The article was an eye opener. However, meeting reverts is a learning experience for born muslims. For example. In muslim countries, it is considerd as normal to start a conversation on public transport, Dr, court, just about anywhere. If you're on public transport, you talk to the sister next to you for the entire journey, about anything:
how many kids you have, how many you plan to have, and how you make a falafel!
We come to the west, and we learn that starting a conversation with people that don't know you is something negative. We travel a journey of miles on public transport and people are happy enough to read their book/newspaper. We also learn that you should not look at someone at all, its considered rude, and eye contact is a no no. Back home, that is considered as a starter to a conversation, so we look and stare, in a way to say, "I'm bored, you want to talk?"
It gets a bit confusing for many as to what a revert finds accpetable or not. As much as many want to be friendly to you, and offer their assistance, thoughts of 'minding their own business' linger in our heads. they may think that you could be feeling why the 'FUSS' because I'm a new muslim?! "Why do I have to tell you why I became a muslim? I'm so bored with that!" Not knowing what acceptable of not by you, sadly, we may keep it to a shy
"salam alaykum", if anything at all . :shymuslima1:
When you see similar ethnic group sisters/brothers speaking together, please don't take it personal, they don't intentionally mean to isolate you, its more of they understand that its acceptable in their culture to start a random conversation, the converstaion is not limited to eg. speaking about the weather, because this is how much we feel is considered as permissable, before you start to seem rather weird and annoying. (UK)So, many are just reluctant because they don't want to seem intrusive and rude.
Please remember that that we are so proud of you , we know that it must be a road full of herdles, and we want to make it easier for you by helping you in anyway we can, but the majority of times, we don't seem to know how! so please help us to help you .
-If we say salam alaykum, please say more,...
"Walaykum assalam", its a nice atmosphere in this mosque". Add to it so we know you do
want to talk.
-If you see a group haivng a chat, feel free to introduce yourself and come on in,. We'll be honoured to have you.
-If you have questions we will help you or at least try and direct you to someone.
so lets both make the effort, and keep away shaitan, who will try and make things difficult for both of us.