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A MUST read for all marriages-
THE WISE MOTHER.......
My husband and I disagreed about something. I did what I have always done when I had a difference of opinion with someone… I called my Mum.
Before I could even finish my sentence, she asked me if I had prayed about it yet. Before I could respond, she told me that she would not allow me to...call her and complain about my husband to her, nor would she allow me to discuss our arguments/disagreements with her.
I sat there stunned. Then she said something that has stuck with me for a very long time. “My daughter, the thing is,because you love him the way you love him, when the argument is over it’s over. But, I don’t love him the way you love him, and it would be far too easy for me to pick up a grudge and carry it if I think he is wrong. You can’t do that to me, or to him. It simply isn’t fair.
”So the next time you want to narrate the fight in your marriage to a third party ask yourself –
Do I love my spouse?
Does the person I’m reporting them to love them the way I do?
Will they easily forgive them the way I will?
If not then don’t pass them on to be crucified.Your marriage is between you, your spouse and Allah. Everyone else is an outsider.
THE WISE MOTHER.......
My husband and I disagreed about something. I did what I have always done when I had a difference of opinion with someone… I called my Mum.
Before I could even finish my sentence, she asked me if I had prayed about it yet. Before I could respond, she told me that she would not allow me to...call her and complain about my husband to her, nor would she allow me to discuss our arguments/disagreements with her.
I sat there stunned. Then she said something that has stuck with me for a very long time. “My daughter, the thing is,because you love him the way you love him, when the argument is over it’s over. But, I don’t love him the way you love him, and it would be far too easy for me to pick up a grudge and carry it if I think he is wrong. You can’t do that to me, or to him. It simply isn’t fair.
”So the next time you want to narrate the fight in your marriage to a third party ask yourself –
Do I love my spouse?
Does the person I’m reporting them to love them the way I do?
Will they easily forgive them the way I will?
If not then don’t pass them on to be crucified.Your marriage is between you, your spouse and Allah. Everyone else is an outsider.