) Financially stable
    3) Looks and/or 4) Family

    Shaykh said that 1 & 2 are advised for woman in that order, Insha'Allah

    Kuff (compatibility) is dead important between potential spouses.

    If she gets the priorities wrong then it is potentially KISS-A-MARRIAGE-GOOD-BYE!

    Having said all that; I can't see HOW any woman would want to marry someone other then a Pakistani based on sheer looks & personality! :)

    Brothers/Sisters! Her question has more to do with culture then Islam; and she is in a potentially dangerous situation.

    If she is telling the truth then debate about culture/Islam wont help her. She needs to make a decision, draw a line in the sand and move on!

    P.S: There are plenty of Phillipino Sisters married to Non-phillipinos (Born & reverts!)...I know the Phillipinos very well and know the lingo a little bit...Good people Masha'Allah.

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