dianek
Junior Member
Salaam,
Thank you sister Gazkour & sister Diane for the useful information. It enlightened my limited knowledge.
I'm curious -sister Diane, as a Muslim since you've experienced and paid for the weddings, would you prefer a small or big wedding if you were not married and your husband was willing to pay for it?
Sister Diane just be careful when you say that it seems prostitutional. Some young people might take your message the wrong way. It's your God given right as a Muslim woman. It's a favor & blessing given to you by Allah swt. BTW, diamond rings don't buy love, it's all cultural!
Salaam! My western dialect and mindset shining through there...didn't mean disrespect but that as a western woman to me, it is like being bought.....if that makes sense.
I was not Muslim when I married....my first marriage was in an art gallery over a restaurant/bar in the city with a sit down dinner for about 14 people (cost was like $1500 total including my dress etc.).....after that for my "reception" we went to night club for dancing........
My second marriage, to my muslim husband, we were married by a woman minister in her home, just the 2 of us and then we did a "reception" a few days later on a Friday evening with a pasta bar and wet bar (funny now to look back at that as most of those in attendance were muslims but they sure knocked back the drinks.) and that was only like $500.....
What I regret was not having (at that time) my big church wedding and reception but spending all that $$$$ makes no sense when you have so much other stuff it could be better spent on (housing etc.).......what I didn't really have either time was a real HONEYMOON!!!!!! So I am still waiting for my hubby to take me to the Bahamas!!!!!! (I have been but with my girlfriends).
About the ring......just so you know, it does not buy love, my engagement ring from Imed was bought on ebay, I picked it out because I was afraid to seem like I wanted too much and that would shame me, we bought it for $129.00..........since then I have received a new wedding set of rings that are much nicer........love first but it is nice to have a beautiful ring to show he cares......