trying2learn
Junior Member
Hello,
I am facing a problem in the next few months. I am pregnant with a son that is due to arrive in September. This is my third child, and my husband's fifth. Now there is almost 10 years (and more) between my husbands first two children and my three children. Everyone, including my american (christian) family and his arab (muslim) family has expressed their concern over us having a 5th child, and the financial issues that come with each child. All of them have asked if I was going to have surgery to make it so I cannot have any more children, even my husband has expressed his desire for me to have this surgery. Now here is my problem, I do not want to have the surgery, I feel blessed that I am able to carry and bring forth children becuase not every woman has this ability. And I feel very strongly I should not have surgery to stop a process that is so natural. I do not know what to do, I do not want the surgery but my husband (along with everyone else) wants me to have it. What is the islamic way to go about this? Thank you so much.
I wanted to add, that according to the doctors when I was younger I was never medically supposed to be able to have children and I prayed for years and my prayers were answered and I became a mother, so it makes this even harder for me because I feel that Allah answered my prayers and I do not want to undo his gift to me.
I am facing a problem in the next few months. I am pregnant with a son that is due to arrive in September. This is my third child, and my husband's fifth. Now there is almost 10 years (and more) between my husbands first two children and my three children. Everyone, including my american (christian) family and his arab (muslim) family has expressed their concern over us having a 5th child, and the financial issues that come with each child. All of them have asked if I was going to have surgery to make it so I cannot have any more children, even my husband has expressed his desire for me to have this surgery. Now here is my problem, I do not want to have the surgery, I feel blessed that I am able to carry and bring forth children becuase not every woman has this ability. And I feel very strongly I should not have surgery to stop a process that is so natural. I do not know what to do, I do not want the surgery but my husband (along with everyone else) wants me to have it. What is the islamic way to go about this? Thank you so much.
I wanted to add, that according to the doctors when I was younger I was never medically supposed to be able to have children and I prayed for years and my prayers were answered and I became a mother, so it makes this even harder for me because I feel that Allah answered my prayers and I do not want to undo his gift to me.