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  1. allah rakkah lav
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    Asalam alaikom brothers and sisters


    Here i need a suggestion from you people

    my parents saw me aliance for the marriage ( im 21) .. first i was not willing to agree it after their advice i accepted ... then they started looking groom for me .. they got one good aliance he is my very first person whom im gonna look in the intention as such of getting to the married life..

    parents (including me) and his side met on one right day

    everything went on fine .. i liked him lot .. as usual they told will inform after reaching home and discussing with family ,.. after few days when my parents called up they told they liked us but some circumstances now not willing to proceed with us ...


    before this i never had an intention of this getting into relation but when i saw him i felt nice,, thought he is the one Allah sent for me .. this point sticked in my mind still now


    i dont know whether its just affair or something

    i disagreed further alliances and asked parents to let me search for my job as im recent graduated student ..


    but inner the heart i feel i miss him

    IS THAT IM WRONG ?? AM I UNLAWFUL ??? will i get him back??

    is that LOVE is haram ????

    i feel i need him back ... by Allahs blessing i feel to get him back

    im in a very critic situation ... is that i have to take this as EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD so forget him and do work with my further work
    or with dua or by asking allah's help can i wait for him ?????
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    Just some thoughts.Make yourself busy and inshallah you will overcome it.
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    Abu Talib Feeling low

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    :salam2:

    Al-hamdulillah 'ala kulli hal.

    Be it worst or good everything happens on will of Allaah Azza Wa Jal. May be Allaah Azza Wa Jal was just testing you and he can give something more better.

    Have patience and keep busy yourself in some activity. The Shaitaan attacks us more when we are sad because at that time we start to disbelief and he will make us more deviate.

    So I personally say as Muslims we must never be sad because everything happens by Allaah Azza Wa Jal and whatever he does for us is good only no doubt about it . As it says Hasbun Allah wa ni'mal wakeel
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    jazah kallahu khairen
    thanks for your suggestion
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    Jazha kallahu khairen Brother

    yeah With the help of Allah i will come out of it
    Allah knows everything
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    Wa Iyyak.

    I know its not that easy. But believe me if you pass this test Allaah Azza Wa Jal will surprise us with something we can't imagine. Inshaa'Allah
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    Ameen ( wishing it to happen on the will of Allah)

    Everything is Allah' s wish.. i admit myself to him...
    Thanks brother..
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    Tabassum07 Smile for Allah

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    :salam2:

    Sis, try and forget about him - take it as something Allah has decided to keep away from you for your own best benefit - InshaAllah, the next person Allah sends will be better - I know the first time you must've thought you would get married/fall in love, but trust me, the whisperings you are having is Shaitaan, so move on and trust that Allah will send someone better for you.

    Hmm.. I really can't say more here.

    Can this topic be moved to Sisters only area?
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    yeah can be moved but how ?? to move it now ? or can i delete the thread
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    ahmed_indian to Allah we belong

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    :wasalam:,

    1. have you prayed salah istikhara sister?

    2. what types of hurdles they are? are they due to some misunderstandings?
    if you feel he is good, dont forget to try all the halaal ways for marriage. its not that one can get a good prospective spouse everytime.

    3. trust Allah but the tie camel as well.
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    3. trust Allah but the tie camel as well.
    i cannot able to get this brother
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    it means to Make your effort and then Trust Allah.

    some people place the trust upon ALLAH and thats it , they do not make any effort.
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    Actually the groom lost his mom he has only dad .... the parent of him (ie dad) dad and son both liked our family they told this but they didnt mention what circumstances ...since its my first alliance parents too not able to get what it is ..? i just left that time ... Allah knows everything ... instead affair everyone of my family liked him a lot by their sayings only i too thought him as my right person .... my dad and mom felt for missing him .. anyhow now we are back to the field with our own works though some times when ever we are free the evil mind never keep quiet ... it makes all of us in family to discuss about what will be the circum stances
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    oh thats fine .. now only i understood
    actually im a revert so i was unable to know many in depth
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    salah istikara

    how to perform this ?

    what is the benefit of this salah
    please guide me
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    :salam2: sister

    Here is a link that describes Istikharah prayer,

    http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6612

    It is recommended whenever you are unsure of the right decision you should make, it can be especially useful with respect to deciding between options that are both permissible. I have used this prayer myself and Alhamdulilahi received clear guidance in dreams.

    :wasalam:
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    jazhakallahu khairen sister
    thanks for the link

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