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    I have a good friend, she is muslim, but she is secretly smoking something in her parents home without them knowing. I am the only one that knows, but i want her to stop this act. I tried many things to tell her it's not good, but she constantly says ooh its ok its ok.She said it relaxed her. Many have told me to tell her parents, but is it my buisness to do that? What do you think?
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    You should tell this sister why she shouldnt smoke instead of ...dont smoke! I have tried that and it doesnt work.

    You should tell her why it is haraam.
    http://islamqa.com/en/ref/10922/smoking
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    Think about the consequences, if her parents know about this, they are not gona b happy about it, and therefore pressure her to stop, then she's gona be more stressed and as you said smoking relaxes her, she's gona go more towards smoking.
    Once addicted to smoking, its not easy to quit, so try to find some good reason, and ask her to find something elz to do to replace the smoking; another avtivity which she can do to relax.
    Tke cre Asslamwakm.
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    Tell her it yellows your teeth, ages you horrendously, makes you stink, and ruins your skin. This isn't just empty words it really does happen. Tell her jogging will decrease her stress and basically make her overall appearance and health improve.
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    DO:
    Tell her it makes her ugly- and why it's haram.
    Make du'aa for her and tell her to read\listen to Qur'an instead of smoking. Find her a hobby. Make her go outside with you and do what you want to\having fun\walking in the park....

    Smack the cigar out of her hand every time she takes it out:D

    But most important- ask her why she's REALLY doing it- are there problems in her family, stress,etc.

    DON'T :
    -back out o her- if she IS going through something hard- she needs you.
    -be pressured into smoking yourself; stay persistant in your belief


    And sis- if it starts to get really serious, tell her parents. They should know about it- and it'll mke it a lot easier for her to be encouraged to quit.

    May Allah help her. Ameen. :hearts:

    (p.s.- maybe get her packets of gum to chew on when she feels like smoking- tofee- whatever)


    Salam!!!!!!:D
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    Yes i did all of these things, and told her why it's not good, I didn't just say "You shouldnt do that", but i went through the whole thing. I am very concerned, she even trades and sells the drug! One time i was with her and she took me with her to go on drug trade..i was in the car, and i did not know what was going on i thought we were just going to the store...so ever since this day i have told her to watch it sis you have a big reality check coming your way....I did ask her why she is doing it and she said because she is stressed, and it makes her feel good, but nothing else...it's not a good enough reason and the only reason she is stressed in my opinion is because she is too striaght up blunt with people and when they get in her face she is always yelling all the time. She is western pakistani girl, but she wears hijab.
    So i think i should tell her parents, because i know her father wont have this if he knew.
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    Hmmm...this doesn't sound like ciggarettes but marijuana. Wearing hijab kind of loses it's meaning if she is dealing in illegal drugs and also partaking of them.

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    As-salaamu `alaykum

    I second that.

    Drug dealing can warrant death under shari`ah (obviously, taking into consideration all circumstances). If you say that, maybe she'll realise it's a bit more serious than she thinks it is.
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    You're absolutely right

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    Sounds like she needs an intervention... I think you should tell her parents. If she doesn't want to or cannot stop on her own or with your encouragement, maybe she'll listen when her own family tries to reason with her... Like stated above, it's illegal, both in shari'a and common law.
    Here you have imams who'll help with personal problems like this. The family can go to him for help and then maybe talk to her with the imam present (preferably the imam of her own mosque or masjid, so she knows him and can trust him more fully than one she doesn't know).
    Hope she can find the right path in the end.

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