guidemetojannah
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Asalaamu Alykum
I have been married for three months and Alhumdolillah I am very happy that Allah swt has blessed with such a beautiful companion (inside and out).
Prior to getting married and gaining a better understanding of this beautiful deen, whilst living in jahiliya i did alot of things that i am not proud of and this includes having boyfriends. Recently i dont know how but i have given my husband the impression that i am hiding something from him........he feels as though that i want to tell him something but am holding back. So everytime this conversation comes up i change the subject.
I dont know what to do should i be completely truthful with him about my past life...........you must understand that i've been muslim all my life and anything that i've done haraam i did behind my familys back.......so they dont know anything. One of the guys that i was with is a part of my extended family (so my hubby knows him) and we considered marriage but Ahumdolillah it never happened. This guy keeps telling my cousin that he still loves me and that i am the love of his life despite being married with children.
Basically am scared that if i dont tell my husband that one day someone will.............i have no feelings for my ex...........i wish he would just get on with his life and forget me and remember that i am someone elses wife.
This someone who i dearly love and want to inshallah spend the rest of my life with.
Does my hubby really need to know about my past incomparison to him (my hubby) i will seem like a ultra slapper ...........which i never was! shouldnt the past stay in the past.
i would also like a brother's perspective.........what would you say or think if your wife told you this.
sisters please advise me.........what should i do...............
Jazakallah Khair
I have been married for three months and Alhumdolillah I am very happy that Allah swt has blessed with such a beautiful companion (inside and out).
Prior to getting married and gaining a better understanding of this beautiful deen, whilst living in jahiliya i did alot of things that i am not proud of and this includes having boyfriends. Recently i dont know how but i have given my husband the impression that i am hiding something from him........he feels as though that i want to tell him something but am holding back. So everytime this conversation comes up i change the subject.
I dont know what to do should i be completely truthful with him about my past life...........you must understand that i've been muslim all my life and anything that i've done haraam i did behind my familys back.......so they dont know anything. One of the guys that i was with is a part of my extended family (so my hubby knows him) and we considered marriage but Ahumdolillah it never happened. This guy keeps telling my cousin that he still loves me and that i am the love of his life despite being married with children.
Basically am scared that if i dont tell my husband that one day someone will.............i have no feelings for my ex...........i wish he would just get on with his life and forget me and remember that i am someone elses wife.
This someone who i dearly love and want to inshallah spend the rest of my life with.
Does my hubby really need to know about my past incomparison to him (my hubby) i will seem like a ultra slapper ...........which i never was! shouldnt the past stay in the past.
i would also like a brother's perspective.........what would you say or think if your wife told you this.
sisters please advise me.........what should i do...............
Jazakallah Khair