Sad news

[zainsmommy]

Assalamu Aleikom

My husband called me early this morning and told me that his father has died in a car accident. My husband is EXTREMELY upset. He has not seen his father in six years because he was here in the US trying to make a good life for them. His Father waitied for him everyday and now he is gone and my husband will never see him again.

I cannot stop crying for my husband. I cannot imagine how he feels. He loves his parents with everything he has in him.

I showered and prayed before fajr from my heart this morning. I prayed for Allah to have mercy on his father, forgive him his sins, to help my husband and his family in this time but I do not know what prayer I am supposed to say when someone dies? I am new and have not learned that. Can someone please help me and tell me what I can pray...what I can say to my husband that will help ease his pain a little, comfort him a little, instead of the "I'm so sorry" bit.
He is on his way home...it will take him 14 hours to get here. I did not want him to drive but he insisted. I would like to be strong for him when he calls me and for when he arrives. I would like to take him by his hand and pray with him...I just need to know how and what to pray when someone dies in Islam.

Thank You
Allah Hafiz

 

[zainsmommy]

ALSO...

I am crying also because I feel extreme guilt for my selfish thinking right now. I KNOW he has to go home to be with his Mother...I want him to be...but at the same time..I am crying for myself because I will lose my husband. He has said to forgive him because he must go take care of his mother(and both he and I know what that means)...and because they did not know about me and his son...he will go alone..and he will not come back.
I feel so horrible and selfish to be thinking of myself at a time like this. I ask Allah to fogive me...I don't know how to take these thoughts from my mind..I am sad for him, for his family and their loss...and my impending loss. I feel guilty for not appreciating every single second I spent with my husband. He has been away from me working for about three weeks now. There were times when he called and I was busy or I didn't feel like talking. I feel so guilty now. I am so sad now because I should have talked to him, I should have made time because now...within days...I will lose the man that I love and that time, I will never be able to get back.
If any of you are married...please cherish every single second you are with your spouse...every single second you have with your Mother and your Father and your children because when you least expect it...it can all be taken away from you.
Allah knows best..

 

[salimkad]

Supplications for the deceased

O Allaah, forgive and have mercy upon him, excuse him and pardon him, and make honorable his reception. Expand his entry, and cleanse him with water, snow, and ice, and purify him of sin as a white robe is purified of filth. Exchange his home for a better home, and his family for a better family, and his spouse for a better spouse. Admit him into the Garden, protect him from the punishment of the grave and the torment of the Fire.’

‘O Allaah, forgive our living and our dead, those present and those absent, our young and our old, our males and our females. O Allaah, whom amongst us You keep alive, then let such a life be upon Islaam, and whom amongst us You take unto Yourself, then let such a death be upon faith. O Allaah, do not deprive us of his reward and do not let us stray after him’.

‘O Allaah, so-and-so is under Your care and protection so protect him from the trial of the grave and torment of the Fire. Indeed You are faithful and truthful. Forgive and have mercy upon him, surely You are The Oft-Forgiving, The Most-Merciful’.

‘O Allaah, Your servant and the son of Your maidservant is in need of Your mercy and You are without need of his punishment. If he was righteous then increase his reward and if he was wicked then look over his sins.’

 

[farhopes]

So sorry

Assalamo alikom, dear sister.

So sorry to know that. May Allah grant you, your husband and your in-laws patience and consolations. May Allah bestow His great Mercy on your father-in-law and make his eternal abode much better than this temporary one.:tti_sister:

 

[Mahzala]

Death - an inevetable reality

:salam2:

Dearest sister,

May you find peace and comfort and may you be rewarded for the patience at this time of loss. It is hard, we all lose family members one way or another and the hardest thing is bearing their absence for the rest of our lives ... for ever.. I feel you..

 

[ama6621]

Assalam Alaikum
Dear Sister, May Allah bestow His Mercy and Favours upon you and your family. Insha Allah some day you find good in this also. We do not know or sometimes even understand Allah's plan for us. But doesn't it always turn out to be the best for us? Have patience. It will all work out Insha Allah.
May Allah SWT forgive your father in law and grant him paradise. Ameen.

Assalam Alaikum

 

[Sunnit]

salam alejkom.

only thing we can do is dua.
keep your head up and be strong.

surah al baqara 002:155
And We will most certainly try you with somewhat of fear and hunger and loss of property and lives and fruits; and give good news to the patient

 

[halah]

Asslamu alaikum sister,
I got upset when I know that someone missed his or her beloved parents or any of them because I experienced that twice with my Mom and my Dad so Iknow how painful it is ,
Seek the help from Allah and Ask Him to srengthen your faith.
May Allah grant your father in law the highest rank of paradise and forgive all his sins(Ameen).

 

[misalat]

:salam2: dear sister,

May Allah grant you, your husband and your in-laws patience and consolations. May Allah bestow His great Mercy upon your father-in-law and make his eternal abode much better than this temporary one.... Amin!

 

[IslamIsLight]

salam aleikum
Sister why cant u follow him
He is your husband dont let him leave u ,go there to him whereever he is ...

waaleikum salam

 

[Saifu deen]

:salam2:

May Allah have mercy on your father in-law, and grant him Janatul Al-fardous. Amiin. May Allah (swt) help you and your husband in this difficult time.. Ask Allah (swt) to ease the situation for you, surly Allah (swt) Al-Rahman Al-Raheem.

 

[zainsmommy]

jazakallahu khair

All of your responses mean a lot to me and I am so grateful.
Thank you all so much for your kind words and prayers for my father-in-law. May Allah reward you!

Insha'Allah we will pass through this tests and be better because of it.

Allah Hafiz

 

[Imad]

Assalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wbarakatuh,

Ina lilahi waina ileihi Raji3oen. May Allah have mercy on your father in law. May Allah give you and your familie in law Sabr, amien.

I think sister Aisha is right. And Allah knows best.

salam aleikum
Sister why cant u follow him
He is your husband dont let him leave u ,go there to him whereever he is ...

waaleikum salam

Wassalmoealaikoem warahmatullahi wbarakatuh,

Imad

 

[Bluegazer]

Assalamu Alaikum sister zainsmommy,


I ask Allah the Merciful to forgive your father-in-law his sins and admit him to the highest degrees of Paradise, and to help your husband, you and the whole family in this crisis.


Aameen.


Please consider the following verses of the Qur'an:

And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sâbirûn (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly! To Allâh we belong and truly, to Him we shall return." They are those on whom are the Salawât (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 2:155-157]


Regards,

Bluegazer

Wassalamu Alaikum

 

[zainsmommy]

I am not planning on leaving him.

The situation is complicated. He has never told anyone in his family about our marriage and son yet. I don't believe, from talking to him, he ever had any intentions of telling them. It would cause to much hurt for his mother and because of culture, he did not want to be forced to choose between us and them.
I was upset but have come to accept this.
SO now this happens and he MUST go to his mother, I understand and I want him to be with her. He said this to me in a way that we talked about a long time ago...that when/if he ever goes back, he will not return...
Anyway, even if he wants too he most probably will not be allowed to enter back in the US.
It is long and complicated...but that is why I wrote that.

 

[Abdul-Raheem]

:salam2:

May Allah (Glory be to Him) make your beloved Father-in-law among the Righteous in the Eternal Gardens of Paradise and may He grant you all patience and mercy in this difficult time, Ameen

wasalam

 

[meer suhail]

sad news sister

:salam2:

we sincerly hope that Allah help u in this time of tragedy ,and give u patience in this hour ,,,,,,

2:153. O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salât (the prayer). Truly! Allâh is with As-Sâbirûn (the patient).

156. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly! To Allâh we belong and truly, to Him we shall return."

 

[meer suhail]

o

:salam2:

o i read this part ,all i have to say is dont let him go alone ,,follow him if u dont he might never tell them and may be not correct time ,but the sooner the better for them to know ,,,,,and thats ur right

 

[loveislam1]

Asalam alikoum sister
May ALLAH subhana wa ta'ala forgive him and grant him pradaise ameen
From ALlah we come and to HIM we shall return,

Sister I know this is a hard time for you and your husband but I had to comment on your situation..... when your husband married you ( I am assuming islamically) you and your son have rights over him just as his mother has rights over him, you seemed to have agreed with the situation however it is unfair decision you both made on behalf of your child. Subhanallah.

Please reconsider and talk to him about making it known to his mother La howell la qawataa illah billah atheem. I would also find out the validity of a marriage that is kept secret if it is even considered invalid islamically if the community has not been informed and I would suppose that a community would include the parents??

Wow sorry sister but I am seriously jsut in shock of things that women allow to happen to them subhanallah, your husband needs to be a man and step up to the responsibility as son AND husband AND father

 

[shaheeda35]

:salam2:
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi Raji' oon!!
I am so sorry to hear about your father in law. We all have a time on this earth and it was his time by Allah's Qadr. We should cherish every day, every second, and every minute of our lives for we do not know when Allah will call us. I lost both my parents, and its not easy, mashallah. Just remember dear sister to be strong for your husband and patient, time heals all wounds. May Allah forgive him his sins, make his grave spacious and may Allah have mercy on him and grant you Sabr in this difficult time, Ameen!!:tti_sister: :tti_sister: