Top 11 excuses of Muslim Women who don't wear Islamic Hijaab! (and the reasons for hi

raihana

Junior Member
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Here am sharing u the excuses which muslim women who dont wear hijaab.
Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think, my sister - starting now.

All praise is due to Allah ta'aala as is deserved by His Majesty and Great Power. I send prayers and ask for blessings upon His Noble Messenger who drew the path for us to the pleasure of Allah and His Jannah. This path is a straight one that is surrounded by virtue from all sides and attends to the best moral characteristics, which are increased by the clothing of purity, concealment, and chastity. It is the path trod by the two halves of human society, namely the man and the woman, toward harmonious contentment and happiness in this life and the Hereafter.

This is precisely why the Protector, the blessed and above all imperfection, has made wearing hijaab (see As-Sunnah Articles) an obligation upon the woman as a safeguard of her chastity and protection of her honor and sign of her faith (Eemaan). It is on account of this that societies (both Muslim and non-Muslim) that have distanced themselves from the way of Allah and deviated from His straight path are ill societies in need of treatment that will lead them to recovery and happiness.

Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from that path and that make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women not just uncovering their faces but enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We find that this is manifested regretfully, in Islamic (Muslim) society despite that Islamic clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this digression?

We put this question to a varied group of women from whom we derived ten major excuses and upon examination and scrutiny, the frailty of the excuses became evident to us.

Stay with us dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.



Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.



We then ask this sister two questions.

One: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam? The natural answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds "Laa ilaaha illallah!" (There is no god but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: "Muhammadun rasoolullah!" (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its legislation or law (sharee'ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system and a law by which one governs and rules their life.

Two: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (sharee'ah) and an obligation?

If this sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta'aala, Whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur'aan) and the noble prophet ('alaihi salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah. What do we call a person who says they believe in and are content with the correctness of Islam but who nonetheless does not do what Allah or His Messenger have ordered? Certainly they can in no way be described as those whom Allah speaks of in this aayah: The only saying of the faithful believers when they are called to Allah and His Messenger to judge between them is that they say 'we hear and obey' and such are the successful. [Soorah An-Noor 24:51] In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then can she not be convinced of its orders?



Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it and if I disobey her I will go to the Fire.



The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah's creation, the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: There is no obedience to the created in the disobedience of Allah. [Ahmed]

The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one. Indeed Allah ta'aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated: Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parent [Soorah An-Nisaa 4:36]

Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to disobedience of Allah. Allah said: But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. [Soorah Luqmaan 31:15] The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them in the world kindly.

In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and your mother?



Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress.

This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her "hijaab" clamoring with colors to be "in line with the times" and expensive.

We will begin with an answer to the honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister, that it is not permissible for the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar'ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what they are?

If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters, which will save you from the punishment of Allah and His anger after death!!? Does Allah not say: Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know. [Soorah An-Nahl 16:43]. Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab.

If you must go out, then do not do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and "beautified" is far greater than the matter, which you deem necessary to go out for.

My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy for you! Is He not the One Who says: And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine [Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3]?

With regards to the 'slippery' one we say: Honor and position is something determined by Allah ta'aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the words of Allah: Indeed, the most honorable amongst you are those who are the most pious. [Soorah Al-Hujuraat 49:35]

In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah's pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and wealth of this world.



Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can't stand it. How could I take it if I wore the hijaab?



Allah gives an example by saying: Say: The Fire of Hell is more intense in heat if they only understand. [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81] How can you compare the heat of your land to the heat of the Hellfire?

Know, my sister, that Shaitaan has trapped you in one of his feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which Allah says: They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling water and the discharge of dirty wounds. [Soorah An-Naba' 78:24-25]

In summary: The Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations, lusts and desires.



Excuse Five: I'm afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time because I have seen so many others do so!!



To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadhan because so many are afraid of not doing it later? Etc. Haven't you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and blocked you from guidance?

Allah ta'aala loves continuous obedience even if it were small or recommended. How about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said: The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it is little. Why haven't you sought out the causes leading those people to leave off the hijaab so that you can avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven't you sought out reasons and causes to affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them? Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du'aa) to make the heart firm upon the Deen as did the prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as Allah stated: And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al-Khaashi'oon). [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]

Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth are adherence to the laws of Islam and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith. [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:66]

In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.



Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I'm going to leave it off until then.



Any husband, who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably yourself, and he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home, which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger, is fitting that He decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated: But whosoever turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur'aan nor acts upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection. [Soorah Ta Ha 20:124]

Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don't aren't? If you were to say that '..my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end, namely marriage', a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in Islam. If the goal is honorable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean method. We say the rule in Islam is: The means are according to the rules of the intended goals.

In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and corruption.



Excuse Seven: I don't wear hijaab based on what Allah says: And proclaim the grace of your Rabb

[Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93:11] How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of silky soft hair and captivating beauty?



So this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters when they don't please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn't she follow the aayah: And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent [Soorah An-Noor 24:31] and the statement of Allah subhaanah: Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies [Soorah Al-Ahzaab 33:59]?

With this statement my sister you have now made a shari'ah (law) for yourself of what Allah ta'aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering (as-sufoor), and the reason:

Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah (guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk about this greatest of blessings given to you?

In summary: Is there a greater blessing and favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?



Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah guides me to do so.



We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveler rides a vehicle or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples.

Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: Guide us to the Straight Path. [Soorah Al-Faatihah 1:6]; Keeping company with the righteous good sisters - for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the believing women are commanded to wear. In summary: If this sister were really serious about seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it.



Do not forget that Allah truly knows what your intentions are! So don’t think you are fooling any body.



Excuse Nine: It's not time for that yet. I'm still too young for wearing hijaab. I'll do it when I get older and after I make Hajj!

The Angel of Death my sister is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of Allah ta'aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: When their term comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it and hour (or a moment). [Soorah Al-An'aam 7:34].

Death my sister doesn't discriminate between the young or the old and it may come while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of Honor with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta'aala: Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth. [Soorah Al-Hadeed 57:21] Sister, don't forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right of your soul to obey Allah and proper worship of Him.

Allah stated about the hypocrites (Al-Munaafiqoon): And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their own selves. [Soorah Al-Hashr 59:19]

My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your youth and every moment of your life.

In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?



Excuse Ten: I'm afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I'll be labeled as belonging to some group or another and I hate partisanship.



My sister in Islam, there is only two parties in Islam, and Allah Almighty in His Noble Book mentions them both.

The first party is the party of Allah (hizbullah) that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan (hizbush-Shaitaan), which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them are wearing the hijaab - you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. When you beautify and display your charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends.

Don't you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: So flee to Allah (from His Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him. [Soorah Adh-Dhaariyaat 51:50] The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions of people and their orientations and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most Wise Creator. In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female companions (radiallahu 'anhum ajma'een).





Excuse Eleven: Islam is in the heart, I don’t need to “show off” that I am a Muslim, it is a personal relationship between God and me.



In order to obtain salvation, a person must combine faith and action, belief and practice. Faith without doing good deeds is as insufficient as doing good deeds without faith. I can use the same argument and say “Well I don’t have to pray or fast, I love Allah in my heart”



The hijab is as obligatory as Salah and fasting on the Muslimah. Allah (swt) always commands to do combine faith and actions.



Surah 2:25
"And give good news (O Mohammad) to those who believe and do good deeds, that they will have gardens (Paradise) in which rivers flow…



Surah 47:2
But those who believe and work deeds of righteousness, and believe in the (Revelation) sent down to Muhammad - for it is the Truth from their Lord,- He will remove from them their ills and improve their condition.



Surah 65:11
An Messenger, who rehearses to you the Signs of Allah containing clear explanations, that he may lead forth those who believe and do righteous deeds from the depths of Darkness into Light. And those who believe in Allah and work righteousness, He will admit to Gardens beneath which Rivers flow, to dwell therein for ever: Allah has indeed granted for them a most excellent Provision.



Surah 85:11
For those who believe and do righteous deeds, will be Gardens; beneath which rivers flow: That is the great Salvation



Now lets look at some of the reasons why to wear hijaab...



Reasons for wearing the hijaab

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[compilation from various muslimahs]

1. Because the Qur'an and Sunnah states so. Allah ordered us to wear the hijab and cover up to protect ourselves so we get the proper respect we deserve and not be treated like we are a piece of meat.



2. American soldiers walk around the city with their army uniforms with pride. Well I want to walk with the uniform that Allah (swt) has assigned to me with pride!



3. You get a lot of respect in the hijab from all your brothers and sisters and other people, than you did before your hijabi days



4. You can wear whatever you like under the abayah, light and cool dresses are good.



5. Despite that this world has hot weather, HELL IS HOTTER, so you rather suffer a bit on this world than the Hereafter.



6. Have you noticed that some people that are really maybe ignorant about Islam and women and Muslims that they speak extra loudly and clearly to you wherever you go. "Wwwoould yooooou llike ttthat in beeeeeels/noooottes or ch change ma 'am?"
"I speak english clearly, change please."



7. No bad hair days to worry about!.



8. People know that you're a Muslim. You can distinguish yourself in this society. This is not in order to show off, but you can influence other Muslim women to do it and can attract good Muslim women to become your friend and also catch the attention of a pious Muslim man to come and ask for your hand in marriage.



9. Your hair isn't exposed all kinds of crappy pollution and UV rays.



10. Your hijabs smell nice cause they start smelling like your shampoo.



11. Only the people you want to see your awrah, will see it...not every wierdo walking on the street.



12. Your skin is protected under the abayah



13. No bugs in your hair (no having to worry about catching nits from other people!)



14. You won't have to waste time in the morning deciding on the perfect outfit in the morning, if you wear jilbab.



15. Because you know your beautiful and you can keep all that beauty to yourself. You are like a diamond. Diamonds are only shown to special and specific people. It is not something to be worn around at all times and shown to everybody no matter who they are.



16. No one dares to mess with a hijabi sis while taking a walk.



17. You will feel closeness to every muhajabah you see on the road and to every Muslim you ever encounter



18. The inner feeling of peace you get when you wear it



19. Little girls look up to you, and want to be like you.



20. When guys see you, they respect you, they cross the street so they dont pass by you and offend you.



21. Because most pious brothers WON'T EVEN CONSIDER marriage with a non-hijabi (caution: your intention for wearing hijab should still be to observe the command of Allah)



22. Because there’s more freedom in deciding who gets to see you rather than having anyone look at you and your beauty.



23. People treat you for your mind not your body. In the sense that you succeed in things (ie. job because of your performance and intelligence and not because how short your mini skirt is.



24. Because Muslims are required to practice Islam in every aspect of your life including everyone, not just nuns like in Christianity or only on Saturday for Jews, or only Sunday for Catholics all of whom cover on those days. Muslimahs should respect God at all times.



25. Beauty fades eventually, and with hijab people learn to love your inner beauty without the hinderness of your outer beauty.



26. Your husband and loved ones learn to appreciate your beauty both outside and in more, and these tend to be the most important people in your life of which you grace those special people with your gifts from Allah.



27. You are a shining example how women in Islam are so highly respected and valued and powerful in Islam. For example you are no mans trophy to adorn his hand, you are a companion, mother and friend of the insha'Allah religious brother who appreciates you and your beauty. There are other things where this applies as well.



28. It keeps you warm in the winter. You don’t have to worry about trying to keep a hat on to stop your ears from freezing up! Plus the head is medically known for the place where a HIGH level of heat is released from the body!



29. Long Lasting. Hijab protects your hair for longer and keeps it shiny, healthy and in good condition.



30. Every time a man looks at me because I am not wearing hijab I would be getting sins because I would be helping the man committing a sin by looking at me (Surah 24:30)



Conclusion




In conclusion your body is on display in the market of Shaitaan seducing the hearts of men. The hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan. Every day that passes while you are in this condition, distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan. Each day curses and anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. Every day brings you closer to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul.

Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing). [Soorah Aale 'Imraan 3:185]

It is irrelevant if your intention is not bad while you wear hijab, you still have to obey the commands of Allah.

Even if you do not agree with the reasons for hijab, that is irrelevant and does not change the fact that it is compulsory on you. Maybe God doesn’t want you to understand, nevertheless HE wants to see if you would still make sacrifices to please him.

Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my sister - Now, before it is too late!
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Hasibah

New Member
I think it is between Allah and that women.
We are not anyones judge and jury.
Only Allah knows what is in ones heart.:tti_sister:
 

jabba

Salafi Dawah is the best
I think it is between Allah and that women.
We are not anyones judge and jury.
Only Allah knows what is in ones heart.:tti_sister:

:salam2:
Exactly, also I have to say those 30 reasons to wear hijab.....while some of them are really superficial, there is only one reason to wear hijab and that's for the love of Allah (SWT):wasalam:
 

Muslimah16

ServantOfAllah*
Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.

i have heard that one loads of times!1 may allah give everyone hidaayah to do amal upon hijaab. aameen
 

Asiya-sparkles

Junior Member
Asalam Alaikom wa Rachman t'ullah,
I think that the very word used here of 'excuse' is quite offensive to be honest. Allah guides whom He wills and for some Sisters putting on the hijab (which can expose you to insults and jibes- a whole new experience for a revert for sure! :) ) wearing Hijab is a jihad that inshAllah she will be strong enough to succeed in and instead of deriding sisters who don't we should speak gently and in the best manner possible. Even Phiraun was treated gently so why are we so harsh towards Sisters who aren't covered? This will not be a positive encouragement for them to do so!

I took a few years to wear Hijab I read so much that gently took me to a point in life where I wore with confidence and commitment my head covering.

In Islam until you have verified the truth of an action (that it is not innovated) you do not adopt it, we don't blindly follow.

There is NO compulsion in Islam and therefore a sister donning hijab due to peer pressure would be for the wrong reasons, education about Islam and Faith (Iman) entering the heart are the successful tools necessary for a sister to recognise that the Hijab is indeed wajib- so don't just tell her it is so, show her why it is so...then let time and Allah (through our duas?) inshAllah do the rest.

We all know that Allah is the Judge...and that we do not know what is happening in her life, what kind of environment she is exposed to etc... and what struggles she needs to go through in order to get there, but we sincerely wish for her that InshAllah she will get there.

We are warned about the fact that compassion and tolerance will disappear from our Ummah- please, don't let that be the generation from where that begins! It is not kind to make statements about Sisters or brothers (many of whom do not observe the sunnah of wearing a beard nor of covering with loose clothing their 'Awrahs'!) based on our understanding of what is required...we need to recognise that we are all at different stages in our journeys and that we will InshAllah increase in our Iman and that our actions both in appearance and also in our conduct will improve with Allah's blessings.

Allah forgives whom He wills, and He knows best the intentions of the heart.

May Allah guide and safeguard us all from the hellfire.
 

mutty2000

New Member
Marshallah sister really nice post, got to mee. Your right the society today makes excuses I myslef do it to sometimes inshallah allah guide us all.
 

tarannumsamir

Junior Member
as salaamualaikum wa rehmatullah wa barakaatuhu,
sister, we are never permitted to obey even our husbands in their orders to diobey allah swt.
because,obedience is not to to be observed towards a creature in any act involving the disobedience of the creator.
allahafiz.
 

jabba

Salafi Dawah is the best
Asalam Alaikom wa Rachman t'ullah,
I think that the very word used here of 'excuse' is quite offensive to be honest. Allah guides whom He wills and for some Sisters putting on the hijab (which can expose you to insults and jibes- a whole new experience for a revert for sure! :) ) wearing Hijab is a jihad that inshAllah she will be strong enough to succeed in and instead of deriding sisters who don't we should speak gently and in the best manner possible. Even Phiraun was treated gently so why are we so harsh towards Sisters who aren't covered? This will not be a positive encouragement for them to do so!

:salam2:
Sister it looks like everybody passed by your very honest and true words without even acknowledging them.....:astag:.
People put so much emphasis on hijab, yes it's compulsory, I'm not denying that, but everyone here is forgetting or lessening the 5 pillars of Islam :astag:
it takes time for new Muslims to wear hijab (usually) people don't just wake up and say ok I'm going to be Muslim, I need to wear a scarf. They usually start by praying, reading Quran, learning the basics and then as they grow in religion inshAllah they will wear the hijab ( remember guys have a hijab too).
IF I just became Muslim last week and read this I would be horrified, people welcome you to Islam when they find out you've converted and then they turn on you for not wearing hijab ( that's exactly what the posts and responses seem like to me). People are so quick to judge here without looking at themselves first. No one is perfect, there is something all of us here need to work on so before we start condeming other Muslims, improve yourself and leave the judging to Allah (SWT), cause in the end He's the only one who has any power over us.:wasalam:
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
Assalamu Alaykum,

For all sisters that not wearing Hijab, we must remember that, we take things in the correct methodical steps.

Starting from our belief in Tawheed and moving forward, appreciating how we follow Islam according to the original sources and inshaALlah, one of those steps that will be encountered with higher Iman, will be the Hijab.

Sometimes, people think Islam is difficult. Indeed, sometimes Muslims make it seem difficult !! or even they make it difficult!, in Reality ISlam is easy.

"Allah intends for you ease, and does not want to make things difficult for you" [2:185];

For some people, they might be able to do things quicker. There are for example, many sisters who wore hijab before even becoming Muslim! There are others who had a very tough time wearing it, due to different reasons. Likewise, the problem is not just confined to new Muslims but, also born Muslims. Men too, have many difficult choices to make and EVERY one of our actions requires Iman (faith) and Ikhlaas(sincerity).

No matter who we are, we must be humble. We must try our best to help each other to do good and advise each other in the nicest, kindest and best Islamic way possible. The Best Islamic way to teach each other, is always derived from the Quran and Sunnah. We give da'wah in the way that we are meant to do it. Not, in the way we personally feel is correct etc. What we must know is that everything starts with having a sound belief in Allah, the most high.
What the sister wrote was good, mashaAllah. The other comments are also true too! I think that you can not blame a person for not being able to "mind read" and write everything that we must know about Islam down. She just wants help out her fellow sisters with wearing hijab, inshaAllah.

Asiya and Jabba made good points, but I would point out to sister Jabba, that simply concentrating on the 5 pillars is not enough either. It is the First pillar that always counts. The Shahada. We must know what La Ilaha ilallah Muhammad RasulAllah really means and entails. Without this, whether a person does Hajj every year or prays 5x is of no benefit whatsoever. Let alone a person wearing hijab or having a beard. After this, then we have Salah, Sawm, Zakah etc

The Hijab is not something a person postpones till after they do these things. We must always do the obligatory actions as soon as possible. - What is needed, is be able to follow the correct stepping points to get there in the best way. How to increase our Iman and love for Allah, and to follow his guidance properly.

If the person has clear foundation in their belief. I.e. they worship Allah alone, with sincerity and clear knowledge of who Allah is - his names and attributes, why we worship Him, etc then this will help increase their Iman and also help them learn about following Islam according to the Quran and Sunnah.

This will make it easier for them to do all good deeds and with the right intentions inshaAllah. Whether that is to pray on time, to wear Hijab, to get married to a good Muslim, to do the Hajj etc.

At same time, one must realise that a woman who wears hijab is necessarily better than one who does not. Or a man with a beard being more "Islamic". - The Most important thing is always the Aqeedah belief of the person and them sticking to the Quran and sunnah and avoiding Shirk and Bidah.

A person who has correct belief in Allah, i.e. right Tawheed (does not pray to various Saints! does not do grave worship, never calls on anyone besides Allah for help, does not use Talismans and Good luck charms, does not reject the Sunnah in place of their desires, culture etc) Then this is a person who will always be better than someone who might do a correct thing, but without the true Islamic creed.

Unfortunately, today there is much influencing people's creed. Too much ignorance and peoplel justifying incorrectly things which have nothing to do with ISlam. Whether they introduce shirk and Bidah, or they abandon/ are ignorant about parts of Islam due to their blind adherance of their culture.

Allah tells us in the Quran:

"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish." (Al-A`raaf 7:199)
 

Asiya-sparkles

Junior Member
Alhamdulillah it is lovely to see this thread becoming so positive and encouraging the right in the best tradition. Ma'shAllah through unity we become strong inshAllah and we are helpers of one another. :)

Salam alaikom wa Rachman t'ullah wa Burrahktohu

Jazakee alak khair
 

Rivergirl

Junior Member
:salam2:
it took me a while to wear the hijab and now i dont regret it at all, in fact i dont know why it took me so long to put it on in the first place. all those 'excuses' that were mentionned before i had most of them going through my head, first and foremost being the one about, scared that im not ready and would hate to take it off, well i guess i never gave myself credit enough, because that could never happen now!!!
Love being an hijabi!!!!!!!!!:muslim_child:
:wasalam:
 

Sister Fatma

Islam my Deen
sorry sister but thats not true the other reasons is that it protects the society from a lot of harm.
y do u think that it is a major sin?
when women reveal themselves they encourage others to do it too.
they start competing with each other that is the result of plastic surgery, becoming ungrateful for what ALLAH has given them. all bcoz the other girl gets more male attention all the sudden the other woman start feeling insecure about herself.
r u saying that if there 2 women 1 with hijab and 1 without it. a rapist will prefer to rape the 1 with hijab? i dont think so.
these women also cause a lot of damage to their body E.G sun heating on their skin increase the chance of skin cancer, it damages their hair with all the products, and heating they have to apply of which u have to spend a lot of money on and that is superstitious its a fact.
if u do not follow religion u then follow society, u will wear only what they tell u to wear, act and say too.

Sister if it takes time for u to wear the hijab, its bcoz ur still concern on what other people think of u. have u not accepted islam fully. i know few reverts as younf as 15 years old, when she reverted she straight away started to wear the hijab.
ask urself what s stopping other then the devil, given u reasons to not wear it. what's next i have to become used to b a muslim in order to pray??? NA AH

one thing people need to understand is that all the rules of islam comes with the 5 pillars. if u declare the shahada. ur acknowledging that there only 1 true god and MUHAMMED is his message PBUH.

if u admit that ALLAH is ur boss, do not then accept and try to follow all his rules.
when u start a new job that u like with a uniform do u tell ur employer am new to this so i will need to take sometime b4 i start wearing it. i don't think sis.

u do it right away.

concerning the judging, humans can only judge from the outside. u r allowed to but u should not think that u r completely right about ur judgements coz only ALLAH knows.

however do not be hypocritical i know all of us do it.
if u have a baby and u were looking for a babysiter, u post ur demand on job hunts etc. a woman dressed as thug and smelly shows at ur door and ask for the position r all of u honestly telling me that ur actually even going to consider her??? i don't think
so.

we say don't judge a book by its cover, however what's in the inside is also reflected on the outside.
 

cmelbouzaidi

Junior Member
interesting thread!! Jazak Allahu Khair for this posting. i know that it took me 17 years after becoming Muslim to start wearing hijab and now i am very pleased that i do. i will never take it off although i do believe that this is just one of many many things to please Allah and he is the only judge of our actions or why we do what we do. i also battled with the wording in qur'an about drawing our cloaks around our chest as this did not imply covering the hair to me and neither did the not displaying adornments verse. however, now that i finally put it, i feel it keeps me in check and reminds me that i am a muslim here to worship Allah alone and it also keeps American men from talking to me in a less than respectful manner and i am very pleased about that. what also i used as an excuse is that there are many who wear hijab who are hypocrites and not good people..... BUT WHAT DID THAT HAVE TO DO WITH MY RELATIONSHIP WITH ALLAH? NOT A THING!!! i had to get over myself and get on with it before it was too late!!!
 

tany

New Member
thnx

:salam2:
thnx sis
i kno some sisters that made some of those excuses and i'm gonna make sure they read this.
:jazaak: :hijabi:
 
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