too old to sleep with dad

[Sheba_770]

:salam2:
I am deeply concern regarding a divorce father who still sleeps with 9 yr. old daughter ,when picking up daughter at mothers house father is singing the same repetitious romantic song and he is constantly smelling daughters garments. what those Koran say about particular age to stop sleeping with father?

thanks

 

[IbnAdam77]

:salam2:
I am deeply concern regarding a divorce father who still sleeps with 9 yr. old daughter ,when picking up daughter at mothers house father is singing the same repetitious romantic song and he is constantly smelling daughters garments. what those Koran say about particular age to stop sleeping with father?

thanks

wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Sister I have no information on the exact question you asked. However, here I have a fatwa given by Sheikh Muhammed Salih al-Munajjid.

Is it allowed for a boy to sleep in the same bed with his mother or sister after he has reached the age of puberty?

Praise be to Allaah.

It is not allowed for male children, if they have reached the age of puberty or are ten years old or more, to sleep with their mothers or sisters in the same bedding or mattress. This safeguards chastity and keeps the person away from temptation. It also closes the door to evil. The Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered that the children be separated in their bedding when they reach the age of ten. He said,

"Order your children to pray when they are seven years old. And spank them [to exhort them] to do it by the age of ten and separate them in their bedding."Recorded by Abu Dawud and Ahmad. Al-Albani has graded it hasan. Al-Albani, Sahih al-Jami, vol. 2, p. 1021.

Those who are not approaching the age of puberty still must ask permission to enter upon their parents at three times during the day. These are the times in which one is more likely to be taking off his clothing and exposing the parts that are usually covered. This has been stressed by them being called times of privacy. Allah says in the Quran,

"O you who believe! Let your slaves and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask permission [before they come to your presence] on three occasions: before morning prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday [rest] and after the Isha [Night] Prayer. [These] three times are times of privacy for you. Other than those times there is no sin for you or for them to move about, attending to each other. Thus Allah makes clear His signs to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise" (al-Nur 58).

However, those who are past the age of puberty must seek permission to enter at all times of the day. Allah says,

"And when the children among you reach the age of puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age ask permission). Thus Allah makes clear His signs for you. And Allah is Al-Knowing A-Wise" (al-Nur 59).

All of this is to avoid any kinds of problems and temptations and to safeguard honors. It also brings an end to the means that lead to evil.

As for the child who is less than ten years old, it is permissible for him to sleep with his mother and sister in their bedding if there is some need to look after him and if there is no fear of temptation. They may also all sleep in the same area, in their own bedding, if they are of the age of puberty if there is no fear of temptation.

The Standing Committee

Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid​

 

[ahmed_indian]

as she is immature, i think its allowed.

regarding father singing songs and smelling clothes of her daughter, u need to know the intentions.

maybe it just remind him of her daughter's childhood or maybe his intentions are impure.

if the latter case, yes u need to be careful.

bro Ibnadam gave a good info.

 

[Sheba_770]

:salam2:

Thanks for ur great advice it is not easy being landlord. I just want too make sure everything is clean and pure.

 

[AISHA14]

WELL i think its fishy some where but... lets not blame any one because we just got a doubt ...well may be he is good or MAY BAD INTENTION SO PLEASE BE CAREFULL

 

[zbhotto]

So what

:salam2:
I am deeply concern regarding a divorce father who still sleeps with 9 yr. old daughter ,when picking up daughter at mothers house father is singing the same repetitious romantic song and he is constantly smelling daughters garments. what those Koran say about particular age to stop sleeping with father?

thanks

I don't think it is a problem. My uncle used to sleep with his two daughter and one son in one bed for around 16 years. This is not a problem. My cousins are now married and have their own families. We did not even think about this.

 

[zbhotto]

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My uncle has lost his wife 15 years ago. He did not marry after that. He has died 3 years ago. May ALLAH (SWT) grant him paradise.