Hopetogoparadis
Junior Member
Assalam alaikum
I should start with saying, i am not in a conservative environment so these free mixing is really not something i am used to though i dont like it anyway, as i am not a social person already.
Sometimes my parents visit relatives where there are women that might kiss, hug me as they still see me like little kid (i am 19) So anyway, thats not the point
Point is, if i dont go them now, they ask ''why he doesnt come to our house?'' and they might be sad, upset for me not to go their house. Like today, my parents and grandprents will go to my cousins house (a lady) so they also asked me to go there but i dont know what to do.
If i dont go my parents and those who will be there will be upset
I know that i am not perfect and this is why it makes me think ''you are not perfect already, if you just hug or get close it wouldnt effect be a dig deal for you''
So what should i do ? Or if you are in such situation, how you deal with it ?
I should start with saying, i am not in a conservative environment so these free mixing is really not something i am used to though i dont like it anyway, as i am not a social person already.
Sometimes my parents visit relatives where there are women that might kiss, hug me as they still see me like little kid (i am 19) So anyway, thats not the point
Point is, if i dont go them now, they ask ''why he doesnt come to our house?'' and they might be sad, upset for me not to go their house. Like today, my parents and grandprents will go to my cousins house (a lady) so they also asked me to go there but i dont know what to do.
If i dont go my parents and those who will be there will be upset
I know that i am not perfect and this is why it makes me think ''you are not perfect already, if you just hug or get close it wouldnt effect be a dig deal for you''
So what should i do ? Or if you are in such situation, how you deal with it ?