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Tabassum07, if it is destiny, it will happen, no matter what, no matter the circus, no matter the ups and downs. And the same, even if it is not. But what makes that experience different is how much our hearts are dependent on the matter, how much we let it define our happiness, and how much we set our focus on it. The strength comes when it is a circus and you come out of it feeling slightly unmoved and not shattered entirely. And if you're shattered, you've not understood it as the means to your end, rather you've set your heart on something which was never yours to begin with, you invested all your happiness in it, all your hopes, thinking life was beginning there ... but it wasn't. That was just another tool, another thing to toy with you. And yet, when it doesn't happen and you can safely say, without a knot in your throat, that Allah is sufficient for me, then that is strength. And if it does happen, sometimes even against our wishes and our ideals, our response should still be one to embrace it, as that too is from Allah, even the circus, even the drama. And when you come out of it, you can only say and conclude that everything happens for a reason.
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muslimah_05, sister, culturally these things are hard, conservative upbringings do not allow us this right, even if we have grown up in very understanding families, your own values will not let you approach your parents in a manner to disagree with them. But remember, Islam
has given you this right, and there is no right stronger than this one. Use it, Allah has given you this opportunity, this mind to make your reasoning and justify it. May your affairs be set straight in accordance with your khair and His pleasure