Silence is Golden

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  1. Umm Aysha
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    Asalaamu'alaykum

    Silence is Golden


    Arresting Speech

    The thing which is most deserving of imprisonment is the tongue.
    [Statement of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ood radhi’allaahu ‘anhu]

    Speech is one of the most clear indications of what a person thinks or feels, it is an
    account from the person himself. This statement of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ood radhi’allaahu
    ‘anhu reflects the fact that Islam focuses on building the character of an individual as
    part of the religion itself. One of the qualities which paints an individual as reckless
    and mindless is too much talking. Not only does it display a person’s lack of wisdom and
    intelligence (when it is needless), but also can lead to many problems due to a lack of
    caution. On the other hand, a wise person will be a person of few words which are carefully
    chosen and reflected upon. Furthermore when a reserved person speaks, his/her speech is
    given more import due to the fact that the person does not saturate the conversation with a
    lot of throw-away ideas and rambles. Another proverb is the saying back home: “An empty
    vessel sounds much.”

    The Tongue is Tied to the Heart

    The faith of a slave is not correct until his heart is correct and his heart is not correct
    until his tongue is correct…

    [Ahmad]

    Thus Islam teaches us that the heart is indeed tied to our actions, specifically speech. It
    is not enough to believe in the heart and claim a high level of faith - it must shape a
    person’s character as well. This is why the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam even
    enjoined on us, while appealing to belief in Allah the Almighty:

    Let the one who believes in Allah and the Hereafter utter good words, or let him be silent.
    [Bukhari, Muslim]

    He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam further said:

    Part of the goodness of one’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him.
    [Tirmidhi]

    So not only is a wise person sparing in his/her speech, but is also selective about when it
    is necessary to engage his/her mind and efforts. Things which are futile or harmful should
    be avoided so as not to use precious energy nor pollute one’s soul with useless clutter.

    The ahadith go on to state that this key characteristic caution in one’s speech, or the
    lack of it- is one of the sole qualities which can make an individual one of the best or one
    of the worst people.

    The most disliked of men to Allah are those who are extreme in disputes (which reach the
    level of enmity).
    [Bukhari]

    The most beloved of you to me in the Hereafter are the best of you in character. The most
    disliked of you to me and the farthest from me in the Hereafter are the worst of you in
    character: those who talk too much repeating themselves needlessly, and opening their mouths
    wide when talking, and those who joke and mock others even twisting their mouths in mockery.
    [Ahmad]

    So one should avoid delving in matters of no benefit, arguing needlessly to the point of
    hatred, talking too much and too fast, in a rude and uncouth manner. These exaggerated
    styles of speech paint a person as loud, annoying, and undignified.

    In a lengthy hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, he was mentioning to
    Mu’adh radhi’allahu ‘anhu how to do all the best deeds and remain steadfast in the Deen
    and asked:

    “Should I not inform you of the head of all of this and its support and its pinnacle?”
    I
    said, “Of course yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “The
    head of it is submission, its pillar is prayer and its pinnacle is fighting in the path of
    Allah.”
    Then he said, “Should I not inform you of what enables and makes firm all of that?”
    I said, “Of course yes, O Messenger of Allah.” So, he took hold of his tongue and said,
    “Keep control of this.” I said, “O Messenger of Allah, are we to be taken to account for
    what we say?”
    He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “May your mother be bereaved of you
    O Mu’adh! What throws the people into the fire on their faces other than the fruits of their
    tongues?”

    [Tirmidhi]


    Therefore if a person aims to go far in their worship of Allah and refinement of character,
    they should begin by taming the tongue.

    A Slippery Slope

    Again, as mentioned above, speaking less, while a virtue in and of itself, is also
    beneficial due to the fact that it reduces the possibility of a person uttering that which
    is wrong. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam reminds us of this in the following
    ahadith:

    Verily, a slave will speak a word which casts him in the fire farther than what is between the east and the west.
    [Bukhari]

    A person may utter a word he thinks harmless, which results in his falling the depth of seventy (70) years into Hellfire.
    [Tirmidhi]

    The Prophet’s Guarantee

    The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam reminds us that if we do not speak we can not
    engage in incorrect speech and if we lessen our speech we are less likely to fall into evil
    speech.

    You shall be saved as long as you are silent, for if you speak, it will either be in your
    favor or stand against you.
    [Bayhaqi]

    The one who adheres to the lengthy silence (except from that which is good) will be saved on
    the Day of Judgment.
    [Tirmidhi]

    And finally he sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam mentions that if someone can guarantee the
    control of his sexual desire and the control of his tongue, he is guaranteed Paradise.

    Whoever can guarantee me what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can
    guarantee him Paradise.

    [Bukhari]

    wsalaam
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    JazakAllahu Khair sister, very beneficial post.

    wasalam
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    Salaam,

    This needs to be a sticky. Oh the woes we bring onto ourselves with our tounges. (strickly speaking from massive expeience)
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    Insha-allah il make it a sticky... jazakallah khayr

    wasalam
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    assalamou alaykom

    agoog word is like a good tree
    so lets say always good words
    thanks for sharing
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    :salam2: :salam2:


    jazakallah
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    Salaam, this is showkat i waana talk to u about "Khilafah" ru interested...
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    Hmmmm, not good to stay silent the ENTIRE day though..

    `Ali (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I have retained in my memory the saying of the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) that: "No one is considered an orphan after he has attained the age of maturity; and it is unlawful to remain silent from dawn till night.''
    [Abu Dawud with Hasan (good) Isnad].


    Qais bin Abu Hazim ¨(May Allah be pleased with him)(c) said: Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) came upon a woman named Zainab from the Ahmas tribe and noticed that she was observing total silence. He said: "What has happened to her? Why does she not speak?'' People informed him that she had sworn to remain silent. He then said to her: "You should speak, it is not permissible (to observe silence), for it is an act of the Days of Ignorance (Jahiliyyah).'' (After hearing this) she started speaking.
    [Al-Bukhari].


    Commentary:
    1. From the above narrations it becomes clear that one can not be called an orphan when maturity is attained. The proof of maturity is night discharge and not any particular age. The age of maturity may differ in different countries according to the climate and individual body development. So night discharge has been fixed as the condition and criterion or sign of maturity. Night discharge means ejaculation of semen during sleep.

    2. During the pre-Islamic period, keeping quiet was also considered as a sort of worship or devotion to God. Islam does not allow such ascetic ceremonies and extravagance. So such actions are forbidden. Further it has been stressed that instead of keeping quiet one should engage in good actions, such as enjoining good, forbidding evil, entertaining a guest, remembering Allah and glorifying Him. However, it is better to keep quiet rather than telling lies, indulging in indecent talk or backbiting.
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    As SAlaamu Alaikum,
    Mashaallah, I truly needed 2 read that post. Since Ramadan has began I've been tested by my tongue. Inshaallah i keep rememberance on my tongue!
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    As SAlaamu Alaikum,
    Mashaallah, I truly needed 2 read that post. Since Ramadan has began I've been tested by my tongue. Inshaallah i keep rememberance on my tongue!
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    thanks so much , only allah swt could reward you dear sister om aycha.
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    Nice cintent :D
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    Talking is our inner energy.When we talk from lungs to lips every organ moves.So their energy turns into words.Energy neither begins nor ends it doesn't die. Our words reaches its target.
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    Good to realize

    Today, upon a bus, I saw a girl with golden hair
    I looked at her and sighed and wished I was as fair.
    When suddenly she rose to leave,
    I saw her hobble down the aisle.
    She had one leg and used a crutch
    But as she passed, she passed a smile.
    Oh, God, forgive me when I whine
    I have 2 legs, the world is mine.
    ~~~
    I stopped to buy some candy
    The lad who sold it had such charm
    I talked with him a while, he seemed so very glad
    If I were late, it'd do no harm.
    And as I left, he said to me,
    "I thank you, you've been so kind.
    It's nice to talk with folks like you.
    You see," he said, "I'm blind."
    Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
    I have 2 eyes, the world is mine.
    ~~~
    Later while walking down the street,
    I saw a child with eyes of blue
    He stood and watched the others play
    He did not know what to do.
    I stopped a moment and then I said,
    "Why don't you join the others, dear?"
    He looked ahead without a word.
    And then I knew, he couldn't hear.
    Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
    I have 2 ears, the world is mine.
    ~~~
    With feet to take me where I'd go.
    With eyes to see the sunset's glow.
    With ears to hear what I would know.
    Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
    I've been blessed indeed, The world is mine.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    If this poem makes you feel like I felt,
    just forward it to all your friends,
    after all, it's just a simple reminder....
    We have soooooo much to be thankful for!!!
    ~~~~~~
    Sorrow looks back,
    Worry looks around,
    Faith looks up.
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    conclusion

    Askum wr wb

    Agree, nice, silence is golden if using that silence for better purpose (lying,gossiping,etc)and we are forbid to silence if we see something bad that we have to stop, or if we want to say about the truth.
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    nice sharing ayesha ... thanx ... :) ...
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    Zazak Allah

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    Assalamu Alaikom,
    really precious remindor that every muslim need
    Jazaki Allahu Khairan
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    salaam

    jak for this nice post
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    Asalam o Alykum
    oh im glad this post came , finally i read it
    i really needed this , my tongue and my anger is way off the limits
    pray for me
    May Allah reward you all with all the goods in this world and the hereafter

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