thank you for reading through the post fraulein matouf,
statement 1:
"in Islam adult women have to ask for permit (be it their husband if married or their father or any other male) to make certain decisions - for example to work or the freedom to decide where to go to and whom to meet?"
answer: a woman does not need permission for these matters. in islam it is a practice that these above mentioned matters are
DISCUSSED by husband and wife rather than requiring permission. this is because the family is a very strong unit in islam and attention to children comes first and foremost. i come from a muslim family. before my mother's marriage, when she graduated from her university, she ANNOUNCED her decision to work for Merck. and it was well received and supported by her father.
how can you make such a statement when you can see thousands of muslim women working in the field?
answer: in islam, a man HAS to provide for his family. a woman does not. she can put her feet up and say FEED ME to her husband. and her husband will have to comply because it is required that he should be the breadwinner. the woman can relax. if she WANTS to work, it is fine. if she DOES NOT WANT to work, it is fine.
statement 2: corporal punishment in marriage is not allowed.
and yet many german men get drunk and beat their wives. can you answer for those christians? in islam, if you read the verse again, it says that 1st step: admonish them if they do something bad. and if they are in their bad habit: Leave them in their beds for a short while. and yet still they do not reconsider ONLY THEN can you beat them. beating is only a last step, not the first step and that too if the woman is so trashy that it is the only way.
if a woman was so slutty that she continually elopes behind her husband's back, she constantly ignores her children's cries, she is a whore who publicly flirts with other men and constantly brings bad repute to her family. first you tried admonishing her, then you tried leaving her in her bed, what would be the last step you took?
if you didn't correct this sort of a woman, you just let her go then there is very good chance that she will seduce your own husband or boyfriend causing your own family or relationship to break up. and this is exactly why families break up in Duetschland. why? because you didn't beat and correct the adultress! no my sister, beating is only a last resort, only done if a woman is so filthy and so bad that there is no other way.
other than that, if a woman is good, she is a good person, a good human being, then no problem. no beatings, no scoldings whatsoever. she can do whatever she wants.
statement 3: The rules for divorce are the same for both, men and women
answer: before 1875, a german woman could not get a divorce, after 1875 she could only get a divorce if the couple was previously entitled to a religious "perpetual separation order". in traditional christianity, there is no concept of divorce, thus the phrase "till death do us part". then what are you bragging about?
islam gave the right to divorce 1430 years ago. a muslim woman 1430 years ago, could initiate a divorce from her husband. a german woman 1430 years ago could
not divorce her husband no matter what.
statement 4: A woman can marry anyone she wants, regardless her partners religion
answer: in islam the husband is required to feed and clothe his wife. the food must be halal. a non muslim husband will put non-kosher food (or non halal) on the table. so she will have to eat non-halal food which is not allowed in islam. a husband might abuse our Prophet (PBUH) and his muslim wife while under islam a muslim cannot abuse Jesus (pbuh). every muslim is required to respect jesus otherwise they are non-muslims. a non-circumsized penis is the major cause of cervical cancer. every muslim male is required to be circumsized for the sake of the female's health.
a muslim male can only marry a believing christian or jew. not a secular one who just says it on the tongue but doesnt put it in practice. muslim men cannot marry atheists/agnostics.
statement 5: The issue of legal islamic child marriages is another one. Back then it was common also in non-Muslim communities.
answer: when it was common in non-muslim communities then what are you so proud about? is islam a child CAN marry when they are adolescent. not HAVE TO marry.
in germany the age of consent is 18. this is an arbitary number assigned by a bunch of old men. and this is why your 13 year old daughters and sisters are getting seduced and laid before marriage. can you stop this from happening in germany? this is what is happening to your daughters and sisters.
if a child should not be married before 18 years old, why are they having sex before that? why are your daughters and sisters getting seduced and hurt before that? can you justify that? i can tell you the answer: because your courts didn't allow boys and girls to marry when they are adolescent. now they are having sex with one another in school. this is what is happening to your daughters and sisters and mothers. i take off my hat to you. this is what your courts have achieved.
statement 6: "They usually have more money and assets then women. Hence, the cases in which women have to share their money/assets with men are rare. In fact, much more common is the opposite case. If marriage fails, usually the men have to share much more money than women."
answer: and yet this didnot happen in germany before 1875. what your courts have achieved only recently, was achieved by islam 1430 years ago. your german husbands have a claim in your wealth. and your women have a claim in their husbands wealth.
in islam a woman's wealth is her own, no man can have any claim in it, whether large or small. a woman has a claim in her husband's wealth no matter what. this is not injustice to men, this is equality for women because there are some rights men enjoy over women, and some rights women enjoy over men. remember, equal rights does not mean identical rights
statement 7: Both partners (he as well as she) do very well have the legal obligation to sustain each other. Each appropriate to their individual ability. Also, it's more a nice theory rather than reality, that in the average muslim partnership, the wife does not contribute (if she works) her income to the family.
answer: no. this is not wrong. it is a privilege given by islam to the women. is islam only the men have to provide food and shelter for the family, the women do not have to do that.
women have a choice: if they want to work and contribute her income for the family, she can do that. if she wants to keep her income for herself, no husband can force her to do to contribute to the family.
statement 8: And often she also gives voluntarily even her dowry.
answer: please notice the word
voluntarily. islam does not
require a woman to give dowry. it is
not necessary for the woman to give dowry. this is a privilege for the woman.
misconception 8: But as much as I know about Islamic law, she has no legal right to get back the dowry in case of divorce. I am not sure about this, though.
answer: yes u r right , you are not sure about this. is Islamic law, she keeps her Mehr (research this fraulein!) and no man can take this from her, even in case of divorce.
statement 9: "I don't say it's perfect"
answer: well when you yourself its not perfect then what are you bragging on about.
"but certainly not worse (if even) than in Islam"
if you make this statement, them please show your proof. if it is not perfect, then how is it better than islam? when islam is saying that a woman can rest at home, her husband has a duty to feed her and provide for her, she can work if she wants to, she can not work if she wants to. so how can you say that your system is better, when most of the time its not perfect and you and i know why.
statement 10: In opposite to Islamic law, she also doesn't lose custody of her child automatically after the child reaches a certain age, as well as it doesn't matter, if the mother is Muslim or not when it comes to divorce and who get's the custody.
answer: in Islam, the child custody goes to the parent who can provide better for the child. who can feed, clothe, and educate the child better.
all in all, please keep in mind that it is
because of Islam that divorce rates are so much lower in Islamic countries than in Europe.
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