What Was The Age of Ummul Mo'mineen Ayesha (May Allah be pleased with her)

Abu Hannah

Slave of Allah
Some people believe that Ayesha (May Allah be pleased with her) was nine years old at the time of her marriage with Mohammad (peace be upon him) was consummated.

The age of Ayesha (ra) has been grossly mis-reported in the ahadith. Not only that, I think that the narratives reporting this event are not only highly unreliable but also that on the basis of other historical data, the event reported, is quite an unlikely happening. Let us look at the issue from an objective standpoint. My reservations in accepting the narratives, on the basis of which, Ayeshas (ra) age at the time of her marriage with the Prophet (pbuh) is held to be nine years are:

Most of these narratives are reported only by Hisham ibn `urwah reporting on the authority of his father. An event as well known as the one being reported, should logically have been reported by more people than just one, two or three.

It is quite strange that no one from Medinah, where Hisham ibn `urwah lived the first seventy one years of his life has narrated the event, even though in Medinah his pupils included people as well known as Malik ibn Anas. All the narratives of this event have been reported by narrators from Iraq, where Hisham is reported to have had shifted after living in Medinah for seventy one years.

Tehzibu'l-tehzib, one of the most well known books on the life and reliability of the narrators of the traditions of the Prophet (pbuh) reports that according to Yaqub ibn Shaibah: "narratives reported by Hisham are reliable except those that are reported through the people of Iraq". It further states that Malik ibn Anas objected on those narratives of Hisham which were reported through people of Iraq. (vol 11, pg 48 - 51)

Mizanu'l-ai`tidal, another book on the narrators of the traditions of the Prophet (pbuh) reports that when he was old, Hisham's memory suffered quite badly. (vol 4, pg 301 - 302)

According to the generally accepted tradition, Ayesha (ra) was born about eight years before Hijrah. But according to another narrative in Bukhari (kitabu'l-tafseer) Ayesha (ra) is reported to have said that at the time Surah Al-Qamar, the 54th chapter of the Qur'an, was revealed, "I was a young girl". The 54th surah of the Qur'an was revealed nine years before Hijrah. According to this tradition, Ayesha (ra) had not only been born before the revelation of the referred surah, but was actually a young girl (jariyah), not an infant (sibyah) at that time. Obviously, if this narrative is held to be true, it is in clear contradiction with the narratives reported by Hisham ibn `urwah. I see absolutely no reason that after the comments of the experts on the narratives of Hisham ibn `urwah, why we should not accept this narrative to be more accurate.

According to a number of narratives, Ayesha (ra) accompanied the Muslims in the battle of Badr and Uhud. Furthermore, it is also reported in books of hadith and history that no one under the age of 15 years was allowed to take part in the battle of Uhud. All the boys below 15 years of age were sent back. Ayesha's (ra) participation in the battle of Badr and Uhud clearly indicate that she was not nine or ten years old at that time. After all, women used to accompany men to the battle fields to help them, not to be a burden on them.

According to almost all the historians Asma (ra), the elder sister of Ayesha (ra) was ten years older than Ayesha (ra). It is reported in Taqri'bu'l-tehzi'b as well as Al-bidayah wa'l-nihayah that Asma (ra) died in 73 hijrah when she was 100 years old. Now, obviously if Asma (ra) was 100 years old in 73 hijrah she should have been 27 or 28 years old at the time of hijrah. If Asma (ra) was 27 or 28 years old at the time of hijrah, Ayesha (ra) should have been 17 or 18 years old at that time. Thus, Ayesha (ra), if she got married in 1 AH (after hijrah) or 2 AH, was between 18 to 20 years old at the time of her marriage.

Tabari in his treatise on Islamic history, while mentioning Abu Bakr (ra) reports that Abu Bakr had four children and all four were born during the Jahiliyyah -- the pre Islamic period. Obviously, if Ayesha (ra) was born in the period of jahiliyyah, she could not have been less than 14 years in 1 AH -- the time she most likely got married.

According to Ibn Hisham, the historian, Ayesha (ra) accepted Islam quite some time before Umar ibn Khattab (ra). This shows that Ayesha (ra) accepted Islam during the first year of Islam. While, if the narrative of Ayesha's (ra) marriage at seven years of age is held to be true, Ayesha (ra) should not have been born during the first year of Islam.

Tabari has also reported that at the time Abu Bakr planned on migrating to Habshah (8 years before Hijrah), he went to Mut`am -- with whose son Ayesha (ra) was engaged -- and asked him to take Ayesha (ra) in his house as his son's wife. Mut`am refused, because Abu Bakr had embraced Islam, and subsequently his son divorced Ayesha (ra). Now, if Ayesha (ra) was only seven years old at the time of her marriage, she could not have been born at the time Abu Bakr decided on migrating to Habshah. On the basis of this report it seems only reasonable to assume that Ayesha (ra) had not only been born 8 years before hijrah, but was also a young lady, quite prepared for marriage.

According to a narrative reported by Ahmad ibn Hanbal, after the death of Khadijah (ra), when Khaulah (ra) came to the Prophet (pbuh) advising him to marry again, the Prophet (pbuh) asked her regarding the choices she had in her mind. Khaulah said: "You can marry a virgin (bikr) or a woman who has already been married (thayyib)". When the Prophet (pbuh) asked about who the virgin was, Khaulah proposed Ayesha's (ra) name. All those who know the Arabic language, are aware that the word "bikr" in the Arabic language is not used for an immature nine year old girl. The correct word for a young playful girl, as stated earlier is "Jariyah". "Bikr" on the other hand, is used for an unmarried lady, and obviously a nine year old is not a "lady".

According to Ibn Hajar, Fatimah (ra) was five years older than Ayesha (ra). Fatimah (ra) is reported to have been born when the Prophet (pbuh) was 35 years old. Thus, even if this information is taken to be correct, Ayesha (ra) could by no means be less than 14 years old at the time of hijrah, and 15 or 16 years old at the time of her marriage.

These are some of the major points that go against accepting the commonly known narrative regarding Ayesha's (ra) age at the time of her marriage.

Neither was it an Arab tradition to give away girls in marriage at an age as young as nine or ten years, nor did the Prophet (pbuh) marry Ayesha (ra) at such a young age. The people of Arabia did not object to this marriage, because it never happened in the manner it has been narrated.
 

misalat

Junior Member
:ma:

how ignorant i could have been on this subject ... mashaa Allah, i think our brothers great study on the subject is excellent and authentic based on the clear explainations ... :ma: brother may Allah reward you for the hard work.
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
Assalamu alaykum,

I dont like the way it starts the article with:

Some people believe that...


When this is in accordance with authentic narrations and also is the view of the Majority of the Scholars of the past, and is something that Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) Herself told us in Authentic hadith!

'Aa'ishah, may God be pleased with her, narrated that the Prophet<May the Peace and Blessings of God be upon him> was betrothed (zawaj) to her when she was six years old and he consummated (nikah) his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years. (Saheeh al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64)

Please See the Following :

The Young Marriage of 'Aa'ishah, The Mother of the Believers.

Also, a lot of the article that is mentioned provides No evidence. Simply saying that so and so scholar said this or that is not evidence. It must be provided properly. In reality, this was not even an issue! The age of Aisha (RA) is only an issue NOW. Due to the way people and culture have changed through time. Infact, it was very normal - a non-issue in many cultures of the time, and even for 1000s of years before that time.

This is what people must realise and understand, inshaAllah. I dont have to go over this as it is talked about in detail in the article given in the link above. We should stick to the Authentic hadith and sayings and not be influenced by those who are weak in their faith and simply wish to please those who want to destroy our beautiful and perfect Deen. What we need in our ummah is men and women of Gheerah (honour and integrity) that choose to follow and stick to the authentic narrations rather than try and find fault in what is faultless. May Allah make us amongst those who are keen to preserve Islam.

Anyway, rather than debating these issues we must focus on increasin our knowledge of Tawheed and Aqeedah, and educating our families and friends of this. For it is with the sound foundation that everything else will follow inshaAllah!

Wasalam
 

OnlyOne

Junior Member
Assalamualaykum Wa Rahmatullah

I appreciate your research on this subject, but i must add that i had heard different stories and explanations other than yours from many reliable sources, including Sheikh Anwar Al-Awlaki who has done extraordinary work on many different subjects such as the Life of the Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) and much more, as i will continue to do research on this, I will keep you posted inshAllah.

Assalamualaykum Wa Rahmatullah
 

Abu Hannah

Slave of Allah
:salam2:

Mabsoot has a very valid point. The article does only quote scholars and in reality doesn't really quote any sahih hadith proof. This article was meant to be food for thought. Thanks for the feedback all.

:wasalam:
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,


All I know is the Prophet had a dream. He knew it was a gift from Allah. He married her. ( Bukahri ). The Holy Prophet swas followed Allah. Alhumdulilah.
 
:salam2: I still think this is a great article even if some might have a diffrent view. Bukhari and all were human beings they were recording an age .If i say 99 % of everything that imam bukhari recorded is correct. But there could be a 1% chance of an error . People some times make mistake with there grand parents age you forget about somebody you have not even seen.
 

halah

Junior Member
Assalamu alaykum,

I dont like the way it starts the article with:

Some people believe that...


When this is in accordance with authentic narrations and also is the view of the Majority of the Scholars of the past, and is something that Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) Herself told us in Authentic hadith!

'Aa'ishah, may God be pleased with her, narrated that the Prophet<May the Peace and Blessings of God be upon him> was betrothed (zawaj) to her when she was six years old and he consummated (nikah) his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years. (Saheeh al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64)

Please See the Following :

The Young Marriage of 'Aa'ishah, The Mother of the Believers.

Also, a lot of the article that is mentioned provides No evidence. Simply saying that so and so scholar said this or that is not evidence. It must be provided properly. In reality, this was not even an issue! The age of Aisha (RA) is only an issue NOW. Due to the way people and culture have changed through time. Infact, it was very normal - a non-issue in many cultures of the time, and even for 1000s of years before that time.

This is what people must realise and understand, inshaAllah. I dont have to go over this as it is talked about in detail in the article given in the link above. We should stick to the Authentic hadith and sayings and not be influenced by those who are weak in their faith and simply wish to please those who want to destroy our beautiful and perfect Deen. What we need in our ummah is men and women of Gheerah (honour and integrity) that choose to follow and stick to the authentic narrations rather than try and find fault in what is faultless. May Allah make us amongst those who are keen to preserve Islam.

Anyway, rather than debating these issues we must focus on increasin our knowledge of Tawheed and Aqeedah, and educating our families and friends of this. For it is with the sound foundation that everything else will follow inshaAllah!

Wasalam
:ma:

I do Agree with this opinion,

Knowing that Aa'iesha the Mother of the believers was 9 or15 or 18 ,Is this make a big difference?
 

nyerekareem

abdur-rahman
:salam2:


many non-muslims try to use the prophet's :saw: marriage to aisha (ra) in order to embarass us; and what's upsetting is that there are many muslims are ashamed or are trying to up aisha's (ra) to 30 years old in order to please these people. there are certain things that have to be understood.

1. when the prophet :saw: asked for her hand in marriage, her wali/her father abu bakr (ra) didn't say that the messenger :saw: was " sick " he said " but you are my brother " and the prophet :saw: replied " you are my brother in islam, but she is permissable for me to marry. " Abu Bakr (ra ) and the messenger :saw: were so close that Abu Bakr (ra ) felt he was his blood brother. he didn't say because she was too young. there was no reason for him to deny the prophet's :saw: offer.

2. in that period of time, womanhood was considered once a female began her menses. this is when the female becomes capable of bearing children. older americans can tell you that around 50+ years ago if you weren't engaged by fifteen or married by eighteen you were considered an old maid.

3. the average lifespans of individuals was around 40 years old for many. so it is only natural for people to have been married early. they didn't have the lifespans that we have today.

4. the 9 or 10 year old in the prophet's time :saw: was much more mature than the 9 year olds of today. they had a good example of a mother at home. they were raised to be wives and mothers. families were large and very often a person at aisha's age had experience with raising children. they knew how to clothe a child, feed a child, they knew how to cook, clean and be responsible. we can't really say that of girls in today's world.

5. read any of the 1000 plus quotes of aisha ( ra ) and you will realize that she wasn't a little girl. she was very mature and very knowledgable. more knowledgable than we could ever be. her experiences and the wisdom she gained from the prophet:saw: has helped the ummah grow. she (ra) shared precious jewels with us. she ( ra ) could've kept them to herself if she wanted to.

6. she i.e. aisha is the mother of the believers, she had to be special for so many people much older than her to give her that title and for people to still call her that today.

7. she was an excellent example of how a muslim woman should be, and has been an inspiration to millions of muslim women around the world.

in conclusion, debating her age of marriage is no longer relevant today. because times have changed. when the facts are shown to the unbelievers they will understand that times in fact do change and that the people were blameless at that time. and they'll understand why she is called ummul muumineen.
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
ASAK,

First of all I’m not trying to put someone down here. I definitely agree that there are many people in this forum who are far more knowledgeable than I’m. but this is my point of view on this topic.
i have a completely different point of view on this subject. Even i had given a thought on this subject but later i thought how is this gonna help me in improving my IMAN. Ayesha (RA) was beloved wife of Prophet (PBUH), and she is the mother of UMMAH. thats all i think has to be understood on this. i've seen completely different article earlier in the same forum abt 6 months back abt the age of Ayesha (RA)

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2585


Iin my point of view doing research on any topic in islam is very good but prioritize the topics in accordance with its importance in our life. I had even heard that two guys in Egypt kept on arguing and doing research on how ALLAH SWT comes down to the first heaven during the last third part of the night. Infact this is not much of importance that HOW ALLAH SWT comes to the first heaven but what is important here is ALLAH SWT comes down as it is said in quran and do your prayers and supplication during your last part of the night.

Similarly in this topic we ofcourse we should know this answer as it is one of the most FAQ put on muslim while one is talking to a non-muslim and sometimes muslims as well while discussing islam.... but in my opinion something from which there is not much improvement in ones aqeedah should not be encouraged, but given a second priority.

Hope i did not hurt anybody's feelings.....wallahi this is just my opinion. i'm very weak in iman so there is a very high probability that i'm completely wrong. Any critiism will be accepted with brotherhood.

JAK

:wasalam:

Its Ok, I had to delete your post. . .due to very strange server problem. It was dated: 08-19-2007, 06:51 AM.. and so it comes out on top of the forum page.. So, I quoted your post in full above.. Unfortunately, I can not change the dates on posts... so this is the only way to fix. and inshaAllah, you will concur it is what you wrote and not changed lol.

wasalam.
 
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